TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

@InDreamland no chance of that for I don't know how long DH has done his back in again always seems to happen around fw. Starting to think there's a pattern. Last month it was tooth pain. And other times it's been head aches or toothache. I've asked him about it and he says it's nothing to do with ttc but I'm starting to wonder.

Jut finished my early Scan which went very well and all progressing well and according to the dates! 7w3d today! And only 1 baby! Strong heartbeat! tears of relief about everything! Booked for another reassurance scan in 2 weeks! Then harmony test in 3 weeks and anxiously waiting for its results. In the meantime time, still feeling tired every night and nausea kicked in last week, and boobs are still tender from the day of transfer. But I'm not complaining. Just feeling blessed we've gone that far and still more hurdles to overcome

@InDreamland I tested yesterday at 8DPO with an internet cheapy just to get the urge out of my system because I was driving myself wild. I will test either Friday or Saturday as we're out for Easter Sunday and I will be having a few gins in its BFN. How about you, when are you planning to test?

I'm dead on my feet today, my toddler was up from 2.30-5am with a snotty nose and I'm in budget meetings at work all afternoon. I'm feeling bloody awful to be honest, sleep deprived, snotty and wibbly, hay fever seems to have wiped me out!

Hi ladies, I hope it is ok if I join? I am 31, ttc #1, cycle 2 after MC. I see some familiar names on here.
I had a MC at 8 weeks end of Feb after a suspected ectopic and laparoscopy. I had been ttc for over a year and so the bfp was a long time coming so I am now terrified it is going to take another year. Two of my best friends are due the same month I would have been so it has been a hard few months.
I am now cd14 waiting for ovulation. Did you find your cycles settled down quite quickly after your MC?

@Lilimum6 hope that you can get some BD'ing in this cycle.

@Laney79 whatever decision you make will be the right one for you. If you're unsure you could wait a couple of cycles before going ahead?

@Beaglemum93 fx this is a sticky one! Keep us posted.

@Frillyfarmer how are you getting on? Are you going to test early or wait until you miss AF? I'm too scared to test. Even when I test after AF is very late and I get a BFP I can't hang onto baby. Both times I've had a BFP I've tested when AF is late.

AF due this weekend. Bet she ruins my Easter.

@Mistymeow we have a urologist appointment after work today. Hopefully there is good news and a "fix". Thing is I'm just so impatient now, now I know I can get pregnant twice I want to just have a third but keep it and quickly. Hope your cramps have eased now. MC really can play havoc with anything to do with AF and our wombs. Someone else I know who has had multiple mc's since summer last year, also no living children, is saying the same thing. Fx that the cramps though are a good sign and the witch never shows and you get a BFP.

@Newbie21 it's such a head f**k isn't it. Hope you can get a referral. I worry about my age now at 39.

@Mistymeow I hope the cramps calm. Maybe wait a few days before testing. Our bodies do go a little haywire after MCs and surgery.

Hi @Mistymeow my second MC was in November so it's been a little while. The spotting seems to be a new feature of my cycle which I could handle although was beginning to question but this cycle, I've literally had my AF at 9DPO (ovulation based on CB digital static smiley being 2 days before). I've been tracking ovulation using CB digital tests since after my first MC back in April and my luteal phase (bar one cycle when I didn't ovulate - 2 months after first MC) is always 13/14 days excluding any spotting. I think I am just getting so fed up with it all. I booked an appointment with the nurse at my GP. Hopefully she will be willing to run some tests or refer me. If they count CPs then I've had 3 MCs so hopefully entitled. Plus I'd like to just know what is going on with my cycle and whether my age (38) is becoming even more of an issue :-(

Ps sorry to hear you've got painful cramps @Mistymeow. I think leaving it a while to test is probably a good idea. Fingers crossed for you xx

Thanks @Mistymeow, you said almost exactly what the gynecologist said last week! Dh had started taking the wellman conception tablets. These were advised after his SA. We then caught a month after he started them. He's ordering some more. He's not so bad on caffeine and alcohol but both of us have completely got out of the habit of any fitness routine at the moment.

Having a really bad day, got sent home from work as I was so upset 😢

@VenusStarr hmm yes sounds like going ahead with the fertility appointment is a good idea. I would also say that the sonographer shouldn't be making comments like that! Also when I had my fertility appointment the consultant said having my tubes looked at was pointless because I'd been pregnant, obviously my tubes were clear. Has your partner been taking the vitamins (this has helped with my DH's sperm, as well as cutting back on alcohol and caffeine/getting in shape)? Sorry you're still feeling down but it's completely normal and will take time- allow yourself these moments to feel sad. It will get easier.
@AliceRR glad the pmt cloud has passed, and you can start looking to the next cycle! It always feels better getting cd1 out of the way :)
@lilimum6 urrrgh, that's really annoying. I hope you're feeling a little better today? I hope you get some luck soon, you really deserve it.
@Newbie21 how long ago was your mc? Sometimes it can take some months for the hormones to settle. I think if you are having pre-af spotting when it's not normal for you, you should get it checked out. Your GP could do a day 21 progesterone test to see if you're ovulating (and also to put your mind at rest). I've been on this thread for a year and it seems that most of us have had problems with our cycles regulating.
@Raincart2017 fingers crossed for you! 8/9 dpo is the worst point as you start getting all the progesterone symptoms and it's usually too early to test! Drives me mad :)
@Laney79 I would be inclined to ask for the appointment to be outside of your fertile window, unless it means waiting a long time (the sperm test at our local hospital is a 3 month wait!). See what they come back with. But it's really good you are on the right track and taking action, very promising.
@InDreamland I understand, it's such a long slog for you both. What's the next step for your dh? Urologist appointment?

I don't really know what's happening with me. 13 dpo and expecting af today. I had the worst cramps yesterday (I expected this as it's the first af since the ERPC and the one last year was really painful). But today nothing. I don't dare test and now I'm thinking what if I have scarring? I might test on wednesday. I used to test all the time before the last loss but this time I find it too scary.

Aarrrrghhhh I can't stop thinking about wanting to be pregnant again. Those fertile 6 months after mc is quickly disappearing. Have until next month so 1 more cycle. 8dpo today. This is painful and after DH's results I'm not confident it'll happen for us now.

So I'm 8/9 dpo and my boobs are so painfull! I've been having twinges the last couple of days but today they feel like when I was pregnant! I'm trying not to to symptom spot in this TWW as trying to focus on losing weight and exercise for our fertility appointment next month X But seems like my body wants to throw it in my face!

@Raincart2017, thank you! Will keep testing to see what happens but will just keep dtd when we want to anyways. I got a pack of 20 so hopefully enough to see me through this cycle and at least the start of another one! Xx

@Fivebyfive2 the empty circle first day then flashing next day happened to me everytime I used a new set. If you bought a large pack enough to do multiple cycles then the stick starts to narrow your window down in the various cycles.
All it means is your estrogen has risen since the first day and will continue to rise until you get a static smiley. I had flashing for like 5/6 days one cycle X
If you get a static very early in cycle then maybe talk to your Dr as they may want to do a blood test to check if you have actually ovulated x

Hi all, sorry to all those who are struggling. Sending a hug your way xx I too am sick of royal baby news, do we really need to hear every little thing?? And don't get me started on the conspiracy nutters who think she's just got a pillow shoved up her shirt!!

Anyway, kind of did an intro post on here a while back, but haven't posted since as nothing was really happening! But would it be OK if I asked for some advice??

I am on cycle day 8. I started using cb opks yesterday, early I know, but just in case anything happened earlier than expected. I had surgical management on 11th March, got af 28 days later, so this is my first proper cycle since. The plan was to dtd every 2-3 days, started on Thursday as af cleared up on the Wednesday. So, yesterday the opk was a blank circle, as expected. Today is a flashing face?! At cd8?! Wtf??? Think we'll just stick to our plan of DTD every 2-3 days, but will make sure we do it on the day if/when a static face appears. But I'm just feeling a bit confused. Could it be my hormones just a bit higher or whatever, still from the MC? Xx

@Frillyfarmer I thought ibuprofen killed the spermies. But I'll give it a try.

I'm miserable today bloody hormones

@InDreamland I think I'm 6DPO so we're synced this cycle and I am symptom spotting like mad. Convinced myself earlier thanks to being absolutely knackered but honestly it's probably because my toddler woke for the day at 4.45am. 😬

@Lilimum6 that's annoying - can you dose him up on ibuprofen and get him back on the ride?! Bloody men, mine has been a shit this month with coming in after too many bevvies when he knows it's fertile week.

I swear TTC is sending me clinically insane.

Moan away @Lilimum6 This TTC journey totally sucks. Hope your DH's back is on the mend.

I'm also needing to vent. So ever since my second MC I've had spotting from about DPO 10-11. First couple of times I hoped it was implantation bleeding but have realised it's not. Today is DPO 9 and AF has turned up - not just spotting - full on red blood. I used to be so regular 27-28 day cycle. Now I'm really worried that either I'm not ovulating or my luteal phase has shortened and there is no chance of pregnancy :-(. Is it worth me seeing a doctor? I've only had two MCs (plus one CP) so not sure they will pay any attention. So so fed up and angry with my body :-(

I've come for a moan.
Cd3 and omg the cramps are almost as bad as having medical management. It's only my 2nd af after my very drawn out 6th loss. Was hoping to give it a good try this cycle but DH has done his back in so out before we even start. This ttc journey is starting to get the better of me, fed up 😒 doesn't really cover it

@Mistymeow AF has arrived and the PMT cloud that has been over my head for 10-11 days has finally lifted

@VenusStarr Thank you and sorry to hear you’re not having a great day

@AfterLaughter Not the only one then! Sounds like you were sensible though

@AliceRR we aren’t DTD either as DH has a sick bug I’ve slept in a separate room all week as I had two exams and I was not risking catching it!

My OPKs are getting darker.

Sorry for your losses @Mistymeow the initial fertility tests were fine but I do have a lot of fibroids. Seen a gynecologist who doesn't want to intervene and said we should continue with the referral as they may offer us some support. My initial ultrasound (before the pregnancy) picked up the fibroids and the sonographer suggested they were blocking the tubes but the gynecologist dismissed this saying he wasn't qualified or even able with his equipment to say that. But it's stuck in my head. Dh's motility is slightly low too.

I'm sorry to hear about your baby girl @AliceRR 💜 xx

Echoing everyone's thoughts about the royals!

I'm not having a great day today. Its hard as I've been OK and not crying the last couple of days and now suddenly hit me again 😢