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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The One Full Of Coconuts and BFPs

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ChikiTIKI · 20/02/2019 07:33

Just setting this up before we run out of space on the other thread.

@Carastarchild @LondonKez I will tag more people later today.

Anyone not on previous thread is welcome to join too. A friendly group of people supporting each other through TTC xxxx

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ChikiTIKI · 09/04/2019 18:51

how is everyone doing? Lent seems to be taking forever!! i admit i am back to watching TV now however have stayed off the internet almost completely. havent used my ipad at all.

i am on CD14 now. thinking i may ovulate any time in the next 10 days!! feeling more chilled this month. i think its partly because i have been with out my TTC app for so long so i am not logging anything apart from writing down AF dates on a bit of paper.

hope you're all having a good week.

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ChikiTIKI · 02/04/2019 20:07

glad to hear youre fine now @PineappleC there's no use pretending we are fine when we are not. it's better to have a good cry and then dust ourselves off.

it would be nice to have a bfp by July... we will see though..! i am pretty sure if i have another baby it will be my last one. i want to enjoy the pregnancy which wont be easy since the MC and the birth first time around being so awful. i am so sad that my last pregnancy didnt work out but i think now its 5 months since the bfp i am in a better mental state to deal with it all again. i have gone through the stress of medical appointments etc all over again and survived and so i feel better prepared this time.

its amazing how fast time goes by... i can't believe it.

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PineappleC · 02/04/2019 09:29

Aww thanks @Londonkez and @ChikiTiki 🤗 Its funny how it just hits you - I had been thinking I was okay and probably going to get some tests done soon, but then I just felt so hopeless all of a sudden. I think it also didn't help that i has a stressful day at work and I'm mainly blaming stress for the lack of BFP! I am fine now thanks, and looking forward to a long weekend this weekend for my DHs birthday 😊

@Chiki yes that will be hard in July I'm sure. I can't really imagine the emotional rollercoaster a MC can bring. Hopefully you will have a BFP before then which would be a fantastic silver lining 😊

@Londonkez glad you had a good weekend! Yeah im really enjoying my nieces and nephews too, but just not the "I wish you'd both just get on with it"-type comments from MIL!!

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ChikiTIKI · 01/04/2019 21:58

im sorry @PineappleC about your train journey. we never know when the emotions of TTC will hit us. i am quite sad we didnt conceive this month although i would have been a bit worried to be around the chickenpox virus while first pregnant i think. i am wondering how i feel when we get to july which would have been my due date... i cant believe how quickly time goes. i think i am in denial most of the time as its just too hard to imagine what my baby would have been like, even though i already have one.

are you feeling ok now?

my cycles are back to normal now it seems which is good news. maybe this will be the month!

sounds like youve had a fun weekend @LondonKez its good to be busy with family and friends. a good kind of tired i think :)

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LondonKez · 01/04/2019 19:21

Aw! @PineappleC bless you! That's definitely happened to me on the tube. I have a huge family and spending the day with all my nieces and nephews actually made me feel loads better. Weirdly, I find they're a great distraction!

@chikitiki that's definitely promising that your cycles are shifting. Fingers crossed it's all positive from here!

@38notcounting @carastarchild how are you both getting on?

I'm CD11 and heading into my FW. Pretty exhausted after a weekend with both families though! Xx

PineappleC · 01/04/2019 18:47

So I just gave up my seat on the train to someone whose pregnant, and now standing on the train bawling my eyes out thinking that might never be me 😂😂 Its kinda sad but I've got to laugh really.

@Chiki that sounds promising that your cycle was pretty similar to how it used to be then? I guess it's still pretty gutting when you're so convinced with symptoms. I hope you are feeling better now 😊

Hope those of you with kids had a good mothers day yesterday! For us it brought up the inevitable "oooh hopefully that'll be you next year" from well-meaning family who obvs have no idea we're struggling. I still wish ppl would be a bit more thoughtful about commenting!!

How is everyone getting on? X

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ChikiTIKI · 30/03/2019 12:38

hi @PineappleC i agree its best just to keep DTD and not to worry about the other details so much.

before MC my cycles were about 32 days and before first baby they were about 35 days. i am not pregnant this month. ended up with a 32 day cycle though. got my period very late, just before bed on wednesday so i am counting CD1 as the next day. so i am on CD3 now.

thinking about last cycle, as i'd had quite a few very very short cycles, i think we stopped DTD a bit earlier than we should have. i dont blame myself though. i was so exhausted from the constant periods and constantly thinking i was about to ovulate.

i was quite shocked when i got the BFNs as i felt SO sick. my child had just come out in chickenpox though. and although i have immunity to it, i wonder if it was my body fighting off the virus that made me feel so sick. it was awful!!! i was just totally convinced i was pregnant. i will try to harden my heart a little to it next time and try to ignore "symptoms" as much as i can. hope it so strong though it can make me believe things so easily!!

sending love to you all for mothering sunday this weekend. whether we are waiting for our babies to come to us, already have babies with us or will see our children again in heaven one day, we are all mummies in our hearts xxxx

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PineappleC · 27/03/2019 18:48

Oh also when I say I'm not bothered about that, I mean not getting an opk peak...if I'm not ovulating at all it would obviously be a concern!😊

PineappleC · 27/03/2019 18:28

@38 Yes well done for carrying on with work!! As you say, I'm sure it helps to have something to focus on, but I think you're very brave 😊

@Chiki how confusing! I hope you find out one way or the other soon. How long were your cycles before MC?

@Londonkez sorry AF got you. It sucks! Xx

I am okay thanks. Currently cd12. I'm not sure whether I'm ovulating this cycle. Got a high (non peak) opk last night, and then a very faint one this morning. I'm only testing first thing and last thing, so might have missed it. I'm not too bothered about that though - the key thing being to carry on DTD regardless! Feeling surprisingly unenthusiastic about things at the moment. This is cycle 6 for me, so I think I've subconsciously accepted that we will struggle to conceive, and it's just a waiting game to go to docs/tests. Quite negative i know!!🤷‍♀️ Also a few pregnancy announcements this week, including one person who got pregnant on the pill, and one who is one of the biggest drinker i know. Alnost makes me feel like I should start doing the exact opposite to all TTC advice!!

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ChikiTIKI · 26/03/2019 22:21

@38notcounting i am glad to hear your bleeding is easing off. sorry you lost your voice. you are very strong to be carrying on with work. being busy can be good though. good luck with your presentation. not long til your weekend away. i hope you have a nice relaxing time where you and your OH can just be together :)

still no AF for me. still feeling nauseous but not that bad. dont think i am pregnant sadly but i am glad to be back to my normal long cycles again after the MC. just hope it doesnt end up being 45 days or something!! today is cd32 xxxx

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38notcounting · 26/03/2019 21:22

I'm feeling better thanks @chikitiki @LondonKez. Bleeding has almost stopped so hopefully will get back to normal soon. Think I must be a bit run down as I lost my voice over the weekend. I'm supposed to be giving a talk for work tomorrow so I'm hoping I'll be a bit less croaky then.

Work has been crazy busy the past couple of days so have thrown myself into that and trying not to think about anything else. Am looking forward to the weekend when we can just relax.

@chiki what a weird cycle. Hope you either get your BFP or if not the sickness goes away. That must be really horrible for you xxx

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ChikiTIKI · 25/03/2019 22:03

im alright thanks @LondonKez, how are you getting on? no period yet... just coming to end of CD 31 right now. still feeling sick throughout the day, eating more to make it go away but it comes back straight after. boobs really hurt still too. had another bfn on sunday though so dont think i am pregnant. its about 2 weeks now since we dtd so unlikely i will get a bfp now. quite concerned about why i am feeling so sick. probably just everyday "hormones" though... or some bug... will try to wait til weekend after family have gone home then test again.

thinking of you @38notcounting hope youre getting in some good rest and recovery xxxxxx

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LondonKez · 25/03/2019 19:34

How are you feeling @38notcounting? Thinking of you xx

@chikitiki @carastarchild @PineappleC how are you ladies getting on too? Xx

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ChikiTIKI · 23/03/2019 15:57

my boobs have never hurt so much in my life... does this sometimes just happen before AF?

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ChikiTIKI · 23/03/2019 13:50

@38notcounting i hope your cyst can be sorted out without any issues. please do come here for support.

@Londonkez @PineappleC i got the couraage to do a test earlier and it was a BFN clear as day. i dont feel like i may be pregnant, though, i feel like i KNOW i am!!! i will wait a while before testing again since it was totally blank. wont be anything visible tomorrow. got inlaws coming on wednesday so will take it after they leave. probably a week on sunday xxxx

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38notcounting · 23/03/2019 13:20

Thanks everyone. The mc itself seems to have been relatively straightforward so I'm just trying to keep busy at the moment and be positive that we can do it - it just wasn't meant to be this time.

They also found a 6cm ovarian cyst when they scanned me so I need to go back for follow up on that too - it never rains but it pours!

Thanks for all your support. We hadn't told anyone irl so it's great to be able to come on here xxx

LondonKez · 23/03/2019 12:27

I'm so sorry @38notcounting. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. Enjoy your time with your husband and know we are all thinking of you. We're here to help xx

@chikitiki good luck! I hope this is it for you. When do you plan on testing? xx

@PineappleC keep up your positivity. I know it can be tough. Get a holiday booked! We always need something to look forward to xx

I'm CD2, but I'm ok. I didn't expect anything this month so I don't feel too disappointed. Onwards and upwards xx

PineappleC · 23/03/2019 12:08

Also thanks everyone for your thoughts 😊Although I'm still feeling pretty positive overall now that my cycles are moving in the right direction it's still bloody frustrating that it's cycle 6 and still nothing. I know ppl have been going much longer so I shouldn't complain, it's just a bit frustrating. Also work has been horrid this week, and marathon training is getting tough, so feeling a bit fed up overall! Could definitely do with a holiday! Cd9 today for me so going to start with the opks later 👍

@Chiki that sounds exciting!! When are you planning to test??

@Cara sorry to hear AF got you and hope the cramping stops soon!

@Londonkez how are you doing? Hope AF has stayed away 🤞

PineappleC · 23/03/2019 12:02

Oh @38 I'm so sorry to hear that 😥 Always gutting when ppl come back on here for that reason. How are you feeling today? I think you're right in that a weekend away is a great idea just to try and relax and take stock, but I can't imagine how horrid this must feel. Sending you lots of hugs xx

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ChikiTIKI · 23/03/2019 11:36

oh no @30notcounting i am so so sorry about your miscarriage. i am so gutted for you. it must have been such a shock. how are you feeling? are you coping ok? do you have family and friends to support you? you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers xxxxxx

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38notcounting · 22/03/2019 20:15

@chiki I really do hope it is your month. I can so understand the too scared to test thing. Wishing you loads of good vibes xxx

38notcounting · 22/03/2019 20:11

Sorry not to have been on recently. Had a rubbish week starting with some light bleeding and culminating in a mc on Wedneasday - the sac didn't make it beyond 5 weeks. Feeling a bit numb at the moment but am trying to think positive.

Will be joining you all again ttc once my body settles down. One good thing is that my husband and I booked to go away next weekend months ago, so it has come at just the right time - we need a break.

Sorry for those of you got by AF and keeping my fingers crossed for everyone xxx✨✨✨✨💕💕💕💕

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ChikiTIKI · 22/03/2019 18:54

how are you @LondonKez? has AF stayed away? how are you feeling, any different to other months?

@LauraPalmersBodybag i am glad to hear from you and thats wonderful news about your early scan. what a blessing. im so pleased for you!!

@PineappleC i am sorry AF came for you :( fingers crossed for you having a christmas baby xxxx

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ChikiTIKI · 22/03/2019 17:17

oh no im sorry to hear that @Carastarchild. fingers crossed for your christmas baby.

i logged back on to check my last comment... so its only a week and a day since my EWCM ended. however... i totally feel like i am pregnant!! today is CD28. can't believe ive made it this many days in to a cycle! boobs sore but different to pre AF soreness on the sides. this is nipples and deep in to boobs and a more sharp feeling. felt quite sick today. my hips and back ache so much....

could just be mother nature playing a cruel trick though! i am too scared to test yet. will be back after tea to read further to see how youre all doing xxxx

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Carastarchild · 21/03/2019 21:43

My AF arrived yesterday...currently cd 2 and cramping a little. I said to my DH we really got to give it everything this month! My expected due date will be 25th of December if we are successful.

How is everyone else?