TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 29 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's!

I did another OPK today and it was more feint than yesterday and the day before. Friday and yesterday were not positive but were high (it got darker after I posted pics here)

If I’ve ovulated would the line be non existent today? I’m thinking I probably ovulated yesterday or this morning but then not sure if there would just be no line

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@knitkitty lovely to hear from you! Sounds like things are progressing well. It’s incredible what these doctors can do. I really hope you can try again soon, I’ve missed your positive presence on this thread :)
@fnej01 glad to hear you’re feeling more positive, you’ve had a fair few shocks. I am wondering what they might find when I attend Mr Shehata’s clinic in July. Sorry that today is your due date- a lunch with your partner sounds perfect.
@aliceRR I don’t think I could add anything better than describing it as being “a slave to your hormones!” It is hard to keep it natural but in the nicest possible way our partners need to get over that and find a way that works for them to keep themselves relaxed. My dh has a high sex drive due to all the hormones he gets pumped with so he is constantly “is now a good time to try” but he does get “stage fright” at times. Overall, it’s not easy on both parties especially after loss but I find keeping it light and adding romantic touches now and then helps.

Ladies, TMI time. I want to talk about breasts. In short, they both hurt, but one hurts A LOT. This is the breast that’s developed a small cyst. I’m wondering if it’s milk related (but I was only 10 weeks). I had the miscarriage 6 weeks ago and have recently ovulated. Any ideas? I guess I’m looking for reassurance because if it’s not gone after my period I have to go to the breast clinic which I really don’t want.

@Knitkitty Lovely to hear from you. Glad things are progressing, albeit slowly.

I've been discharged from the recurrent miscarriage clinic with no treatment or follow up as they didn't find anything wrong. They promised to send me my results and then didn't.

Currently gone a bit quiet as in the process of choosing a new fertility clinic.

Good to hear from you @Knitkitty sounds like a positive update from you. I don’t think any of us believe we have a real live baby in our arms until it happens

As for getting your OH to DTD at the right time... Sexy undies and explaining to them that it's a natural process to be hornier when you're preparing to ovulate and you're just a slave to your hormones might help...

^^ This is good

@fnej01 I think I am quite attentive all the time. I think it is just cause I haven’t been interested in sex for a year (for good reason) and now suddenly am!

My boobs are massive since I was pregnant with my little girl (I’m a 32F now apparently but otherwise a size 8 so they’re quite big?!) so I am in the process of underwear shopping out of necessity

Sounds like you are being strong

Hugs to everyone else xx

Hi

@KnitKitty good to hear from you, was only thinking of you a couple of days ago. I had second biopsy a couple of weeks ago, and am still waiting results. Because the NK cells were so high at first biopsy they have prescribed prednisolone regardless of the second result. They have also changed my progesterone to twice daily and from day 21. I am feeling much better than a few weeks ago when I was totally freaked out. The NK cells I was less worried about it's the APS that bothers me as it is incurable and could impact me in life outside of pregnancy. I have been focusing on getting myself in a good place, so a trying to lose a little weight. My BMI sits naturally at 25 so trying to get it back to 23. Also trying to get a bit fitter. Going to start TTC in late May as fertile week falls on honeymoon.
Glad to hear that they have prescribed you the prolactin meds. I think you had some differing advice from the last doctor when we spoke last. Did all of your other RMC tests come back in normal range? How are you feeling about the progesterone pessaries? This journey is really full of so many delights isn't it. 😂. Sorry to hear about the baby bombs, I am fine most of the time but just have odd ones that really sting.

@AliceRR On the DTD, I always find some frilly knickers work a treat. I think explaining we are naturally a bit more interested around ovulation is also a good idea. My acupuncturist also very nicely told me that I should be showing him attention all through the month. So I have even when not TTC, been in a regular routine of JKS, which if I am honest has probably done us both good.

Today is due date 2 out of 3. Not feeling too emotional about it, as came to terms with these losses a while ago. Will be heading out to lunch with DH and raising a glass to what could have been, but mainly looking forward.

Love to you all going through hard times

X

Hi ladies! Just dropping in for a quick hello and an update.

@fnej01 How are you doing? Have you had your second biopsy yet? How are you coping with everything emotionally? It is a lot to handle, but hopefully to be forewarned is to be forearmed. Sounds like everything is being treated very thoroughly at least; which I hope is some comfort.

*@Mistymeow, @Lilymum6, @Laney79, @InDreamland, @TinyPaws, @Newbie21** How are you all? I'm sorry, it's really hard to keep up with everything on here when you only drop in from time to time, but I do think of you all and am still routing for everyone and hoping for your rainbows. Sorry to those of you I haven't mentioned by name, I do think of all of you. xx

How are the pregnant ladies?

Glancing through the thread I saw that your were discussing lighter periods. It's comforting to know that other people have this too after MC. Mine have become a lot lighter. I also tend to have spotting for two days before AF shows nowadays. But reading through MN, it seems very common after pregnancy?

I also saw you were talking about baby-bombs on social media. I've had two this week. Other people's happy news hasn't really been bothering me for a few months, but this week it hit me a bit harder (not helped by PMS). It's possibly because of who has announced their pregnancies (one of them used to talk about not wanting children; the other doesn't look after their body in the slightest... it just seems so unfair). It's so tough to be happy for others in times like this, but I'm trying to remind myself that their journey just isn't my journey, and vice versa, and I can't compare the circumstances or timings. But still; gut wrenching. Sorry for those of you struggling with other people's happy news at the moment. Hugs xxx

As for getting your OH to DTD at the right time... Sexy undies and explaining to them that it's a natural process to be hornier when you're preparing to ovulate and you're just a slave to your hormones might help... It's true that around ovulation you have more energy, increased libido and even your hips/waist/boobs ratio changes to be more attractive to your man. You're altogether much more likely to feel sexier and want to DTD more... So at least they know it's not just clock-work baby-making and that there is genuine desire involved (even if that last part isn't always strictly true... cough...)

As for me; I heard from my endocrinologist and I'm getting medication to take twice weekly to lower my prolactin levels. I will need an echocardiogram so they can check it doesn't give my heart any adverse affects but I haven't had that appointment through yet. I'm hoping to start the medication very soon; and will start TTC as soon as I can after that. I will also have progesterone pessaries to take once I'm pregnant again. So I'm feeling fairly positive about trying new things. But as I'm sure you will all understand, I'm really struggling to believe anything will be different the next time around after 5 failed pregnancies. I can't quite believe I'll ever had a baby in my arms. But I'm working on hope and trying to stay positive and open to good things.

Wishing you all the very best. xxx

Thanks @Squiff70 I don’t know. I don’t really jump on him lol just start letting him know I’m “in the mood” lol but he thinks I’m pretending, which is not completely true. I went off sex when pregnant and then wasn’t ready to dtd until v recently after the birth so it probably seems like all of a sudden I’m trying to have sex just for that reason when it’s not the only reason

I do cook for him etc every day, need to work out what makes him feel special 😬

Thanks @InDreamland I thought so too

Was too lazy to text again this evening so let’s see what tomorrow shows

I don’t think I’m ovulating based on other things (like cm, which I don’t really monitor but am aware of)

@moonpeace baby bombs are just awful aren't they. I'm gonna have to try just ignoring them and avoiding the office as much as possible.

@PrayingForMyRainbow @Yukka the acupuncture was very relaxing. It's early days so let's see what happens. Should ov hopefully in the next 7 days so will see if I notice any change in my body. I'm hopeful it will help, especially as I've been so emotional lately.

@AliceRR I've not used those ones but the lines are looking quite strong so think you're at high and will peak soon.

@AliceRR Maybe a nice meal with candles would set the mood without just jumping on him?

@Squiff70 Well I just tried letting him know I was “in the mood” but he wasn’t buying it. He knows I just be ovulating soon. So suppose I need to carry that on all month long lol. He knows I want a baby and he does too but he’s the kind who will back off if under pressure so when I’m fertile I need to get him into bed without scaring him off 😂

That's an interesting point @AliceRR, how do we make it known to our DPs/DHs how much we want another baby without them being made to feel like a baby making machine? It must be hard for them too. I'm scared of making my DP feel like that too as I'm not interested in sex unless I'm ovulating (and he knows it!).

Thank you

I am on CD13

Did yesterday, will try again today / tomorrow

DH said yesterday I am treating him like a baby making machine so can’t be too forthcoming about it - I feigned being horny yesterday but he knows how a woman’s cycle works 😂 We still dtd though 😬

Any tips in that regard welcome! It doesn’t help that we hadn’t dtd for the best part of a year until this week but I was pregnant and then postnatal so it seems like I’m only interesting in making a baby 🙄

@AliceRR looks like you are getting close to peak but not quite there yet. I think now would be good timing to DTD if you can. X

@AliceRR I used those tests last year and generally tested around 2pm and 6pm. My surge is fairly short and I don't think I ever really got a true positive. What cd are you on and how long is your cycle?

I'm obsessing over bring pregnant again 🙄 I know it's not healthy but can't stop myself.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend x

Today’s test has got darker (maybe I was a bit too keen) so will try again later

Today’s test is quite a bit darker now (than this test was when I first posted) 🤔

Not v much lighter than yesterday

Will try again later

I did text earlier today - was about 5 pm yesterday and 2 pm today

Not quite positive I meant

Today I tested again expecting it to be the same or stronger but I got a faint line

I’m on CD13. Usual cycle length is 31 days but I’m only on my third cycle since giving birth and last month was 34 days.

I am not getting stressed about it as it’s probably early anyway but odd that the line is lighter today?

Hope everyone is ok

I started using OPKs first time yesterday and wonder if anyone can help

I got what I interpret as a high result yesterday (but not quite +be)

Morning all sorry to see some if you having a difficult time. It’s a hard path to be on xx

Re excercise my acupuncturist first advised no exercise at all for the first 12 weeks, then consultant said the same. When I looked st pregnancy classes/yoga/swimming groups, none of them allow you in till 12 weeks.

I did continue with some yoga till 8 weeks, but as it has to be dialled down so much it wasn’t worth it. Went back to yoga and swimming at 14 weeks.

Their reason was about just how fragile early pregnancy really can be, probably more so for us with history xx

@prayingformyrainbow acupuncture totally sorted out my cycles after last mc and I’m convinced was the reason I conceived again after 6 months of nothing - I had been getting pregnant every 3 months. @indreamland how did it go?

Good luck to those in the tww x

@InDreamland hugs to you too. I’ve just been told the my mums friends daughter (we grew up as friends but aren’t close any more) is a few weeks ahead of what I should be. It’s killing me. Thankfully we don’t live near each other but it’s making me feel bad for not being happy for her... what a confusing time! 🙈

@InDreamland how was the acupuncture? Is it good for conceiving? I heard reflexology can be good for fertility too x

I'll be in TWW in the next few days I think so hoping I can keep going with the not obsessing and it will make the wait seem less

@laney79 sure, although all my blood results were fine. When I had the fertility appointment for ivf the consultant prescribed clomid purely on the basis of my cycle length- ranging from 20 days to 35 days. She said she didn’t think I was ovulating every month. I decided not to take the clomid because that cycle was normal (30 days) and the next cycle I conceived. I had a lot of the symptoms you describe (short light periods, irregular cycles). But bloods were fine. In the end I think it was partly to do with the miscarriage taking longer for my body to recover and stress.