The July 19ers - The rollercoaster continues, scream if you wanna go faster

We're 10 weeks away from July. When was everyone due? My baby was due 16th July. On the 1 year anniversary of the first loss.

@BettySwoll0cks that's si annoying they lost your paperwork. I'd be mightily pi55ed off! I am in the UK and use a London clinic.

@Pegase I always count as CD1 even if I start in the evening, not sure if I'm right to do that though.

Attaching the price list for the clinic I go to here for you x

I would also like to know about going private. Just on CD 0.5 today (period just started now so is today CD1 or tomorrow?!) after what was only a 9 day luteal phase. Can't be good.

Hi everyone by the way! Have been trying to put TTC to the back of my mind over Easter to enjoy the break (although now rubbish that 1st 'real' cycle after mc2 was not successful)

Hi @InDreamland, are you on the private system in the UK? Do you mind me asking if it's extortionately expensive? I feel so let down by the NHS since I found out they 'lost' my referral to the RMC, setting me back another 5 months. I'm thinking about investigating going private too.

Thanks @Bentley111. I just thought feeling so low with having had a few baby bombs this year and just had another one today you ladies didn't need to hear all that. I've been so wrapped up in my own issues. Yep, think we're all at that stage of should have been x weeks. I'm supposed to be 28 weeks, almost 29. Plus that feeling of if I hadn't lost my first in July then that baby should be 12 weeks old now and I should be on maternity leave. Everything is a reminder and I'm constantly thinking I shouldn't here or doing this because I'm supposed to be at home with my baby.

The antibiotics are for an infection which apparently lives in the vagina which doesn't show any symptoms but it was affecting DHs sperm DNA and quality which is strongly linked to causing MCs. So we're both on a 2 week course. Should finish the course around Ov this cycle. This was all found through the private clinic.

Definitely worth getting your men tested for sperm quality and DNA fragmentation if you have the funds. Just in case it's them. So much focus is on the woman but often it is the man causing the unexplained infertility or MCs.

Fx for all of you still trying this cycle!

Hi @InDreamland, thanks for sticking your head in. You definitely aren't dragging any of us down. Sorry to hear about the antib's - what infection is that? Sounds worrying but glad it's under control.
I'm so sad to hear you're still trying I should be 30 weeks on Friday, packing my hospital bag and enjoying my last few weeks of work before mat leave... it is awful isn't it...?

@Kinsters how are you feeling today? I'm feeling so bloated. Not a usual LP symptom for me but realistically know that at 4dpo it's 100% not a sign of anything else!

Hi ladies

Thank you for asking after us @edidxb and @Bentley111. I'm still hanging around on mumsnet but dropped off this thread as I felt I was constantly just dragging things down with my low mood as have been finding things really hard, plus just been so busy with work so couldn't really keep up. Still on the TTC after pregnancy loss thread as always been a little more active on that although been struggling to keep up with that one too. DH and I have both been put on a course of antibiotics for an infection which shows no symptoms that is affecting DHs sperm quality and DNA - via private clinic. Currently on CD4 of another very light AF. I have been feeling really down as all chance of a 2019 baby now is gone. I should either have a 12 week old baby now from mc#1 or be 6 months pregnant from mc#2 (well we should all be around 6 months pregnant).

How are you all? Hope everyone is well. Have I missed any new BFPs?

Glad you've had a good weekend @BettySwoll0cks - that's terrible. If you have the funds/insurance/work perks to do so, I would certainly try to go private. No experience of fertility but we have private healthcare through DHs work - he had a large op 2 years ago. 6 month wait list on the NHS was reduced to 3 days private. It's sad, but if it's at your disposal, do it.

I hope you've submitted a complaint too?

It's tough isn't it @Kinsters! I've noticed some creamy cm this morning but just trying to ignore it... also I'm ravenous but convincing myself that's because I'm a pig, not because we dtd at the right time 😬

My DSis picked up her puppy this afternoon and is spamming me with pics, a very welcome distraction!

Glad to hear everyone's had a good Easter weekend. We've been down on the coast in this amazing sunshine. Total heaven.

I had a call from my dr's surgery today, I asked last week if they could chase my appt at the RMC because the letter went off at Christmas and I hadn't heard anything. Had a voicemail today saying that Cambridge had never received the referral, so now I am at the back of the queue again. I'm furious - especially since I have now lost another 5 months which I really don't have to lose.

Am thinking of going private now, I'm sick of this. Has anyone else had private treatment? It won't be ivf, probably a Clexane/ progesterone protocol or something.

Just the usual luteal phase symptoms - nausea and breasts a little bit tender. Trying to ignore it.

Work is soooo quiet for me at the moment as well. Too much time to Google and read mumsnet lol.

It's such a pain isn't it! What symptoms do you have?
I'm dreading this week at work - it has been very quiet over the Easter break. - but hopefully a short week will make it go faster. I just wish there was a way to distract myself.

Definitely use one up. How many do you have left?

Fx'd this cycle will stick!

Haha yeah, my first few days were easy cause we were on holiday too. Now I'm symptom spotting at 5dpo!

I'll probably test on Sunday at 10dpo or maybe Monday morning, may as well use one of my FRERs. I seem to get pregnant on 50% of the cycles that we time correctly (since I got a proper period after coming off birth control anyway), they just don't stick around.

@Kinsters October birthdays are the best 😬
Yay for the spike!!
I'm 3dpo today, so 2 days behind you by the looks of it. So pleased it's been a long weekend as the first 2 days post O have flown by 😂 I'm determined to keep busy and not symptom spot this cycle.
When are you planning on testing?

That sounds like such a nice weekend Bentley! Also your birthday is the day before mine! Where in your cycle are you at the moment? Did you just ovulate? I remember you saying you thought you might be about to.

My chart is looking good today, temp has started to rise a bit after being fairly stable the past few days. Hopefully it will carry on going up and up!

Hope everyone had a lovely Easter weekend?

Sounds like you had a fab time diving @Kinsters - how's your chart looking today?

How are you feeling @edidxb? Sorry you had to work this weekend, hope you are taking it easy.
Your bean is due the day before my birthday 🍰

Had such a nice long weekend. My horses were placed in the top 5 in each of their classes, we went to the beach with the dogs, had some friends over... had a few glasses of Pimms, went in the hot tub, ate soft cheese & charcuterie - all the things I wouldn't be able to do if I was pg.... as much as I can't wait to be pregnant again and I think about the baby we lost all day every day, this was perhaps the first time since the miscarriage that I've not minded not being pregnant, if that makes any sense.

@Frazzlerock, @Rose68, @InDreamland - please do feel free to stick your heads in. I hope you're all ok

Hey edi hope the second trimester is easier for you than the first! Have you told everyone yet?

My chart is still looking nice. Hopefully my temperature will start to climb a bit tomorrow.

So sad being back at work this week! Hope you're all enjoying the long weekend and sunny weather.

Happy Easter everyone!
Hope all works out @Bentley.
Fantastic news with both scans @tigsy and @buggles. My EDD is 13th October so just a week or two ahead of you both.
Sounds like a great time diving @kinsters.

Hope everyone is OK. I'm catching up but now it's gone onto a new page and I can't read everyone's responses from before so now I can't remember anything I was going to say!

I hope some R&R this weekend means we can get to some more BFPS.
We don't celebrate Easter in Dubai but Friday was the weekend anyway. We had work today but it was a PD day so only half a day so I can't complain at all really. It is getting HOT though now!

I'll try and write again when there are some more comments on this page and then I can actually try and respond to people!

I hope everyone is OK that has gone quiet on the thread recently like @frazzle, @rose68 and @indreamland. It's such a hard journey for us all that I hope that if people drift away they are still OK.

x

Well done @Bentley, fx all works out this time.

Also v jealous @kinsters... that sounds amazing.

Happy Easter everyone.

Yay for dtd Bentley! Fx for a nice temp rise now. It was sooo nice to go away for a few days and diving is always really relaxing. We missed out on seeing a whale shark but saw some nice turtles and reef shark. Diving will definitely be the thing I miss most when we have kids! Probably have to hang up my fins for a few years..

@DartmoorDoughnut "no babe, I'm definitely not hungover.." 😂😂

@tigsyboo I would be fuming in your shoes... July is a way away yet though, perhaps he'll reconsider by then?
Happy anniversary!! Have a lovely night away xx

@Kinsters so very jealous! Hope you're having a good time 🐠

We finally managed to dtd, both last night and this morning. Due to O either today or tomorrow so 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Sounds like everyone's got a nice weekend planned! I'm on a beach on one of the islands off Malaysia, doing some scuba diving and just chilling out.

I like the sound of your three guys Bentley!

That's thoughtless about the due date Tigsy. I don't think guys look at it the same way we do. I'm not sure my DH would even remember the due date.

Aargh @Bentley111 what is it with men?! As if women who were ttc would go out on the piss on O day, why don't they think?!?

I'm pissed off with my DH - he's arranged a lads night away on the DUe date for our baby we lost. Apparently it's fine because I'm pregnant again - if I wasn't he wouldn't have gone?! Wtf? I don't know if the explanation helps or makes me think he's more of a dick!! Trying not to make it into a row as it's our 1st wedding anniversary tomorrow and we are going away for the night to Chester for the weekend tomorrow and also plan to do the public announcement too (although I've sent separate gentler messages to those I know are trying/struggling to let them know).

@Bentley111 sounds more like a hangover daft sod! Have a lovely weekend x

Wow @Kinsters that's an impressive temp spike! Everything crossed for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@DartmoorDoughnut fingers crossed 🤞🏼 sounds like a lovely day, have a good time

DH came home far too drunk to dtd last night... then woke up this morning feeling sick & headachey. Apparently he's coming down with something we've not argued but I am really hurt that he's not taking this more seriously.
I'm doing some freelance riding work today then off to a 2 day competition tomorrow with 3 tall, dark handsome men each with 4 legs, a mane & tail 😬 so a lovely weekend planned even if we don't manage to BD.

@Bentley111 I think I ov’d CD14 or thereabouts but I’m going off CM rather than testing and it wasn’t definite this month, egg white is normally very easily identifiable for me so I’m wondering if I didn’t ovulate this month, guess we’ll just wait and see!

Off to my parents today with the boys and the dogs but minus DH as he wants to get on with some things at home that are impossible to do with children around aka painting doors! Hope everyone has a lovely Easter

Fingers crossed Kinsters