Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...2!

Yes feel very much the same, wish we'd started trying sooner. DH thought we were too old when we started trying, maybe he was right.....

My (younger) friend is due in about a month, not sure how I'll cope when she has the baby. Can't even avoid it because she's a work friend so will bring the baby into the office and photos will be circulated.

@Lexilooo...oh no way, so sorry Lexi. That always happens to me..I'm about to test when AF suddenly starts and I think fuck all of it! I've now just given up testing. What's the point? I also have a work colleague 10 yrs younger who will be going on mat leave this year and I'm feeling suddenly so old and that I've let life pass me by. Sorry so much doom n gloom on a sunny day. x

@Kristie2018.. that's good that you've talked to DH and come to a decision at least for now. That's all you can do really. Take it one step at a time. Wish you lots of luck and promise I won't forget you take care x

Thank you @booseysmom and @lexilooo

We’re taking a break. I’ll keep my vitamins and vitex going but that’s it. I can’t deal at the moment and my sanity vanishing wouldn’t help anything.

Husband promised to irritate the gp about his SA results since it’s now been almost 7-8 weeks and we have no answers.

AF will get me today or tomorrow.

I’ll check in on you lovelies. Don’t forget about me xx

Urgh AF is here, approximately an hour after buying a pregnancy test. Fucksake! So fucked off with this.

kristie and boosey you aren't alone, I had a little cry in the car today. Have had my work friends going on and on about how long it is until they go on Mat Leave all day then my hopes are dashed by AF 😫

@KristieP2018 .. it's just horrible when you feel AF looming. I had very bad pmt last time. Now at 47 I'm just too scared to ttc too seriously and so prob shouldn't be on here any more but I'd also really miss it if I wasn't on here. Hope you manage to have a heart to heart with DH and that you find some way through. You can pm me if you need to talk x

Thank you @booseysmom

I’d like to say I am but I’ve cried most of the day. It does help knowing I’m not alone. AF isn’t even here yet but I know in the next few days it will be. I just feel so defeated. Husband and I need to have a good sit down talk about it tonight. I don’t know how much more I can take right now.

@KristieP2018.. hope you're ok. I'm feeling the same if that's any consolation x

@Cleo I went for quality over quantity, but I did have a similar decision making stress x

I feel the same when I see all the pregnant mums at the school too, and the babies. I should have a 4 month old now.

So I am panicking - I have one round of clomid to try, but I can't decide weather to do days 5-9, 4-6 or 3-7. I want 3-7 for more eggs but I also want 5-9 for quality. What to do?! I don't want to waste it doing the wrong days. Any experts in the know?
I got my BFN today so can move onto the next cycle

@Hellenbackagen I'm so sorry you're feeling regret. I also have days like that. My tmfr was only in January so still early days. I look at her photos and she's perfect. I read about surgery for spina bifida which can be done in the womb and I think we made a terrible mistake.

We didn't.

Our girl was too poorly. The consultant told us that the surgery wouldn't have helped her. We have another DD, the course of whose whole life would have been changed had Lily survived.

It's hard. There's a pregnant mum at school who is glowing in the sunshine expecting her third. I almost cry when I se her. I should be about 33 or 34 weeks. Please be kind to yourself. You did the right thing for your baby

Well, bbt dropped again today. I’m out for sure. I’ve had two nursing schools friends (in their 20s) announce pregnancies this week. Why does it have to be so difficult to get pregnant? We’re timing everything right, I’m ovulating...come on! Feeling frustrated today.

I am very happy for those on here that get their bfps. Absolutely excited for all of you!

I don’t know how much longer we will keep trying honestly.

Great news mimosa! An end to the deadlock finally

Hellen - sending a huge hug, you are still grieving your loss clearly. Would a bit of counselling help maybe?

Cleo- great news on the LP! Fingers crossed it's actual pregnancy though!

AFM, finally i think i ovulated. I'm day 60 or something crazy like that. I had some EWCM two days ago and since then the hot flashes have subsided. thank god. i'll keep on keeping on....

@tisonlymeagain how old are your other kids? Mine are 11 and 16. I hadn't told them I was pregnant but I did tell my 16 year old after my miscarriage. I was really worried about telling her but she was amazing.
I am worried about trying again as this loss has been heartbreaking.
We are going to leave it a few months so can enjoy my birthday and our wedding on July!

Hi @Samk79 Sounds like we are in the same boat. I'll be 40 in the summer, planning to TTC in a few months. Will be my third, our first together and our fifth in total. We've made the decision to go for it, he wants to wait a few months, I want to crack on. We're going to discuss it tonight.

@Hellen It’s so important to remember the reasons why you made that decision and also to understand why you are feeling this way now. It is a massive thing to have to come to terms with, but I do think you made the right decision at the time.

@Cleo I know nothing about progesterone, but I think I would be keen to crack on with the next cycle.

AFM I am 9dpo and still stressing about skiing, but I have felt slightly nauseous and headachy this morning, which for me is normal a few days before AF.

Thanks, so I'll carry on until 14dpo and then stop (I'll take a test for fun, but I know its BFN due to plummeting RHR) it will be weird having such a long lp, but refreshing! I think I'll enjoy it more next cycle now I know it works.
Excited and anxious to try clomid now. Hopefully my overies will not explode.

Cleo sounds like its extended you're lp - result!

(As to when to stop hope the other ladies can help ....! )

Thank you ladies for being so kind 💐

karigan it stands for termination for medical Reasons (tfmr for short)

I worried that if she made it to term that there wouldn't be anyone to look after her when I died. She would not have been an independent adult. By the time she was 30 I'd have been 75.

It was fear for her future and not knowing who would look after her when I wasn't there anymore. 😥

Ok I see, it’s because of temperatures, does that mean definitely not then?

How do you know you aren’t pregnant Cleo? x