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Anyone TTC in a second marriage/relationship?

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tisonlymeagain · 08/04/2019 09:58

Just wondering if anyone here was in the same boat?

About to start TTC our first child together, we are late 30's and both have children from our previous marriages.

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tisonlymeagain · 09/04/2019 14:07

Hi @Mikeyjayne2018 So sorry for your loss, hope you are recovering okay. Stay positive, and have everything crossed for you.

Hi @Starlight39. I am also 39. This will be my first cycle of TTC and I am so anxious now. I got pregnant really easily with both my children but just don’t see it happening so quick this time for some reason.

It’s nice to talk to other people in the same situation, as I obviously can’t talk to anyone IRL at the moment!

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Mikeyjayne2018 · 09/04/2019 13:54

@Starlight39 thank you for your kind words, we've had a tough few weeks 😣 but much better as time passes.
My partner is the same, I think more excited than me and that's saying something.
My boys will escape to their dads for some peace I know they'll love a baby sibling but it's nice to have the time out too. Best of both !
Good luck lovely 😊

Starlight39 · 09/04/2019 12:41

Hello! Can i join too?

So sorry to hear about your loss Mikeyjayne2018.

Sending everyone loads of positive vibes for this month!

I'm 39, DP is 44. I have a 7 year old DS, DP doesn't have any kids (yet!). I'm on CD7 of my second cycle. I ovulated last month the day after having the copper coil out and was still bleeding slightly so I'm not sure if last month was even really possible.

DP is really excited and happy that we're TTC so that's lovely and reassuring - my ex got cold feet after I got pregnant despite saying a definite yes to trying so I'm a bit anxious even though I know DP would never ever do that.

I think DS will be half pleased to have a sibling and half a bit jealous that a new baby would get to be with me all the time (having said that he might be pleased to escape to his Dad's!). We're really close so I hope he takes it OK.

Mikeyjayne2018 · 09/04/2019 12:22

Can I join this thread please ? I'm 37 TTC first child with my partner. We both have 2 children each (live with my 2 boys 7 and 15)
We lost a baby on 13th March just gone at 14 weeks we were heartbroken. Still very raw but trying again as my age is freeing up.
I love to hear of other women in same position with 'patchwork' Families. 😊 my ex will probably be fine, my partners ex will probably be a little awkward as she lives 2.5 hours with his son and feels he's not priority, which is completely fair. But we love him very much and have him every weekend with my boys driving 5 hours round trip. So hopefully all will come good with consistency and commitment.
Really hoping for BFP very soon. AF due 10-13th so tomrmro. I've had lots of symptoms so just trying too stay positive. Good luck ladies 💗

Whyhaveidonethis · 08/04/2019 22:40

@tisonlymeagain my kids would love another dc in the house. Well the younger two. The oldest is 18 so will probably be mortified!!Grin

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tisonlymeagain · 08/04/2019 20:30

Hi both.

@squidge2010 . Similar situation, one will be 'okay' the other is going to go lunar. I'm actually dreading that bit for the amount of grief that is going to come our way. The children...again, who knows. I can't call it either.

@Whyhaveidonethis Good luck - how do you think your children will react?

I'm a little worried that they'll be peeved that this new child gets to live with me full time and they don't - like I've not chosen THEM if it makes sense.

Aside from that I am really excited to be TTC with my DP but trying not to get my hopes up too much.

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Whyhaveidonethis · 08/04/2019 15:49

I'm Ttc my #4 and my DP's #2. We are both early 40s and on cycle 7.

squidge2010 · 08/04/2019 14:55

Both mid 30s here and I have 1dc, DP has 2dc.

Only on cycle 2 of ttc but already wondering how to tell the kids and the exes.

One of the exes I'm sure will be fine (probably not thrilled but ambivalent) about it but fully expecting the other to kick off in a dramatic way.

The 3 children are all so different that I have no clue how any of them would take it.