The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

Sending lots of hugs @Pegase, hopefully the little bean is just tucked away in an awkward position... I'm so, so sorry you are going through all of this anguish again. Hope your DH is looking after you xxxx

oh Pegase I am so sorry no idea what to say to you. This is so horribly cruel to happen again to you, I am just so sorry

Well almost certainly bad news. They could only see gestational sac on scan and nothing else. Want me to come back on Friday to confirm with a rescan but I should be 6+6 today so there definitely should be more.

Rather just a nice lunch and then either cinema or bowling (most likely bowling, its what we used to always do on our dates when we first got together)

That's fab @tigsy great news.... positive at 50miu at 12dpo is a fab result so must be a tough little bean.
Wtf is he going to achieve by calling you a "neurotic pyscho" when you're talking to him about vits and supplements ffs!

Good news @Twittle, what are you doing for his birthday? Some time alone sounds like it could be needed.

Good luck @Pegase xx

Thinking of you @Pegase xx

good luck Pegase is there much of a wait

It must be a male thing to just recoil and/or lash out in stressful situations rather than react in a way that would actually relieve the stress by connecting with your partner! Tbh I now try to not share the ins and outs with my DH unless necessary- that's why it's so useful to have you guys!!

Am sitting bored out of my brain in EPU. Have read the whole magazine I bought to occupy me. I just want to know one way or the other now.

that is bloody brilliant tigsy ! beautifully strong then! DHs can be dicks cant they! WHy do they do this to us when we are actually rather vulnerable?

I sent DH another text and actually he has said it was his fault last night, he is sorry and he does love all 3 of us very much.

It is his birthday Saturday, we are going out for the day just the 2 of us before our best mates come over later so wonder if this weekend will be a good time to reconnect and try and get back to where we were before the MMC

@TwittleBee my DH is the same
3 days ago in a mood for absolutely no reason told me he was 'dreading' the time I got pregnant again as I'd be 'a neurotic psycho' again -
Yesterday when I showed him the test as he was wfh he burst into tears and couldn't stop grinning!
This morning tried to speak to him about my worry over multi-vits 'overwhelming' my body and that I might just stick to folic, vit d and magnesium for next couple of months.... and I'm all the psychos under the sun!! I can't help wanting to do things completely differently to last time!!

@edidxb all the extra stuff your dr gave you, did they tell you the benefits? Do they think you have low progesterone??

My cbfm has caught up with the frer - I've read on clearblue sure that it measures 50miu and so that's quite a strong positive for 12dpo!!

Oh poor you Twittle how can he possibly say you're the one who wanted this when he was the one having unprotected sex?! Ffs.
It must be really tough him blowing hot and cold on you. Have you got much support from family etc? Hopefully he will come round after the scan when he see's it on the screen x

I dont know if he is Rather not like he was with DS. I asked him if he wanted to rub bio oil on me the other night, as he really enjoyed doing that in the evenings whilst we watched TV when I was Pg with DS as a way of connecting, but he just scoffed at me and carried on watching TV. Whenever I try and talk to him about any worries or pains or sickness issues I have he just replies with "well you're the one who wanted this". But then he has also been engaging in name ideas this time round with enthusiasm .

Thank you all, I hope so... everyone's body does seem to have done crazy things since our mc's so hopefully it's just that... opk's have just come through the post so will do a 4 hr hold (if I can!) and see what happens.

Big hugs Twittle. It must be awful to feel like you're just bumbling along with someone, especially when you're pg. That's great news re the promotion. Do you think he's worried about the pregnancy since the mc and just doesn't know what to do? Men aren't great at expressing their worries or fears, they just tend to insulate themselves is he excited about the pregnancy?

@Twittle I think sometimes men are just hopeless with really properly talking about how they really feel and think. I hope that he snaps out of it soon as you need some TLC x

@Rather it is early but could just be your body being funny, mc seems to do all sorts of weird stuff. I never know what my body is doing now. Hopefully it's a sign of a really healthy egg or something.

@Betty how are you this morning.

maybe your body is just getting super prepared Rather ?

Idk, I guess I just feel that we only coexist atm, i miss how close we used to be. Been feeling this way for a while now tbh, probably kicked off since he said he didnt want another baby around Xmas time. Just been loads of little things. It could be job stress but he has just been signed off for a promotion so I doubt he is worried about security now? I have tried asking him if everything is okay and he just says he is really happy etc and doesnt seem to show any sign of being down apart from how far away he feels from me now. Maybe I am just hormonal but I dont think that excuses the way he talks to me

@Twittlebee I don’t blame you for retaliating, it sounds like he’s being very frustrating!

@Pegase I really hope today goes well for you. Keeping my fingers crossed. x

@Betty is the bleeding any better now?

@Rather that does sound a little early. I usually get ewcm on day 9 & it lasts for 5 days. Then O on day 14.

Oh Twittle that sounds really frustrating, no wonder you flipped out back! Has he said sorry yet?
Is his job still under pressure? Maybe he can't handle "intense" conversations at the moment (no excuse to be a twat though). Hope you are ok. x

@InDreamland oh no 😂 it's so hard not to isn't it!

@BettySwoll0cks how are you this morning?

@Pegase Thinking of you today!

Had loads of EWCM this morning, I'm on cd6 & don't usually get any until 10. Waiting for my OPKs to come today or tomorrow so I can't even test. Surely you can't O this early?!

Not sure, InDreamland we had it out via text as I always find I get really over emotional if I try and talk in person and that pisses him off. He just kept denying it or twisting it round on me.

Yes don't start symptom spotting yet! So early haha but you know that. Impossible not to isn't it.

Hope you're having a lovely holiday @edidxb.

Sorry @Betty just read your update. Glad you got seen and have some medicine.

Oh @Twittle, any idea why he's being like that?

Hi ladies. Sorry, struggling to keep up, this is one fast moving thread.

@tigsy CONGRATULATIONS! That is one very strong line!

@Frazzle

@Betty I hope you've seen your GP or at least called NHS Direct. That amount of heavy bleeding should be seen to.

I need slapping..........2dpo and I'm bloody symptom spotting! I'm such an idiot!!!!!

Apologies for the rant, just needed to write down how I feel to people who might care and understand?

Urgh, DH seriously pisses me off sometimes, well quite a bit lately. He does this thing where he just shuts down a conversation I want to start. Usually it's about some news topic or a theoretical query, usually quite "high" level conversation he will do this to although can be mundane ones too. He just shouts at me until I give up trying to talk. Well I just flipped back tonight and it's resulted in a shouting match with me now in bed alone and sad. It's hard to describe but it really feels like he just doesn't want to hold conversations with me lately and I've noticed he is pretty much always on his fricking phone now (I know I can be bad but he has really ramped it up).

@BettySwoll0cks hope the meds sort your bleeding out... how awful!!!