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Pregnancy test question // worries

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lovelikewinter · 30/04/2019 10:18

Hi Everyone,
I'm new here.
I think I'm pregnant, Google says I'd be about 3 weeks and 3 days.
I feel so sick at my desk off and on, waves of nausea.
Can I buy any pregnancy test to see, or does it have to be a Clear Blue 6 day early one? My period is supposed to arrive on Saturday
However, I'd rather know sooner than later because my partner doesn't want children
I never thought I did, but now I don't know. Realistically I don't think it'd be a good idea, I don't have any family apart from a mother who I don't get on with very well [I don't think it'd be fair to bring a child into that sort of environment], I have a good job but finances are a mess currently, I still can't drive and still live at home.

My boyfriend doesn't like condoms and doesn't want me on the pill. He also ended up making a point of telling me that as long as he withdrew when it wasn't my ovulation date, that ejaculation would be fine.
Now he just does it anyway, sometimes without saying anything.
So I'm really worried.
Thanks Xx

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Princesspeachy0 · 30/04/2019 11:38

Get the first response 6 days early one. Good luck OP.

MyDcAreMarvel · 30/04/2019 11:37

I doubt anything but. Frer would show a positive.

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lovelikewinter · 30/04/2019 11:30

Sorry- just checking- I definitely have to buy an early response test to get a conclusive answer?
Because standard pregnancy tests won't have the same effect?
I keep reading conflicting things like some sites say not to test early and to just wait.

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lovelikewinter · 30/04/2019 11:13

Thank you, wouldn't say you're being harsh, just words that I needed to hear. I love and care for him very deeply and don't want to lose him.

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Dlah · 30/04/2019 11:09

I don't mean to sound harsh - but if you can't have those conversations with him - stop having sex! Anyone you're in a relationship with you should be able to talk freely and openly with and discuss things like adults. It's your body and your future that may now be affected and believe me it's hard enough when you have a fantastic, stable relationship let alone one that doesn't seem very secure.

You need to start having some serious conversations and soon. Hold your head up and say your peace

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lovelikewinter · 30/04/2019 10:42

:(

I'm 25 and we have been together for a few months, but we have known each other for about 4 years and used to be best friends. He used to be with someone else when we met, but he fell out of love with her and in love with me. But we went our separate ways until a few months ago because we couldn't be together.

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VenusStarr · 30/04/2019 10:38

It's worrying you don't feel like you have any say in your own fertility or allowed to make your own decions.

How old are you? Have you been together long?

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lovelikewinter · 30/04/2019 10:36

He kept inferring that he would get a vasectomy, went as far as googling it and then nothing further. I think I feel like I can't say anything sometimes, with regard to sex/ejaculation. I don't know why.

The other day he said that he didn't want children and for me not to get any ideas.

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VenusStarr · 30/04/2019 10:32

See what the test says, don't panic yet. Might be a good prompt to start a discussion with him about how to avoid in the future, if you're sure you don't want children?

If you're definite you don't want children yet and this is a false alarm then maybe consider your contraception options.

If you are pregnant, you have time to think about what you want xx

Dlah · 30/04/2019 10:31

"He just does it anyway",

Not my place to judge but this sentence right here worries me more than anything - along with "he doesn't want me on the pill" - well if neither of you wanted children that's not his choice to make.

I appreciate you may now be pregnant but I'd be seriously considering his behaviour in what happens next

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lovelikewinter · 30/04/2019 10:28

Thanks for replying.

I'll go to the supermarket on my lunch and see what they have..

He is adamant that he doesn't want children, as he has one with a previous ex partner.

Our relationship is... well on our good days its really good days, on bad days not so much; his mental health isn't the best and it can affect mine too.

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VenusStarr · 30/04/2019 10:23

You can buy a first response early response test which may show up, especially if you're having symptoms.

With regards to your partner he clearly doesn't mind having children if he's happy to sleep with you unprotected. Why doesnt he want you taking the pill? It's not really his decision.

I don't want to make assumptions but how is your relationship in general?

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