TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

@Lilimim7 I must say I was hoping to try til after AF due for that reason. Last year I tested too early and got a negative so bad to wait to test again anyway. On the other hand as you say less chance of being caught be a CP if you wait... but sometimes it’s hard to wait isn’t it. I hope this cycle brings something positive for you x

@Squiff70 Thanks. I’m hoping for the best but trying not to get my hopes up too much as was slightly dubious when it seemed more pinky / red earlier (although my anxious googling suggests IB can vary from one pregnancy to another). Let’s see what tomorrow brings 🙄

@AliceRR after my horrible cp this cycle I will not test until I am late in future. Its just to heart breaking. If I hadn't teste early I wouldn't have known about it at all. But that's just may experience. My advise would be to wait 3 days if no AF do a test. That way you will get a good line if you are pregnant. Also if you can afford them digital opks are much easier to do, it's a yes or no thing, no deciding if it's a positive or not.

@AliceRR with a FRER you can test 6 days before your missed period. Good luck!

@Frillyfarmer I was going to try to wait til AF is due to test but I thought that was in a week but if what you say is right then I could potentially test earlier

I’m no expert but I think it is possible you are ovulating so soon. I think I mentioned I got first af about 26 days after full term still birth. I think our bodies are geared up to try to get back to normal and start again

It was good if you go text your friend. I think different people have very different ideas of stress. The first time I saw a good friend of mine after we lost our baby was telling me how stressed she’d been about her house move because she was so attached to her house and basically she hadn’t been in touch for months. It sounded like there were other things going on as well like maybe she was anxious or depressed. I tried not to judge her difficulties against mine but I was a bit miffed when I texted her the other day (because I know she’s been having a hard time) and no reply again!

@AliceRR it still sounds ike implantation to me.

@AliceRR will you test before AF is due? I really hope this is implantation spotting for you 🤞🏼

I'm 9 days since MC bleeding started, BFN within 3 days and I'm getting my usual ovulation pains - is that possible?! If I take the first day of MC as CD1, it's about right time in my cycle to start with ovulation pain, but it just seems too good to be true that my body has fallen back into sync so quickly after the drama that was the first three months of this year!

Friend had her scan today so I sent her a message wishing her good luck which really stung me anyway because I'm still wallowing in my own self pity. She replied telling me how anxious she was and how this has just been the most stressful year. They were TTC for 2 months before their BFP and as I've not heard from her since I'm assuming all is hunky dorey - What a stressful year, hey. Hopefully Karma will give her a newborn that slept as badly as my DS 🤞🏼

@Lilimum7 So do you mean you think this is af come early? I am usually v regular but have never done OPK to track ovulation before and it’s possible cycle would be shorter this month just because this is only my second cycle after giving birth. Could have got OPK wrong too though 🤷🏻‍♀️😬🙄

@Pop1234 I had my ERPC in late March and the hospital just wrote to me to say my results are in and offering me an appointment on 9th July! I phoned and harassed them and now going in tomorrow for them x

@InDreamland I hope so but don’t quite believe it.

Fingers crossed for you too and everyone else in the 2WW 🤞

@AliceRR I would say that AF if she comes will be in two days. You usually only have 14 - 15 days after ovulation before AF arrives. You have just ovulated earlier than normal this cycle.

@TinyPaws thank you. Oh your poor OH, what a nightmare. I hope she can fund a way for it to go her way does she have support from a trade union rep. or workplace colleague. She has a right to be accompanied at a formal meeting.

@KnitKitty fx for this cycle!!!!

@Lilimum7 you are not selfish, definitely not! I feel the same way. I just don't want to know about them and their perfect baby and family unit. I hate how easy it has been for them. Sending hugs.

@AliceRR I reckon it's implantation bleeding, fx for you!!!!

@Mistymeow I really hope that all test come back clear.

@ale2992 fx for you!

@Squiff70 fx for you too.

@moonpeace @Laney79 the info on progesterone is interesting. I wonder how I can get that if ever get another BFP even though my tests were normal for that.

Quite a few of us in the TWW. I desperately want this to be the month we get our rainbow BFP. This is the cycle last year we conceived our first but ended in MC#1. So badly wanna give DH 2 lines for our anniversary but will be testing early for that so 100% wouldn't get 2 lines anyway. 6 or 7 dpo today.

@Squiff70 Sorry just realised I wrote above 26DPO 🙈 I meant I am CD26 and now 12 DPO (spotting started yesterday)

Cycle is usually 32 days and last one (first since having baby) was 34 says so if it is AF then I it is a week early

The 2WW is so nerve wracking. I was determined I’d be laid back this month as it’s our first month TTC but I’ve been symptom spotting all over the place and super on edge about this spotting or whatever it is 😬

@ale2992 I see a squinter 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Sorry ladies, I've been busy and haven't kep up with this thread for a while. @AliceRR could it be implantation bleeding at 6DPO?

I'm 2 DPO so officially in the TWW. DP says he has a good feeling about this month. I won't lie, I'm bricking it already.

@TinyPaws I'm so sorry about what your partner is going through. On top of everything else that's happened it just utterly stinks. Maybe not helpful; but when I'm going through a stressful time I imagine myself looking back on it from the future with hind-sight, when it's all over and I've moved on to better things. Sometimes I imagine what I might be doing in the future, sometimes I just imagine myself thinking "It was horrible, but it's over now, and I got through it". Sending hugs xxx

@Mistymeow I will allow you to be creepy in this case. Send me the vibes! Thank you xx
I know you wanted to avoid the breast clinic, but I'm glad you are getting seen. Cysts in breasts are really common; but that doesn't make it any less worrying. I'm thinking of you. And I'm really sorry to hear about your dad and ex. That must have been really, really hard. Of course that will make this situation more emotional for you. I suggest trying to find distractions to keep you going until your appointment. And visualise that lump reducing and disappearing.

@Bluebelltulip thank you xx

I think I can see a faint line too @ale2992, hope you get a clearer one in the next few days x

@MummyBearBoo not at the moment but I may get one tomorrow or over the weekend to retest

Can see a faint line I think have you got a FRER to try they're more sensitive? Xx

So I caved and tested 11DPO, think I can see very faint line and I tested this afternoon not after a long hold.
What do you lot think?

Thanks everyone for your kind messages.

Had ERPC this morning and the tissue is being sent away for testing. Has anybody had this done? If so do you know how long it takes?