TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

@indreamland I actually think this is really great news for you both. To be diagnosed and treated for his issue is very promising. A 20-30% chance every month is completely normal (they say couples have a 25% chance of conceiving every month). I know it’s hard when age is not on your side but as you caught twice in a year when he didn’t have his diagnosis this is extremely promising. Got everything crossed.
@alicerr you are completely right. I feel guilty because we knew that it would take time to fall naturally because dh was born with this condition (faulty pituitary gland) but I never expected we would keep losing the babies. It’s a hard journey but there is so much hope for us all. I hope you are feeling a bit better, you have been through so much.
@lilimum6 I am hoping so much that your dh can dose himself up on cocodamol and this is your month!

Thanks @Squiff70 It seems like you probably can unfortunately. It’s horrible to lose a baby (or babies) whenever it happens

@InDreamland I know and I hope it didn’t sound like I was trying to down play what you’re feeling. What I was trying to say is I understand as I feel crappy atm too. I’m sad and stressed and off worry I’m not going to get pregnant again but it’s so easy to get bogged down by these negative thoughts and I’m trying not to as it can only help us to the to be positive and relaxed xx

Fingers cross for you too @Lillimum6 and everyone else

When I said miracle I mean my DH's back gets better just in time for my ovulation. Fingers crossed 🤞 for us ladies please xx

Evening ladies sorry I've been quite.

Congratulations to all you beautiful pregnant ladies.
Fingers crossed 🤞 for the ladies in tww
And finally baby dust to all those approaching ovulation x
Welcome and sorry you find your self here to all the new ladies.
As for me I'm cycle day 8 and really hoping fora miracle. But if this cycle doesn't work at least we have rmc appointment next cycle and maybe get some answers or reassurance.
I really really want to be pregnant but I'm terrified at the same time. I know I'll not feel the joy I did with the very first bfp but I have to keep trying I can't give up yet xx

@AliceRR I know you are right, I'm just struggling this week. Fx for us all. Goodness we all deserve to have healthy pregnancies after everything we've been through. I just feel like after almost 6 years I need to be cut a break.

@InDreamland I know it’s easy to say but try not to look back. It’s so easy to think how we could have down things differently with hindsight and none of us could have known, 3 or 4 years ago, where we would be today. I couldn’t have guessed even a year ago that in the coming 12 months I’d get pregnant, carry a baby to term and then lose her. I know it’s hard but it certainly doesn’t sound like a lost cause to keep going so fingers crossed for us 🤞 (all of us). I’ve been feeling down the last few days worrying it won’t ever happen for me but who knows where we’ll be a year from now

Hugs to everyone else x

Sorry to see more new names here. So sorry for your losses, you've come to the right place, everyone is so supportive.

@Mistymeow fx AF doesn't show and the next FRER is a BFP.

@Yukka glad to hear your pregnancy is progressing well.

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue glad you are a bit better than you have been. It is tough so be kind to yourself. Good you're DTD.

@Newbie21 that sounds so promising. What a lovely happy ending story. Fx that is you soon.

@Bluebelltulip see how you feel but I think I'd stay home so we could DTD lots.

@FirstTimeMama91 I think the advice is to wait until you have a negative after mc before TTC again.

@Beaglemum93 that's great you're getting good line progression. Fx this is a sticky bean.

@Frillyfarmer that's a fab line for 10DPO. I am definitely too scared to test, also 10dpo today. Fx this is a sticky bean.

AF due Saturday. I have been getting those pulling sensations again in my lower abdomen and the past 2 days been feeling really sick and light headed on the tube. Trying desperately to not read into it all. Feeling really crap today, feel like everywhere I turn when I'm out on my commute and at work that everyone is pregnant. DHs urologist who is treating the issue that has been found said that due to our age, even once the medication has sorted the issue, that we still will only have 20%-30% chance of conceiving. Feel like we've lost our chance now and wished we'd done all this 3 or 4 years ago. Feel like we've lost so much time and missed our chance.

Thanks for the advice girls. Don't know what to do lol.

Congratulations @Frillyfarmer so happy for you

@Mistymeow and @moonpeace, thank you so much.

@AliceRR I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter - I can't even imagine what you must be going through xx

@Squiff70 Welcome and sorry for the loss of your twins. I lost a baby girl at 40 weeks in February and this group has been so lovey and supportive.

@frillyfarmer Congratulations xx

Welcome @squiff70 sorry to hear the sad news about your twins. I hope this is a positive cycle for you.

@frillyfarmer congratulations, that’s a lovely line at 10dpo! I hope this is it for you x

@Frillyfarmer!!! I'm so pleased for you! Fingers crossed for a sticky one xxx

Hi everyone, do you mind if I join please?

I had a late miscarriage in January at 19 weeks (twins) and this month we've started to TTC again. I'm 8DPO and decided to do a FRER tomorrow. I shouldn't be symptom spotting but over the last 3 days I've had dizzness, cramping and back pain. I know it's a bit early to test but I can't wait much longer. I'm excited and terrified in equal measure.

@Frillyfarmer congratulations! I have everything crossed for you

@Newbie21 yes zen like thoughts all round! Easier said than done though

@Frillyfarmer that's a brilliant line for 10dpo congrats!

Congratulations @Frillyfarmer! That's a good line for 10dpo :)

Got home to a pack of FRER so I've tested at 10DPO and there is a definite line? I'm elated and utterly terrified of another MC.

Fingers crossed for you @Beaglemum93

@ale2992 I got the same kind of advice about relaxing etc. I'm going to try and chill out a bit the cycle. I didn't think about it at all and fell straight away with my son. I think the longer the time goes on the more I get stressed and fed up and that isn't helping. Let's think zen-like thoughts. After all it's going to be a lovely warm and sunny long weekend so hopefully, despite what everyone is going through, we can all try and enjoy the sunshine and have something to smile about

Hi all, sorry I've been quiet but have been trying to take a step back from obsessing over TTC.
Just a little update, I went to my doctors today just to voice some concerns I've been having around my cycle and TTC. She wasn't concerned at all, thinks it's highly likely my hormones haven't balanced out yet from coming off my pill in September. She calmed my concerns without making me feel stupid, it felt positive and I felt as though she listened and understood.
She said the obvious, try not to stress/just enjoy it, which I knew she'd say and it's what I am trying to do. I am trying not to track this cycle and the next ones coming other than using my apps, which I don't actually use everyday now. She also did say that if I haven't conceived in three month to come back and she'd look at referring me.

That's great news @Russkispy!
Lovely to hear your pregnancy is progressing well @Yukka :)

I'm 4 weeks now and tests are still getting darker so hopefully this will stick but I'm so scared about having another miscarriage.

I think I see a very faint line on that test @Mistymeow, fingers crossed for you

@frillyfarmer I’m not entirely sure as I wasn’t temping every day- 13 or 15 dpo. It’s the first cycle since my erpc so probably everything is out of whack. There is a faint line irl but it could well be left over hcg, although I have had bfns previously. Good luck for when you test!
@venusstarr glad you feel better, definitely the hormones crashing will make you feel worse. I’m ok, just would like af to kick in now. I have a lovely relaxing weekend on our family’s narrow boat, am on my way up now. I hope you have something nice planned for the long weekend, the weather looks great!

@FirstTimeMama91, I'm still getting positives, it's 2 weeks tomorrow since I passed everything. When I had my scan last week they said my left ovary was waking up and I have had ewcm over the weekend. No idea what's happening. Just wanted to post in solidarity

@Mistymeow, I can see something but not sure. Good plan to leave it a while. Sorry you're in limbo tho 😔

@Newbie21 glad you have had a positive appointment and for sharing her happy story.

Feeling better today. I'm wondering if my emotional days are linked to my hormones coming down. Hope everyone is OK.

Any nice plans for Easter weekend? X

@FirstTimeMama91 can you have a fertile period whilst your body still has elevated HCG?

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue I haven't yet, only because I've not got any FRER! Hopefully tomorrow, although won't be in time for FMU and I'm just so ridiculously impatient this cycle!

@Mistymeow I can't see anything on that but I always find squinters really hard to take a photo of. How many DPO are you?