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TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!

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Fivebyfive2 · 19/04/2019 08:39

Hi all, thought as it's Bank Holiday and thread 15 was 900 plus I'd start a new one, hope that's OK??

Copying tags from when @starkid updated them all the other day.

Hope this works as I've not created a thread before!!

@Jessikka - 28 Cycle 4
@starkid - 29 Cycle 8
@MrsAW2018 - 24 Cycle 10
@TTC34 - 34 Cycle 3
@19Bee2 - 27 Cycle 2
@MrsH497 - 32 Cycle 5
@MrsR16 - 26 Cycle 9
@Lola871 - 31 Cycle 3
@ValidUser - 29 Cycle 1
@DayDreamer1707 - 28 Cycle 6
@Flapjackered - 31 Cycle 10
@DuchessofPemberley - 32 Cycle 7
@KittieKath - 34 Cycle 6
@KatBeCool - 40 Cycle 11
@MrsMcNtobe - Cycle 6
@BabySquid - 29 Cycle 11
@Sleepyquest - 28 Cycle 2
@Granddesigns - 32 cycle 5
@Catlady31 - 31 cycle 1
@LikeTheFruit - 30 cycle 4
@Jooloo11 - 32 Cycle 3
@Daisiesandpeonies - Cycle 11
@LuckyPenguin - 34 Cycle 3
@Lizzie198 - 30 Cycle 2
@Rachel59pink - 26 Cycle 1
@Orangeloo - 31 Cycle 4
@Lemonysherbet - 31 Cycle ?
@NKB88 - Cycle 2
@Wildrabbit - Cycle 2
@Essjayycee - Cycle 1
@Hannah192 - Cycle 4
@LoMoon - Cycle 6
@Hiddenfigure - Cycle 1
@Jc88146 - Cycle 18
@Kay98 - Cycle 16
@Lottiepink - 29 Cycle 13
@Bec18x - Cycle 4
@Soda123x - 32 Cycle 2
@Aimingfor2019 - 28 Cycle 3
@Lifesforlivingandloving - 32 Cycle 1
@MotherOfShihTzus - 33 Cycle 14
@Cupcakesandglitter - 23 cycle 11
@Baby01988 - 30 Cycle 5
@Pinksunset1 - 28 cycle 4
@TonightJosephine - cycle 1
@Toobies1 - 30 Cycle 5
@Blackfriars - Cycle 4
@rosehm 28 - Cycle 1
@SophWolf - Cycle 1
@Thosethreewords - Cycle 4
@Fivebyfive2 - 30 Cycle 9
@SunnyL88 - 30 Cycle 9
@rose555 - 32 Cycle 4
@Chembecky - 32 Cycle 2
@AysLon - 31 Cycle 2
@SunStruck - 35 Cycle 2
@dahlia123 - 32 Cycle 4
@LokiCat - 28 Cycle 6
@TrulyMiss - 30 Cycle 1
@SSC92 - Cycle 1
@Bacchant - Cycle 2
@Headswim - 36 Cycle 4
@Lemurville - 32 Cycle 5
@Tropicana1 - 28 Cycle 1
@McHelenz - 30 Cycle 1

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AysLon · 20/04/2019 08:40

@Tropicana1 Thanks all! The things I did different were I switched to SevenSeas TCC supplement, used CBOPKs which stressed me out as I waited 9 days for a peak! Errr and still continued with going to the gym 3 times a week rather than taking it easy. Someone on this thread gave good advice, don't put anything off!

I'm not 100% certain yet I think I will be more certain when I take a second test in a few days. Good luck to all trying!

Chembecky · 20/04/2019 08:33

@AysLon congratulations! I'm going to test tomorrow....!

Tropicana1 · 20/04/2019 08:23

Ladies I need your help and advice!! After telling DH it was my positive opk yesterday we DTD last night but he didn't finish because he said the pressure got to him and he couldn't stay hard. Same again this morning! I don't know what to do, we've literally never had an issue like this on his part, and normally have a really active sex life so I know it probably is just the pressure but I don't know what to do or say to help him not feel it. Last night I'd put on my nice underwear and and it was all normal until I could see he was in his head about it and not actually in the moment. He says he wants to know when ovulation day is, and last night / this morning I was saying it doesn't matter and for him to just forget it and start enjoying himself again but he's just got too much in his own head about it all. Any advice?
@Fivebyfive2 @FlapJackered Hope you both had more success than me!

@AysLon congratulations! Did you do anything differently this month?

AysLon · 20/04/2019 08:13

@starkid he is out if the country till Monday! Dunno if WhatsApp is the best forum for a reveal LOL

starkid · 20/04/2019 08:07

@AysLon wow congratulations!! When are you going to tell your OH? 😊

McHelenz · 20/04/2019 07:19

@AysLon congratulations!!

EssJayyCee · 20/04/2019 07:18

Congratulations @AysLon! xx

@Crossfitgirl I've not got PCOS just PCO but it still seems to mess with everything. How long did it take you to conceive?
Do you know what you're having? Xx

MrsEG · 20/04/2019 07:12

@AysLon Congratulations!!

AysLon · 20/04/2019 06:58

Guys, 11dpo I got a bfp this morning!!! Symptoms yesterday I felt nauseous. That's it. Oh and a feeling at the back of my throat like I was getting a cold. No sore boobs, no cramps, no dizziness! You are the first people I have told!

TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!
KatBeCool · 20/04/2019 04:19

@daisiesandpeonies sounds like Clomid has your name written all over it, judging by what you're describing.

@FlapJackered my DH didn't believe me that overheating their "parts" will kill the sperm and would take hot baths almost daily. Until he did his own research, no more hot baths. Men think they are invincible and we know nothing about how their bodies work. Granted one bike ride won't kill all of them, but you don't want a horde of crippled sperm clogging up the way.

Lemonysherbet · 20/04/2019 00:46

Thanks @fivebyfive2 for setting up the new thread. Actually glad I'm waiting again to TTC, having a tough time lately with the old MH and battling a super anxious spell. Hooray for sunshine trying to help me heal! Hope you're all having a lovely long weekend :)

Crossfitgirl · 19/04/2019 22:27

@essjaycee fellow PCOSer here x

ValidUser · 19/04/2019 22:27

No @Crossfitgirl. That's only for when I injure my back and this month after my op! 😂

Crossfitgirl · 19/04/2019 22:26

@validuser I'm good thanks, made it to 24 weeks and tomorrow we are starting buying big things (the pram) to freak us out and make it all real. Are you still on the syringes? I heard talk about syringes earlier! Xxx

ValidUser · 19/04/2019 22:14

Thank you lovely people!

@EssJayyCee not PCOS, but I've lost a tube to appendicitis and it's been in there ruining my chances. Got the hydrosalpinx out and this is my first cycle with any chance. I feel your pain more generically!

@Crossfitgirl how are you and bump? So glad you popped in! Xxx

Crossfitgirl · 19/04/2019 21:25

Also, @validuser... That bitch. Sorry she showed up. As @flapjackered says, still early days, if you sort of technically consider this to be cycle 2 of being all optimal :-) but frustrating all the same.

Xxx

Crossfitgirl · 19/04/2019 21:22

Just checking in so I can keep an eye on you all 🧐 good luck to everyone this cycle.

@fivebyfive2 just keep on at him, I think it takes consistent telling of the DHs to actually sink in that there's a window. it's hard to balance the "not too much pressure" , but "THIS IS THE WINDOW!" lol. I had to keep reminding mine literally every month! Don't put too much pressure on yourself either, be kind to yourself :-) xxx

Tropicana1 · 19/04/2019 20:45

@Fivebyfive2 sorry that your DH is being like that! I tried to initiate earlier this afternoon and DH said "later" ffs, so now sat here with a glass of wine waiting to see if later happens, and I can't even say anything because of his performance issue on Thursday night! So impatient because I've got my static and just want to bloody DTD

McHelenz · 19/04/2019 19:44

@lokicat I want a Cosatto haha. I start looking at prams and clothes as soon as a I get broody

LokiCat · 19/04/2019 19:37

@ValidUser so sorry AF arrived for you!

@McHelenz I've clearly been looking at prams, etc too much as I now get advertisement banners for them when I visit other sites 🙈🙈

Fivebyfive2 · 19/04/2019 19:35

@flapjackered, sorry to hear his swimmers may be incapacitated tonight!! Oh my, a syringe... Now there's an idea 😳

I wouldn't have minded so much if he'd been a bit more upfront about it, maybe told me I was making it pressured or even that he's not feeling it or whatever.. It is that he says he wants to try again right away, that he's up for dtd on the Good days etc... Then I come home to find him in a ratty t-shirt and pants, playing ps4, farting away on the sofa... 'I ate too much cake, I'm soooo tired'!!! Am actually laughing at the situation now, it's so bloody ridiculous!!

Anyway, I've just told him that I'm sorry if I've been pressuring him, that it's only because I want it so badly and also that I'm taking that my body seems to be back on track so quickly must be positive sign etc. That I'll try to chill a bit, but could he please make an effort during the window... We'll see how it goes.

I'll be amazed if it happens tonight now, maybe tomorrow but will probably be too late then. Am already mentally on to next cycle, maybe no opks and a return to the Every Room challenge?! 😛

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LokiCat · 19/04/2019 19:35

@Fivebyfive2 I felt exactly the same last month! We had our mc in March, so I mentioned that it is likely I will be more fertile/hormonal the cycle after, which he was on board for. However DH decided to sign up to more overtime during the month and so was tired when he was home, so we missed it completely.
He said he was feeling pressure and needed to clear his head after the mc, hence tried to escape it by working more 🤦🏻‍♀️ Similarly to MrsEG I didn't even think about how it would affect him.. I think DTD also become more of a chore rather than something fun..
I wish men would talk rather than trying to push the feelings away.

I'm just glad we're back on the same page now. @MrsEG I've agreed to stop using the word ovulate now as well! I think it may be a trigger for them 🙈

FlapJackered · 19/04/2019 19:24

@ValidUser so sorry for AF. Remember you are only on cycle 2 after your op, so it's early days. ❤️

FlapJackered · 19/04/2019 19:23

@Fivebyfive2 I am not surprised you are annoyed I would be fuming too. In fact I have been fuming with DH doing this before so I know how you feel. It is so frustrating when we try so hard and they hardly have to do anything! I hope he perks up and gets his head back in the game!
Meanwhile my DH has just gone for an all afternoon bike ride in the heat, I am pretty sure those swimmers are dead from the heat and lycra now 🤦🏼‍♀️
I think after a mc the desire is so strong to be pregnant again. It is hard to let it go - I was even prepared to syringe in the sperm if DH isn't in the mood this cycle as I don't want to mess it up at all now. Luckily that was enough to spur him on! 😂

MrsEG · 19/04/2019 19:13

@Fivebyfive2 Rant away it’s what we’re all here for! I think I just forgot that like, he had feelings too 😂😂 It was soo good talking it out though. Don’t get me wrong there were tears but I think he now feels a lot more involved. I also try very hard not to use the word ‘ovulate’ - apparently, least sexy word ever haha!! He may just be feeling the pressure as you say.

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