@Catconfusion thanks, I'm feeling ok...obviously nervous, but trying to stay positive. Will do a non frer test tomorrow too just to check progression.
I'd definitely contact the ccg. At our age they should see you sooner. The wording on my ccgs ivf criteria is shockingly bad...check it out:
"Infertility can be defined as the failure to conceive after regular unprotected sexual intercourse for a period of 2 years in the absence of known reproductive pathology”.
So you'd assume that as I had conceived twice in a year I was ineligible -that's what my GP thought, as did I...it then goes on to say: "an earlier referral for specialist consultation to discuss the options for attempting conception, further assessment and appropriate treatment should be made where:
the woman is aged 36 years or over
there is a known clinical cause of infertility or a history of predisposing factors for infertility"
But that is so woolly and open to interpretation that no on really knows how much earlier that referral should be. And it doesn't make clear that miscarriages are part of infertility. I thought as we'd conceived we weren't eligible, but the person I spoke to at the ccg said that wasn't the case at all (I did tell her I felt I was being punished for having mcs-was a bit upset!)
Nice guidance says you should be referred after a year, or sooner if over 36. Sadly I think it's a case of gathering the knowledge for yourself, and then asking the gp to do as you ask based on the research you've done. To be fair to a GP they generally aren't fertility Specialists and often are under strict orders not to refer outside of criteria. And when the criteria is badly worded.,..well you see the problem.
In our case, the private consult made a huge difference - basically as we did that it helped us get our nhs ivf case fast tracked - the consultant has been pushing through tests and appts to get us treatment before my birthday (which I obv don't need now-feel a bit bad but hey he told us to keep trying!) which was a huge help.
Sadly the one thing I've learnt through this, and my day job is that the nhs system is pretty broken, the care generally is very good, but referral and access to that care is poor. You have to chase things up and fight for what you need. Even with the private consult I still had to sort my referral being cancelled, my oh SA referral being returned saying it needed to be in my name, and I'm still waiting on AMH results so will have to chase those (still wanna know what it was!)
You have to be on it, it's a bit survival of the fittest (some may say most annoying/tenacious!) in my experience. Xxx