Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

DH has taken DS to meet Peppa Pig and I’m lying in bed crying because I was so excited and looking forward to taking him but can’t stop being sick long enough to get ready 😢

Test...not super strong but definitely there.

I’m about 14dpo, blood is bright red but atm just when wiping. Just been throwing up again, I feel so ill. Will try and post picture of test....

Maryshelley - what a rollercoaster! Are you fully bleeding or just spotting? And how dark was your bfp? What dpo are you?

Well I woke up this morning and vomited everywhere....threw up again 15mins after that so took a test which was positive!
Unfortunately I’ve also woken up to bleeding so doesn’t look like it’s sticking unfortunately 😪

Im toooo feeling like im ovulating.....pain in the hips...cramps....excessive discharge....but its wierd cuz when i did the 21 day blood test...it came out i wasnt ovulating...how does that work??

@Cleozeta I get migraines around af and ov... think hormones too

Busy day today, shopping, washing v dull but was at eldest daughters graduation yesterday and managed to not bump in the ex once.. so absolute bonus.. today older daughter no 2 got artsy with me.... government legislation has written off 2.5 billion outstanding csa payments that are overdue.. my delightful ex being one of those... 8 years I have waited for back dated arrears.. and he's not happy about it having been cut in half.. he feels that as they are grown he has nothing to pay.. but whist they were aged 8,10 to 18 he has contributed zero... doesn't feel like I am entitled to anything and she feels that she should get the money!!! Well as it works out at £6.80 per child per month over that period of time.. I have informed her that she was being financially supported well beyond that sum.. 🤦‍♀️ good god he's a piece of work and she lives with him so has started being alienated against me.., so much fun... soz rant over x

@Cleo, yes I always get headaches, usually at the time of AF, but sometimes before. It’s definitely hormonal for me.

@MaryShelley1818 we went to Ascot on yesterday, and I have spent today nursing a hangover x

Does anyone else get headaches before AF? This is a new thing for me, wondering if its something hormonal

That sounds really positive Boosey!! 😊
Thank you Chatbash...I’m just having anxious jitters! I guess if I’m lucky enough to have that problem then I’ll be very lucky indeed.

What’s everyone doing this weekend? I’ve done 7hrs of gardening and got all new pots and baskets planted, cleaned the patio and yard, trimmed trees, weeded etc while 18mth old DS flew around like a loon and played with a large colony of snails 🐌
Tomorrow we’re off to the local soft play to meet the infernal Peppa Pig...then might go and feed the swans at the park x

Hugs for @Russkispy

Welcome @SwimmerGirl40

Not much to report apart from no AF yet as is usually early and have v.sore swollen boobs. No pmt. Actually feel really happy atm ..weird! Palps calmed down.

Hope everyone ok and enjoying the sun at last after so much rain
😎

I have no idea as it’s specially formulated. Doesn’t say on the bottle anything about ingredients bar DHEA.

Now I’m having my doubts it’s that as my stomach is starting to hurt again and I haven’t taken it yet today. I did have an iron infusion about a month ago and have felt pretty awful ever since. I’m now wondering if it might be due to that. Iron can cause stomach issues and I had a hell of a lot infused in one go.

Ooh @MaryShelley1818 sod them all, in the nicest way. Don't put more pressure on yourself, if you are heavily preg or feeding a new born they will all have to fall in line with the hormonal lady....
you can't put life on hold or ttc on hold either.. what will be will be and it won't be the end of the world... plans always change.

Well I haven’t taken it yet todaynd have had no stomach pain. So my theory seems to be correct.

Sheshoots - I take it at mealtimes, never had a problem with it.

I’m taking DHEA in capsule form prescribed by my (private) doctor, no idea of the doseage. Is anyone else who is taking it finding it’s making them feel nauseous, stomach achy? They suggest taking it in the morning on an empty stomach but Ive decided to take it before bed instead as I just can’t deal with the low level cramps anymore. It feels just like low level morning sickness and I hate it.

Welcome Swimmer ☺️

Well I’ve officially turned into an absolutely crazy POAS addict!! You would think I should know better at 41.
I’ve had very sore nipples and woke up feeling really sick this morning so excitedly took a test which was a very clear BFN! So feeling gutted and disappointed again.

We have a big family holiday planned for next October with grandparents, 2 Aunts, Uncles and cousins etc who all only booked this date because it was the best for us so I’m feeling under huge pressure to conceive in the next month or two or realistically will need to decide to stop trying or risk ruining everyone elses plans. No one knows we’re trying and I feel so guilty.

Welcome swimmer! Love that story about your gran, just goes to show, I think sometimes we put too much focus on the nitty gritty details when ttc but really it is just luck of the draw.

Welcome@SwimmerGirl40

af arrived so at least I can now crack on with new cycle and on the plus side cycle has increased from 25 to 32 days which I think is good

Could it be the vit d?

An anecdote to give you some hope - my gran had my mum when she was 44. In the days before IVF or any kind of help, probably less knowledge than us in fertile periods - no Flo App or OPKs. She also smoked (as was common in those days) and had a couple of G&Ts every night. It gives me hope when I think about it, so I thought I would share.

PS I’m not drinking or smoking but I’m just saying it to show that pregnancies can occur even in less than ideal conditions.

Morning ladies, I’m almost 41 and TTC.

14 DPO today and CD 28. My cycle can be between 26 and 30 days so not out of the woods yet but no sign of AF yet. Can’t tell DO in case we end up being disappointed again. Will be testing on Saturday, unless AF shows up in the next 2 days.

At my clinic they said the only thing proven to help egg quality is DHEA, but that isn't available here in the uk. (So clearly I got some online)