I hate the ttc process

@cupcakesandglitter I'm pretty much the same as you- seems so unfair in ways that others just succeed in the first try! I try to look at it as it will happen when it's meant to but doesn't make it any easier. We're going away for a weekend ever month (just £30 travelodges) to take our mind off things that helps.
We were told last week we're gonna need IVF but hubby won't talk about it which isn't helping- I still have 15kg to loose as well that isn't helping xx

@Pinkroseuk shit tbh 😂 we're keeping ourselves busy doing stuff in the house but aren't actively trying anymore. Still really depressed over it actually, I get waves of real sadness when I think I still don't have my baby yet after years of waiting - kind of wish we started years ago! I'm trying to mull through it though I guess. How're you getting on? X

Same to you @cupcakesandglitter. How are you getting on? Xx

Hey @Pinkroseuk sorry to see you on here!

@RobynC19 that's definitely a line - congrats x

Looks like a line @RobynC19

Can I join? Been ttc for 2 years now and nothing - hospital have now said it will be IVF when my weights under bmi 30 - it's been a long journey so far and I'm not sure how much longer I can go on. Just hoping the waiting list for IVF isn't years... some of the appointments at the hospital we have gone in 3 and half hours late for!

There's a line on that

I think it means you are pregnant 😊

Ah people say the most hurtful things without meaning to half the time. I hate it when the conversation starts...so how long have you been married now? You just know where it's heading next!
My friend was moaning about how hard it was trying for 5 months like it was the worst thing in the world as her friends had all become pregnant their 1st month of trying, I wanted to put her straight but I couldn't bring myself too.
I've also started looking at clothes in a...could I fit a bump or breastfeed in these if it happened soon kinda way 🙄

RobynC19

I feel like everyone else just winks at a man and it happens.

I think that's the perception because you only hear the success stories and in real life no one ever talks about it. One of my close friends only told me once she was pregnant that it had taken her 2 years to conceive. Until that point she'd only told her sister.

I stupidly told several people when I started TTC and now it's extremely awkward because I'm obviously not pregnant.

notsurewhatshappening

ttc killed our sex life and it never recovered.

I'm really worried that we're approaching this point. The other day DP made a comment after we DTD and was surprised when I said that actually it wasn't my fertile window and I'd only jumped him for fun.

This whole process is killing me too. I used to be so hopeful and optimistic but now I think that it'll never happen. We're looking to buy a house and I just think what is the point of getting a 3 bed to rattle around in? That would be so depressing, a daily reminder that I still haven't got a baby.

@cupcakesandglitter i hate to admit when we do i'm like ooh could be the time we concieve

@skyfullofstars totally with you there. It's not even like I want to do these things and I'm holding myself back - i DONT want to do any of the things you can't do when pregnant 'just in case'. We've been talking about going on holiday mostly because I'm sick of this country but I know I'm not going to 'relax' and magically forget about TTC.

TMI here but does anyone else have this issue - I can sort of not think about TTC sex but as soon as we start BD all I can think about is getting pregnant? Like I can't not think about it even when BD

I remember the life on hold thing. Actually in our case we did end up going on a road trip holiday, I convinced just beforehand and spent a fair bit of time puking at the side of the road

Anyone else pretending their life isn't on hold whilst ttc...but really you haven't booked holidays, you rarely drink, avoid hot tubs, make sure you haven't got family staying when ovulating, dont sign up for events not suitable when pregnant, havent donated blood...it's taking over my life.
I've tried to draw a line under it all and book us a holiday before we have a meeting about ivf!
Glad I found this thread, it's comforting to know people in the same boat but at the same time I feel sad more people are suffering the same as me everytime the next period starts! Hugs all round ladies xx

I totally get it, we are ttc #1. DH is convinced that something is wrong but GP has told us to keep going until we’ve had 12 solid months of trying.
I’m 31 and DH is 39 and the stress of waiting is awful. His family no longer ask if we’ll have a family of our own but I don’t think it’s out of kindness.
All a bit soul destroying really 😕

I feel your pain op. It took us 2 years and 7 months to conceive ds who is now 3 and we’ve been ttc since June last year. It’s so fucking hard. I can’t stop thinking about it and dh is so laid back and I just want to be pregnant now.

Oh and also (sorry to carry on my rant) but I waited a couple of years until DH was fully on board and everything was right for us - and now I feel like a failure and annoyed that I can't just get pg straight away (like everyone else)

Oh god can I jump on? It's the worst thing in the bloody world. We've actually pretty much given up TTC because of the misery it brings. Even having time off (ie. no ov kits, scheduled sex etc) I'm STILL miserable that everyone gets their BFPs and there is babies everywhere... and then there's just me..

I was like this. We both had issues and it took nearly a year. It was very hard and I sympathise. People who just 'have fun trying' don't understand. We were lucky to have two healthy babies in the end but ttc killed our sex life and it never recovered. For all x

It is fairly crap, isn’t it. I hope you all get the news you want soon.

It’s just not something you can easily complain about in RL. I’m on my way home from work and keep thinking “oh great, got to DTD tonight. Yay.”. DH prefers not to know about dates/counting etc, but he’s also not an idiot and it does make it hard to get in the mood when sometimes we’re both tired and it really makes it feel like a chore rather than fun!