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The July 19ers - The rollercoaster continues, scream if you wanna go faster

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Frazzlerock · 26/02/2019 07:35

We can do this ladies.

We can take on anything

The July 19ers - The rollercoaster continues, scream if you wanna go faster
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Buggles1 · 27/02/2019 06:13

Not yet Kinsters no. I told her about the mc at Xmas and so I assume she thought it best not to mention she was also 12 weeks then. She lives up in Birmingham so I’ve not seen her since. Feel like I need to know if this pregnancy will stick before I can move forward with it all. I guess that is wrong and I should support her whatever but it just hurts too much at the moment.

Kinsters · 27/02/2019 01:12

Rose thrush is the worst! Until this bout I hadn't had it for years and had forgotten how awful it is. Are you about to ovulate? I don't know if it's a coincidence but both times for me it's cleared up after ovulation.

Tigsy wow, that's amazing! You'd better get looking for somewhere to move to!

Buggles glad to hear you're OK. Does your sister know you're pregnant?

Sore boobs is definitely the flavour of the month this luteal phase for me! Preferable to gassyness and nausea at least. Also I'm sick with a cold which sucks, sleep has been awful the last two nights although my temperature still seems pretty steady which is nice to see.

InDreamland · 26/02/2019 22:14

@Frazzlerock I'd also keep the appointment. Sorry you're going through such a tough time at the moment. I wish I knew what to say that could help x

InDreamland · 26/02/2019 22:13

@Rose68 I hope that thrush clears quickly.

InDreamland · 26/02/2019 22:12

@Pegase I'm so sorry it's ended like this but glad you're booked in so quickly Flowers

@tigsyboo that's amazing! Should've asked for more Wink

tigsyboo · 26/02/2019 22:04

Omg .... our house went on Rightmove yesterday.... 3 asking price offers today!!
Just agreed 3k over asking price!!!

Rose68 · 26/02/2019 19:42

Oh god this thrush is killing me 😩

Buggles1 · 26/02/2019 16:58

Just catching up... thanks for starting yet another thread Frazzle. V much hoping you’ll be sticking with us.
So sorry to hear about your situation Pegase but glad they are now sorting things out quickly.
I really need to start viewing this thread on a pc cause it’s so hard remembering all the things I want to comment about on the mobile app!

I’ve been feeling very tired the last week. Hearing about my sister’s pregnancy has struck me much harder than I thought it would. It hasn’t helped with the sleep situation. Otherwise my slight nausea is being suppressed (but waistline sacrificed) by the occasional biscuit. Have doc appointment on Thursday. Really hoping I can get a reassurace scan, although I also hate the sight of the EPU now.

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Frazzlerock · 26/02/2019 15:21

Thank you @edidxb I will go along.

I watched Abducted in Plain Sight and it was chilling very very weird! I don't want to give anything away but WTAF?
I then binge watched Russian Doll with DP over the weekend which was incredible and very entertaining!
I'm also watching the Ted Bundy Tapes which, like Abducted, is also seriously chilling. It's really uncomfortable to watch but quite compulsive viewing.

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edidxb · 26/02/2019 14:26

@pegase - I am so pleased you are coming to the end of it all - it is sad, but you will feel better once the procedure is done. Like you say - you can then move on to trying again. Thoughts with you for tomorrow.

@frazzle - I am so sorry you are going through such a shit time again. Your DP and yourself have gone through so much, and there is so much pressure on you both. I would urge you to go to acupuncture though this week. I really enjoyed my sessions and I really feel that they helped. I felt a LOT calmer when having it, and also I conceived on the first cycle of acupuncture both times and before I went before the July BFP it had taken me 6 months of trying. It doesn't work for everyone, but it also sorted out my digestion and also helped me to sleep better. I hope that you and DP can reduce some of the pressure to allow you to get TTC again.

@Twittle - how are you feeling? Did you get anywhere with the midwife today?

@buggles - how are you?

@kinsters - yay to ovulating! Fingers crossed this is your month especially if you did everything right. Now it's just the TWW to get through!

@tigsy - I didn't really get any symptoms apart from feeling tired this time around until 6 weeks. And now I feel atrocious! I also saw that Daily Mail story and it did give me hope.....

@dartmoordonought - welcome!

I've really struggled with work this week and in fact everything. Has anyone seen Abducted in Plain Sight on Netflix - watching it now - it's crazy stuff!

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Frazzlerock · 26/02/2019 13:47

@Dartmoor I wish I was pragmatic like you. DP is super pragmatic. I'm not sure it is something you can learn to be either... Trust me I have tried! I'm in awe at your strength regarding TTC and moving on.

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DartmoorDoughnut · 26/02/2019 13:03

@TwittleBee I’ve not been in your position but I think you need to just allow yourself to feel the sadness, if you try to ignore it it’ll build up everything crossed for this pregnancy for you Flowers

@Pegase hope the Dr but wasn’t too long and you’re home soon Flowers

@Rose68 yeah I hope once it’s done I’ll just be able to move on, I’m pretty pragmatic so that should be the case but fingers/everything crossed that I’m pregnant and it sticks so I don’t have to mind!

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Frazzlerock · 26/02/2019 12:14

@Pegase, I'm pleased it has finally been sorted for you xx

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Kinsters · 26/02/2019 11:42

Pegase I'm glad it's all been arranged quickly for you. Mine was only my first loss but the worst time for me were the days between confirmation of miscarriage and ERPC. Be gentle to yourself for the next couple of weeks and, if you can, take the time to relax and grieve.

TwittleBee · 26/02/2019 11:40

I am so so sorry you are going through this again but at the same time relieved they arent making you wait any longer or requiring another scan or anything Pegase

Rose68 · 26/02/2019 11:37

Oh Pegase it’s so shit, I’m so sorry x

@Frazzle I also think you should keep the appointment, I have found the acupuncture has helped with other things as well as ttc. Mood and feeling more able to cope in general mainly, also possibly pmt, but that might be the dhea. Plus you may well carry on ttc and then you will wish you had gone. x

Rose68 · 26/02/2019 11:32

@Dartmoordoughnut resentment is definitely a problem! I wanted to ttc when I was 41, and I do believe it would have been possible then. But he only agreed to it when I was 43, probably because he knows he will get loads of sex & no baby. I switch between resenting him like mad and understanding his point of view. I have friends whose DH’s had the snip after 2 DC and they found themselves in a good place because it was no longer an option & they could move on with their lives. x

Pegase · 26/02/2019 11:31

ERPC booked for tomorrow finally! One more hoop to jump through to discuss with Dr and then can get out of here. Can't really believe I am relieved to get this outcome but at least can start trying again when this is all over

DartmoorDoughnut · 26/02/2019 11:22

@Pegase hope all is ok Flowers

@Rose68 I am worried I’ll really resent DH for taking the choice away from me BUT I can understand his reasoning and have to support him, or I have to hide his car keys and mine the day of his appt next month! Grin

@Frazzlerock you might as well keep the appt, either way it might help you feel better x

Rose68 · 26/02/2019 09:55

@Pegase thinking of you x

Pegase · 26/02/2019 09:44

Hmm that is tricky. Completely know what you mean- my DH also has been warily watching me going caffeine-free etc as some sort of 'sign'

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Frazzlerock · 26/02/2019 09:43

@Rose no he hasn't definitely pulled the plug but from the way he is talking, he doesn't want this and never did. And he thinks he won't get a job and we will get repossessed so he's not in the right frame of mind. I don't think he ever will be again after the talks we've had yesterday.

@Pegase I don't mention it, ever. As I fear it will cause pressure. It's all the stuff I do in the background like temp taking and altering my diet and taking supplements. I don't talk about any of it but the mere fact that I do it, is pressure enough.

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Pegase · 26/02/2019 09:38

Do you think we could bulk buy FRERs like get a case and then send them out to all of us. Save us some £££

@Frazzlerock what if you just don't mention TTC to him at all for two weeks and see if that relieves the 'pressure' he feels. I know you shouldn't have to but sometimes I use this thread to vent /obsess/ discuss so DH doesn't get it.

TwittleBee · 26/02/2019 09:25

so sorry you do need to be at the bloomin EPU Pegase I hope it goes as well as it can. Thinking of you xx

Rose68 · 26/02/2019 09:14

@Dartmoordoughnut my boys are 9 and 6 (almost 7), it seems like yesterday they were 4 and 2, time is going so fast, tomorrow they will be 15 and 13 😩

I really struggled when they were 4 and 2, in fact I ended up on citalopram. Now it is better, but of course I found it so hard I left it way too long before I wanted another and now I find myself at 43 fighting depression because I didn’t have that third child, and now it’s too late.

@Frazzle I think I’m confused, has DP definitely pulled the plug? Or are you thinking he is going to? I’m sure it’s all down to the job situation and once he has one all will be fine again, trouble it I know you feel like you can’t wait. x

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