The July 19ers - The rollercoaster continues, scream if you wanna go faster

Having a meltdown. Remembered I promised DH that I wouldn't test before AF was late so ran up to fish the test out of the bin before he gets home later... and there is a line.
It's really faint but it's there. The lid had fallen off the test so the nib was exposed, could it have got contaminated? Picked the test apart so the line shows better. There was only an empty loo roll and tube of toothpaste in the bin. Surely only hcg would make a line run...?
I'm going to try and hold until DH goes to work in the morning & test again 🙈

Oh no 🤦🏽‍♀️ feel your pain Betty... FW sex is always so unsexy for us probably why neither of us want to do it.
I know he'd rather be watching sky sports, he knows I'd rather be sleeping. The "sexier" you make it, the falser it feels 🤦🏽‍♀️

That's so sweet of you to offer Bentley! It's OK though, postage is really expensive and also unreliable.

Argh Betty at least it was quick 😂 we once kept at it for ages and then gave up because he was tired and I needed a wee.

@Kinsters I know just how you feel, I'm a serial FRER waster and I always kick myself after. Best advice is to leave it 2 days then go again 🤞

We had the least sexy BD ever last night. I think the issue of 'trying' is really taking its toll, there is no fun in it at all. I was just like "I'm so tired but it's a good time, do you want to?" And he was like "yeah ok" followed by fumbling about with Pre Seed in the dark then a quick shag, and 10 mins of me with my legs in the air while he fell asleep. 🙈

Are we able to send them out to you @Kinsters? More than happy to if you need some!

Perhaps if AF hasn't come tomorrow, use one? I know it's unlikely but stranger things have happened.

Thanks @DartmoorDoughnut - 🤞🏼 I'm 9dpo so could well have not even implanted yet. Ffs 🙈😂

@edidxb great news re NIPT results, fingers crossed for Thursday’s scan

@Bentley11 sorry about the FRER, hopefully it’ll be a +ve later in the week

@Kinsters hope temp stays raised and FRER gives a happy result!

It is a pretty chart right!? My clearest one for a while. And yes, I was very surprised when it went up this morning. Especially because I woke up from a really deep sleep which normally gives me a low temp. Still no AF and the spotting was just a tiny amount at lunch time (which I had when I was pregnant). Ahh I'm stupidly getting my hopes up. Maybe I'll test tomorrow if my temp is still up... I only have 4 FRERs though and can't get more so it would more than likely be a massive waste.

Sorry about the BFN. I don't know why we do this to ourselves... It's just stressful and pointless. But I know I'll be joining you in this stress next month! I think it's basically impossible to chill out about it.

@kinsters the upwards peak today is peculiar. Shame you aren't as it is a lovely graph.

Stupid urge to POAS, not even FMU, or SMU for that matter. Just saw them on the side. It's so early but I've now upset myself as it's a whiter than white BFN AND I've wasted a FRER. Why do we do this to ourselves?

My temperature did pop back up this morning though so in the back of my mind I'm thinking of course my ovulation must have been later than all the signs suggested!

Yay for good NIPT results edidxb and fx for Thursday! Can you find out the sex from the NIPT results?

Bentley no way I'm pregnant sadly, we didn't dtd until 2dpo and I'd already had a temp rise/positive opk so I'm pretty sure of ovulation date. A little bit of spotting just now so might start today or tomorrow.

Huge silver lining @Pegase 😍 hope you are having a great time!

Rubbish about AF @DartmoorDoughnut but at least your DH hasn't had the op. Glad he's around next month 🤞🏼

@BettySwoll0cks oh no I'm sorry it sounds like you've missed it 🙈 must be so frustrating when he's away.

@Kinsters hopefully it shows up soon. Is there no chance at all you could be pregnant?

@edidxb Bath is lovely too. Bristol is a bit of an odd one, lots of really wealthy areas then the next town along will be awfully deprived. It's quite sad. That's fantastic news about the NIPT results, huge weight off your shoulders. Fx'd for Thursday 🤞🏼🤞🏼 how are you feeling in yourself?

Hi all,
Nice new name @bentley - again, I will try my best!
I've never been to Bristol (properly). I did my PGCE in Bath and had a school placement in South Bristol, but I just went to the school and home again each day. It was a ROUGH school with so many problems. I never knew Bristol was so deprived until I had my placement there. My brother also did his MA in Bristol but I never visited. But it sounds great!

Sorry about AF @dartmoor - but that's great news about the snip!

@Pegase - Isn't it great to be on holiday! We have also broken up, but I'm on this stupid contract which means I am at work, but it's only 8-2 and there are no kids here so it's not too bad....the horse ride sounds fantastic!

@betty - did you manage to get anything in last night - it might still be OK?

@kinsters - that's great about your luteal phase. It must make you feel more confident for when you do fall pregnant again. It's so annoying what you can and can't get when you are out of the UK! We can get pregnacare here but it is literally twice the price of the UK. Thankfully the pregnant stuff I have got on prescription through my insurance so that's something.

I am 12 weeks this week (currently 12+2) and I have my 12 week scan on Thursday. I am SO petrified. I did however get the results of my NIPT test back (I checked and it was the Panorama brand) on Sunday and it was all clear - no signs of any chromosomal abnormalities so I am so pleased. They said it would take about 10 days to come back so I knew I was going to get the phone call any day and I was so worried. So that's another hurdle got through. Next hurdle is Thursday. My DH is away so I'm going alone which has it's positives but also would have been nice to have company.....

Have a great day everyone!

Bentley Yes there is a Malaysian mother's day but we always celebrated the English one so are in the habit of ignoring the Malaysian one anyway.

I just looked and vitabiotics sell pregnacare directly off their own website! I can order it from the local version of amazon but I don't trust it would be legit.

Pegase that sounds amazing!

Betty that's annoying about the timing. Does your DH go away a lot?

Dartmoor sucks about AF but yeah, at least you can still keep trying now!

Still no AF here so if it starts today then that's a 12 day luteal phase which I'm pleased with. I don't want it to delay too much though cause at the moment my next ovulation should be at the weekend when DH is home, he'll probably then be away the first part of the week so pushing it back a couple of days to Wednesday would be the worst timing.

The witch has rocked up two days early but on the plus side DH didn’t have the snip so I can try again and whilst he is away a lot this month he’ll be home during fertile window so fingers crossed!

That's a fantastic silver lining @Pegase, sounds fun!

I reckon we've missed it for this month. OPK tailing off this afternoon and CM drying up, DH has been away past 2 nights so we haven't managed to BD at the best time, and then he's off to Hong Kong anyway on Weds a.m. Oh well 🤷‍♀️

Hello all

No news from me- period has started post mc2 so currently on CD5.

@Bentley11 I went riding today and cantered through the sea ! Am on holiday. So a silver lining as never would have signed up to do that if pg!

Sorry @Kinsters 😬 @tigsyboo's & @Pegase's name changes had me so confused for days.
It must be so hard for your poor DH. I'm guessing they do have a MD in Malaysia though, just on a different day?

Thank you 🤞🏼 8dpo today, AF is due on Saturday so I will try to hold out until Friday I think. It is the first time we've given it a decent shot in terms of BDing at the right time since the m/c so I'm trying not to lose faith but I don't feel pregnant in the slightest.
I used to love Start the Bus 😋 the "secret bars" are fab! We were a little boring & stayed on the Triangle/Park Street but it was just nice to feel in my 20s again 😂 Cornwall is so amazing but I do feel like a pensioner here sometimes.

That's great about your LP. Fx'd it stays like that for you. I've found my cycle has gradually lengthened since the mc... perhaps it's that? Oh no, are you not able to order some online?!

Thanks Bentley (it'll take a while to get used to the name change!). It's not too hard a day as it's very easy to ignore here. I do feel very sad for my DH and the life that could have been though. It changes you as a person.

Fx for you this month! Are you planning on testing early? I miss Bristol and its cocktail bars! I used to love going to a couple of "secret" ones which did really great cocktails. And also had the best strawberry mojito in my life at Start the Bus! Nothing has ever come close to that...

No period today so my luteal phase is looking great! I've gone from 10 days (with spotting earlier than that) when I first started tracking to 12-13 days the last few cycles. The only thing I can think that's done it is the pregnacare (unless it's all just my body adjusting post IUD). Irritatingly I can't buy pregnacare over here and my supply is running out - I'll have to ask FIL to buy some cause he's visiting london soon!

Morning everyone, it's ratherbe, decided to have a bit of a name change 😊

Hope everyone was OK yesterday - must be especially awful for those who have lost mums/mils... big hug to you @Kinsters xx

Had a really nice evening on Saturday. Being back in Bristol was fab, my BF & I had a nice meal, some cocktails & just had a much needed 24hrs chatting!

My other BF had her baby on Saturday morning. Due to go and meet him on Friday. Bricking it...

8dpo... feeling as if AF might come early, lots of horrible cramps (so chances are we are out).

@BettySwoll0cks it sounds like it may be worth a purchase. My issue is not taking my temp as soon as I'm up... I snooze or forget so not consistent... which it sounds like it may overcome. Will look into Ovagraph too. Thank you x

@edidxb how exciting! Lucky you. Sorry to hear you fainted at work, must have been awful. Do they know yet?

Hey dartmoor hopefully this is your month! Yesterday was fine for me, its not mother's day in Asia plus we kind of ignore the holiday since DH's mum died. I've also noticed that many people doing "happy mothers day" posts on social media have included a little bit about those who may not be so happy. The attached was my favourite - with the caption "HMD to those that celebrate, love and light to those that lament." I thought it was a nice sentiment.

My ovulation is looking like it might be at the weekend next cycle so should be in with a chance!

Hey guys, hope everyone is ok? I’m trying desperately to catch up, got in a bit of a funk last month about not being pregnant so hid the thread 🙈

The one thing I managed to retain is Twittle that is fab news about the job and the second tri!

I’m due on in a few days and obvs hoping the witch won’t turn up.

Really hope today hasn’t been too hard for everyone

Oh and I meant to say I'm 11dpo today and still no AF so fingers crossed my luteal phase has got a bit longer (I used to spot on 10dpo and CD1 at 11dpo so 10 day luteal phase which I worried was too short).

InDreamland glad you've got some answers (though sorry it wasn't good news). How is your DH taking it? I remember you saying you wouldn't do ivf. There are definitely things he can do to improve his sperm.

Rose yay for skiing! I didn't use an app but a couple of the guys on the holiday used strava to measure their speed... the fastest got up to 118kmph on skis!! Hope you have a great time.

Edidxb oh no about fainting at work! I assume they know you're pregnant now? Lucky you getting to meet Prince Edward! I'm definitely a royalist at heart.

Betty I think I'd have the same issue with ovusense, I ovulate pretty regularly so not sure if it's worth the investment. That's great that DS is sleeping better.

We're pretty much decided that we'll start making plans to move cities. FIL is very keen as he thinks it will be good for DH's career and that the place we'd move to would be better for us to start a family.

This month off has just been really relaxed. I've loved not checking the pregnancy points on fertility friends all the time and obsessing over every "symptom". I don't think I can maintain that zen when there's a possibility of pregnancy. I wish I could though!

Morning all, @ratherbe the ovusense thing is funny. It's good for me because I know the temps are accurate despite broken sleep (although, tempting fate, I seem to have managed to get DS sleeping through....) but for me it hasn't told me anything new just confirmed that I Ov like clockwork on CD15/16. The app is a bit rubbish (you can't log anything except temp) so I just transfer the bbt over to my OvaGraph app which I love. I'm going to keep doing it for another couple of months because I've started on the supplement plan from It Starts with the Egg and I want to see whether that disrupts my cycles at all x

Hi all,
Sorry, it's been a week since I posted, and what a week! I had year 11 prom on Friday night and managed to stay out until 10pm. I was SO tired.
I fainted at work.
We had HRH Prince Edward visit school (long story but v excited as I got to shake his hand and have a little chat). No photo of me doing it though so v sad about that.
Then my DH went away to the UK for work.
And now my Mum is here to visit!

Just been trying to catch up. Congrats @buggles and @tigsy on successful scans. I am so so happy for you.
@indreamland - I'm sorry the sperm results don't seem result. The only good thing is that you know now and can try and pave a path forward? Good luck with getting DH to that appointment.
@rose68 - have an amazing time skiing. Where are you going? I think I am too scared to ski these days - maybe I coud do a green run but not much more!
@twittlebee - congratulations on your new job. I am so so happy for you as I know that must have been so stressful. 15 weeks - wow!
@ratherbe - hope you are OK. I love you horse so much!
@kinsters - how are you now you've had a month off? Will the timing next month be OK?

Love to all.