TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

@strawberrye sounds like perhaps your cold gave you a high temp and everything is normal. Hope this month is your month!
@frillyfarmer what a thoughtless comment from your friend. I’ve come to think no one understands unless they’ve been through it so it’s best they just say “I’m sorry” and listen.

Fortunately my friends with babies have been very kind. The best thing I was told was from a friend’s mum who’d had an early miscarriage years ago: “don’t let anyone tell you how to feel or what you should be doing.” So true.

@alicerr I am also waiting for af, how dull! I’m just powering through and trying to ignore the hormones.

@petrarabbit thank you for your positivity, what lovely news. I hope everything goes well.

@mamageordie welcome, and sorry to see you here at the same time.

@beaglemum93 great news!! I hope the line keeps getting stronger, how exciting.

@venusstar sorry to hear of your loss. Very similar to my first loss as we were also waiting for our fertility appointment. We were accepted for ivf despite falling naturally. I fell again 3 days before the appointment but baby died sadly (10 weeks, died at 8). I’m waiting to see the rmc and the fertility doc will review after that. You may well still be accepted as a successful pregnancy does not mean a live birth. I think it depends on your circumstances because we have a diagnosed condition (MFI).

I couldn’t give a shit about the royal couple’s baby news

@Lsmummy1 It’s hard when those close to us say these silly things. I’m sure nothing is meant by it but it’s hard to take sometimes.

@frillyfarmer @lillimum6 @Beaglemum93 I was due in Feb but was obviously already pregnnay when Meghan and Harry announced their pregnancy and I feel probably the same as you all do. Constantly hearing about her baby reminds me mine should be here and isn’t.

Thanks @Yukka We are having counselling so that might help although I could have smacked him when last session he said were dealing with this at a different “speed” 🙄

Sorry still hormonal - patiently waiting for AF

I must be the only person in this group who hasn’t actually dtd! I bought some preseed yesterday though so we can try soon and then maybe try for next cycle.

It’s 2 months today since my beautiful baby girl was born sleeping ❤️

Hi everyone, I hope it's OK to join.

Age: 35
TTC #1
Referred to infertility but bfp on 16th cycle while waiting for an appointment
MMC April, 9 weeks, but baby didn't make it passed 5 weeks

I've just returned to work after a month off, the miscarriage was only confirmed as complete last week but had been told on 15th March that it was a blighted ovum. However a scan 2 weeks later showed the sac with foetal pole and yolk sac measuring 5 weeks. I then naturally miscarried a week later. It's been a long drawn out process.

I have fibroids and saw a consultant gynecologist this week. She's given us the go ahead to ttc when we feel ready as she doesn't want to mess with the fibroids.

We have an infertility clinic appointment in May which the gynecologist said we should still go to. I suspect they'll discharge us as we've had a natural conception.

I got a faint BFP last night, I tested again tonight and the line is much darker so hopefully this will be more successful than last month. It's really early though (only 3+2 if you count the first day of bleeding after the chemical as cycle day 1) and AF isn't due til Thursday next week.

Welcome @MamaGeordie, sorry for your loss :(

Congratulations @PetraRabbit!

5dpo ......... who oh why am I symptom spotting? For goodness sake it's probably just my dinner working it's way through but I have to try linking it to possible implantation. Someone stop me!

@strawberrye oh hun I totally get the anniversary thing. Our anniversary will for ever be over shadowed because it the due date of my first mmc and also the day we found out about the 2nd mmc.
As for the Royal baby I'm just going to ignore it.
And we definitely deserve some good luck for a change. I have my rmc appointment in 4 weeks, so things might start to look up soon.

@PetraRabbit that's amazing! Congratulations to you and your baba

Please may I join?

Name: MamaGeordie
Age: 31
TTC: #3 since July '18
1 miscarriage March '19
Short cycles 23 days with short LPs.
Currently CD15 and had a positive OPK yesterday.
A big help to everyone

And to add, I'm far from complacent - MC really kills the joy of pregnancy- but trying to be hopeful this time!

Hi. I hope it's ok to post here. I'm nearly 44 and had a MMC this time last year aged 42, with an ERPC on the day that was supposed to be my 12 week scan. All so crap. And I didn't get pregnant in those supposedly fertile months afterwards either. But here I am with a BFP, around 5 weeks now. I had atrocious fertility results from recent scans and blood tests too, so bad I felt my chances were close to zero of ever getting pregnant again. I'm not here to join the group really but I think I posted once last year so wanted to come back and share a positive story. I'm about as old as it gets fertility- speaking so hopefully it'll give a bit of hope to the older group members!

Evening ladies. Sorry I've been quiet this week (again), work is just so busy I feel like I don't even have time to scratch my bum! TGIF!

Popping out for an Indian with DH in 10 mins so thought I'd pop on and try to catch up a bit. Feel like I've missed so much here.

So sorry for all the insensitive inappropriate things people say. It's so annoying. I hate it. I'm still upset that I was told by a couple of people that I need to get over it and move on .........FFS, it took us 5 years to get pregnant then we had 2 losses within 5 months of each other last year with the last one in November. No I don't have to f'ing get over it and no I can't force my brain to focus on something else. Do people think I enjoy being sad and low?

Sorry to see there more newcomers here. Sorry you find yourself here.

@Laney79 that is brilliant news that things are moving for you! Sounds so positive.

@Mistymeow fx you can get a cancellation.

@strawberrye and @Lilimum6 keeping fx for BFPs for you both soon.

@Frillyfarmer I hope you have a bottle there and enjoy every drop

I'm so with all of you on the Meghan and Harry baby news. I cannot stand it and just switch over when it comes on. Privacy, really? If you want privacy then go into hiding for 12 months from as soon as your bump starts to show! I really don't like Meghan, think she is an attention seeking celebrity after lots of publicity. No class or sophistication, money cannot buy class. I'm still upset they chose to announce on baby loss awareness week and day of the wave of light - I was balling my eyes out over our first mc, little did I know I'd lose my second baby a month later. As for the point about champions of mental health, yep, no consideration at all for those suffering baby, pregnancy and infant loss. They make my blood boil so I just have to ignore them as much as possible.

Just thought I’d drop by quickly and my lord things are really moving! @laney79 excellent need on both the acupuncture and the ivf prep, that’s really exciting!

@bobo TWINS!!! Congratulations that’s awesome!

@sophie I hear you, people just don’t think and forget to put you first in all if this. Same for @AliceRR men do handle things differently but don’t be afraid to tell him how you feel either xx

Sorry I cant catch up on everyone but thinking if you all and you’re future bfps, don’t loose hope xx

Happy Friday ladies. The silver lining of all this is a guilt free glass of cold white after a very long week - another hellish week at work, three pregnancy announcements and at least four people asking me when we're planning no2.

I'm trying to back away from the stress of my job a bit but I'm not quite sure how, the anxiety of deadlines and compliance drives me completely batshit.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend.

@lilimum6 good luck for this cycle, I sure hope us old cheeses get some luck soon, god knows we've been waiting long enough!

I'm totally with everyone about Harry and Meghan. Completely insensitive especially for a couple who claim to be champions for mental health. I will certainly be snoozing all royal baby stories when it arrives.

Me and DH are celebrating our wedding anniversary this month. Sucks massively that both our wedding anniversaries have been overshadowed by pregnancy loss. How many more anniversaries will we have to endure this turmoil for? 😣

I'm still fucked off with Harry and Meghan for announcing the pregnancy on International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Beyond that I don't care, I don't know the royal family and their babies are not very interesting to me. I suspect the media are desperate for news that is not Brexit related.

@Beaglemum93 and @frillyfarmer I'm with you ladies on this one, I also would have been due around the same time too. By asking for privacy now just shows really doesn't it. I was so angry when they announced it that day. I was still pregnant with my second mmc that day but I didn't know my baby had passed. Didn't find out until the 29th of October. It still makesy blood boil.

@Frillyfarmer I can't stand hearing about Meghan Markle's pregnancy either! I was due around the same time and I still can't believe they announced it during baby loss awareness week!

Meghan fucking Markle all over the bastard news this morning for wanting privacy and even secrecy over the birth of her child. Which would be fine had she not shoved her big baby bump in the nations faces at every given opportunity. I've woken up angry this morning.

Hi ladies. I hope you are all doing ok. I'm sorry for those of you who have had insensitive things said to you recently. It really feels like people just dont think sometimes, when I told my dad we were pregnant the second time (2nd mc) instead of saying congratulations, he said oh you're not telling us too early again are you after the drama last time? Referring to the first mc. I dont think he meant for it to come across like that but just a stupid insensitive thing to say really without thinking. My good friend is also pregnant and due the same time I would have been if we hadn't had the first mc, she hasn't said it but shes not put any announcements on social media or any scan pictures. Dont know if its intentional but part of me thinks it is and I love her for that.
I do have a question which I wonder if anyone can help me with, I went for a private scan yesterday as was driving myself mad that I had pcos, endometriosis the lot 😫 all looked fine and normal, ovaries uterus etc however my lining measured at 8-9mm. I'm due my period on Sunday (roughly, first cycle since 3rd mc). I know that the lining sheds and then builds up again,so does anyone think that 8mm is thin for period to be due in a few days? I know 7mm they say is minimum for implantation so would that indicate perhaps my lining around conception time is maybe too thin? Just a thought as all of my losses are all before 5 weeks so wondering If implantation is the problem. I know none of us our doctors but shared experience and knowledge can be so helpful. Because of having my daughter though I dont know if this would be the issue? Perhaps things like that can change?
Sending love and strength to you all
Xxx

@strawberrye hello hun. I honestly can't give you any answers about your chart coz my last one was crazy too. But officially cd1 today after spending the last 3 days spotting, something I never do unless I'm pregnant. I think we just have a blip sometimes. It's really hard when everyone else is falling pregnant and producing beautiful babies without the heart ache we've been through.

@Mistymeow thanks for your reply. I got my answer today when I started cramping and properly bleeding. I have had a progesterone level done which was 58 on day 21 which is pretty good I think, but wasn't temping that month so not sure if my chart would be similarly low post ovulation.

I can understand what you mean about your pregnant friends, it's truly awful and sending lots of hugs

@Mistymeow I feel your pain so have a fucking big squishy hug from me. My friend told me she was going for a reassurance scan today "after what happened to you". I just wanted to tell her to fuck off and what difference could it make, but she continued to ask me what my MC symptoms were until I faked a work call and buggered off.

I want to be happy for my friends but I just can't be.

I’m no good with temps. I’ve always gone by OPKs, CM and if I can’t feel my cervix

Today’s OPK is a lot darker. Other half is currently being sick soooo somehow I think we might miss this cycle.