Anyone TTC in a second marriage/relationship?

Congratulations!! That's great news - hope you have a very happy and healthy 9 months!

I tested on Sunday (9/10 dpo) and Monday and it was a negative so assuming I'm out this month and I haven't bothered testing today. I've had a bit of spotting so thinking AF will be here today and once it does I'll order some more preconception vitamins and OPKs - I just want to be sure a new cycle has started before I spend the money!

One good thing is I have at least a 12 day luteal phase which is better than the 9/10 days I had when TTC DS. Oh and I was thinking I might end up having to do a work trip to India which I was a bit worried about potentially doing while pregnant but it looks like we won't go now so that's a bit of a relief.

Hi everyone. Hope things are good with you @tisonlymeagain? Everything crossed for you this month! Glad your DP wasn't in pain and you were both able to soldier on. Yes, I think we're roughly at the same point.

I'm 6DPO today, not really having any particular symptoms. I'm knackered but I think that's just lack of sleep rather than anything significant!! DP is working away until Friday evening then also working Sunday so I think I'm going to test Sunday morning. I asked him if I find out I'm pg while he's working away did he want me to tell him over the phone. He said he'd rather know in person so we can at least have a hug about it! I don't really want to know and then have to keep it to myself so I'm going to attempt to restrict testing to when he's home.

Sorry, @tisonlymeagain, I only just saw this!

That’s a pain on your DP’s UTI, hope he’s ok. Have you ov’d now? Hope it all worked out ok. And fingers crossed you’ll be pregnant in a few months time and won’t have to worry about what the antibiotics have done! I didn’t realise they affected sperm.

I ovulated on cd16, 2 days ago (handily my cycle days have coincided with the actual date this month!). Its strange as when I was TTC before with ex, I ov’d cd19-21 with only a 10 day luteal phase. I’m not sure if it’s taking vit b6 or the fact I’ve been off the pill for a few years this time (I had a copper coil). Anyway, timing was great and I got a nice strong opk and have had a decent temperature rise since. DP has some work on near home so it has worked out really well. Dp says he will get some baggier boxers if I’m not pregnant this month! Im not sure whether to get him some supplements or not to worry 🤔.

I read that saliva is bad for sperm so we have been avoiding oral sex over ovulation. Does anyone else avoid or is it silly to worry??

That's good that you gave it a good shot and feel positive about that and that it is a reasonable cycle after the pill. I'm keeping fingers and toes crossed for you! Do you have a date in mind for testing?

I'm not feeling too bothered about testing just now so I'm hoping that relaxed feeling lasts. I probably will end up testing at some point before AF - last month I took a million tests and was manically symptom spotting!

How is everyone doing?

I think I worked out I actually must have ovulated on day 14/15 which is weird since previously (when last TTC 8 years ago) it was day 19/20! Anyway, that makes me 7 days ish post ov. It also means timing wasn't ideal (I think we DTD 2 days before ov) as DP was working away. Still, we're in with a chance and it does mean I'll be readier for it next month so I'm feeling pretty positive.

@tisonlymeagain good luck 😁😁!!

My opk yesterday was more pale so not sure why! Temp was a bit higher this morning but possibly because DS was in bed with me after a bad dream. So confusing but I’m trying not to worry, dp is back today so we will just have sex every day and hope for the best.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage, @alphabetti. Good luck! That sounds tricky with partner's ex. I think my ex might be a bit awkward but hopefully he'll surprise me!

@tisonlymeagain ah, that's a bit confusing! I think the luteneizing (sp?!) hormone that the OPK tests for peaks in the afternoons so that might be why the difference. Or less concentrated wee??! I tend to test just once a day at the same time so there's a direct comparison. I am also temping this month just to double check that I have ovulated as with OPKs, you can gear up to ov, giving a positive test but at the last minute your body decides not to and tries again a couple of days later. Or you can miss the surge and think you haven't when you actually have.

Myself and my partner are TTC. I have a DD and DS and my partner a DS. I’m 35 so feel the pressure of my age - there will be a big age gap as mine are 15 and 12yrs and my partners DS is 5. Started trying in August and conceived straight away but had an early miscarriage at 6wks. Starting to feel bit frustrated now but guess need to stay patient.

My children’s father is out of the picture (he hasn’t even seen them for 5yrs) so he won’t be an issue. Partners ex is not likely to take the news very well as she seems to have issues with everything but hopefully she will think it is a positive that her DS will have a sibling.

@tisonlymeagain, I'd say that is your body gearing up for ovulation but will be a few days yet (that's based on me anyway!). Hope tomorrow's is a little darker for you.

My OPK yesterday was similar and I tend to get darker and darker test lines till one that is as dark as the control line (or part of it is as dark - sometimes the test line has a skinny dark strip and the rest of the line is paler).

Hi! Good luck @tisonlymeagain, hope the OPKs pick up ov soon! Do you know when you normally ovulate?

I'm CD14 today and normally ovulate CD19 which is Easter Sunday. My DS is with his Dad this weekend so plenty of opportunities for sex!

I went away with DS and DP over weekend and came back yesterday but he's now working away till Thursday evening then he's home so hopefully we should be covered as long as I don't ovulate earlier than usual. I'm doing OPKs (looks to be gearing up as I had a faint line yesterday) and temping.

@Mikeyjayne2018 glad it feels a little better as time passes. Yes, so true that the kids will be able to escape to their Dad's for some peace!

Hi @tisonlymeagain and fellow 39-er! I also have the anxiety a bit about how long it'll take. It's the 2 week wait that stresses me out most.

My DP works away a bit during the week so he may have to make a few emergency trips home which is also adds to the worry as it means a bit more work predicting ovulation etc.

Fingers crossed it'll happen really quickly for all of us and maybe we can all try and stay positive together.

Please can I join too? We have been TTC for yonks, DP has 2 DC, I don't have any - his ex will not take it well I fear... his DD is keen, his DS couldn't care less

@tisonlymeagain how lovely thank you. Wishing you so much luck too, I feel the same too about feeling like a may have a wait on my hands.