The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

Oh tigsy how horrible. Why are men like this? It's weird but seems a really common attitude.

Omg I'm so upset. DH promised me we'd do smep plan this month, I pointed out it would be around court and he said it was fine.... Cd9 - shunned me mid foreplay. Said he was fed up of 'the bulshit' and I never make any effort (not true!!) - yesterday cd10 - I made an effort, spent 15 mins on top of his kissing him, doing oral on his limp dick and nothing!! Turned into a fucking massive row about how I'm now 'being fake'. Went to sleep
Woke up this morning and he's still in a mood - told me basically he hates our sex life, it's shit, I'm crap - all a load of complete bullshit btw!! Said he's not interested in sex at the mo and all the shit with ovulation and OPK and temping is just rubbish and it's for 'gullable idiots like you who obsess about it and make them money with their shit you buy' and he expects me to stop it all and we will just do it when he is in the mood - which is no time soon!! I start shouting 'do you even want a baby' and he says of course!!! Wtf?! How can he want a baby but not have a single clue about it! I'm so angry!!
He's basically written off this month because he's an idiot!!

I never used to feel nauseous pre AF but since MC my pre AF symptoms seem more pregnancy like. I'll see what my temp does tomorrow and test if it's still high. I left my tests in a baking hot car for a few hours though - don't know if that might have damaged them somehow.

Twittle glad your DH is looking after you well. The uncertainty is just awful. At least you don't have too long to wait until Tuesday.

Sounds like a proper nice evening ahead though rather !

kin FX!

frazzle oh so frustrating that you have PCOS! Urgh! Hope you do Ov this cycle and soon!

So update. Thank you for all asking after me btw. Wedding was beautiful and I managed to get through bridesmaid duties (including venturing out in the cold to hold the bride's dress up for the photos of her and the groom) but had to go up to bed early as back was killing me and I could no longer ignore the cramping and spotting. Was so hard to hold back tears.

Still sore and still cramping this morning. DH is being amazing though and looking after me.

@Kinsters that's really promising! Do you usually feel nauseous before AF? Will you test tomorrow?

Only 5. So it's very unlikely to be anything. But that doesn't stop my brain going into overdrive 😂

Frazzle yeah, waiting to ovulate is the worst. Just so boring.

I didn't test this morning (9dpo) but I was properly nauseous earlier. Even if the egg and sperm did meet I'm not convinced my lining would be good enough anyway cause my last period was so light.

How many dpo are you rather?

That sounds promising @kinsters 👏🏼 your afternoon sounds super relaxing. Very jealous...

Oh Frazzle  sending hugs xxx hope you have a fab time at Sleeper! You'll be fine once you get there 🍸

@BettySwoll0cks yay for dtd! Glad your DH is home. Positive thinking! Keep them 🤞🏼

Had a bit of a shit day today, drama in my friendship group... so my BF & her DP are coming over for wine, curry & board games.

Boobs are killing but desperately trying not to SS this month so pretending they're not 😬

Awwww Frazzle it is weird without the kids isn't it. You crave a bit of peace but then actually it just leaves a silence that your head fills with all sorts

DH was home from his travels and we finally DTD for the first time since my mc. CD12. We're aiming for every other day until I Ov and then the day after as well for good measure. I ordered a resupply of Viridian pro conception and they've sent me the pregnancy and breastfeeding one by mistake. Classic. Deciding whether to return it or whether to be optimistic and keep it for "when" I'm pg 🤔

Hope the spotting turns out to be nothing edidxb.

Do you have a bruise Rose? I bruised my bum so badly when we went snowboarding - sitting in a hot bath really helped so I'd second the heat pack suggestion.

I'm symptom spotting like mad here! I had an afternoon nap which I haven't done since I was pregnant. It was probably more to do with the late night, early morning and then skiing lesson followed by relaxing massage than anything else though!

Oh @edidxb fx it's just implantation- have you any cramps with it?
Glad you enjoyed Othello, I know what you mean about the feeling of a packed theatre.

@Rose68 I fell of my horse onto my coxix a few years ago. Grab some heat pads if you can xx

I also think it’s terrible to smoke in a car with passengers that don’t smoke, and to do so with a pregnant passenger is unbelievable.

@edidxb I’m not surprised you tested again, I’m keeping everything crossed for you.

@Twittlebee how are you getting on?

I am struggling somewhat to sit down, particularly on hard chairs and the floor. ☹️

Yes, would be good timing for implantation bleed @edidxb so fingers crossed x

Could be implantation @edidxb ?

I'm very jealous of the cold weather stories. I would love a snow day!
I went to see Othello yesterday and I've never studied it or seen it before so it was a bit hard going for the first 30 mins or so but I got into it it was 3 hours in total which is a long time to concentrate after the craziest work week ever but there is something about being in a full theatre that makes me feel good.
@kinsters my temps have been zigazgging the whole of the 2ww all above the cover line but 36.3 to 36.7 and back again and I got a BFP so there's hope yet.
@frazzle fantastic news about your DP. That would be brilliant if he worked by you. You could eat chicken and waffles every day!
@rose68 how is the injury today?
@Twittebee how was the wedding?

After posting on here yesterday with my positive test I then started spotting and spotted all day yesterday. I know it could be OK but I am still only 12DPO today so not even at the missed period stage. I do hope it's not a chemical. I couldn't help myself.and tested again yesterday but line no stronger so I am leaving the next test until Monday.

I think it's rude to smoke in a car full stop! Horrible.

I know one temperature isn't the be all and end all but my temp dropped today and I can't help but compare it to my pregnancy chart which was really lovely and smooth.

@Frazzlerock sounds like you have a long commute.

@Bettyswoll0cks I know what you mean about helping the world then going back to reality.

@Rose oh dear I hope you're ok. I'm sure anything in there will be well protected.

I think I'm tipsy. Had whisky to try get rid of this cold

@Frazzlerock Christmas Day 😔

Really @frazzle?! Don't get me too excited, I'll spend the next 2 weeks convincing myself I'm pg. Just want to curl up under a rock and wake up with either a BFP or AF (preferably BFP!! )

Aww Rose hope you're ok! They're fairly cushioned in there, if there was anything it would be fine. Coxis batterings are painful though

We have no snow either, yet 10 miles away cars have been abandoned and people slept in pubs etc last night... madness!

Well that was a lovely morning sledging and freezing my tits off! I finally get a go on the sledge with DS2 and we hit a rock, which my coxis took the full brunt of. The sledge is certainly broken, and I’m pretty sure if anything was going on inside me it wouldn’t have survived that jolt. 😢

@Frazzlerock I just read your earlier post about being last to conceive again, I a, right there with you, I haven't ovulated yet or DTD since my mc so I am most definitely behind the drag curve!!

@InDreamland I know me too, I was just saying (not very clearly) how amazingly strong that instinct is to want to rescue and protect little babies that almost immediately, your mind races forward into all the practicalities. Not wondering if I could cope so much as "how am I going to make this work?" As though it might actually happen that I will adopt that poor little tot. I get the same thing when I'm listening to the horrifying stories about the humanitarian crisis in the Yemen - in my head, with absolute certainty, I'm going to jack in my job and devote my life to making a difference and rescuing the malnourished babies.

Then I switch the radio off and go back to real life, and feel just about as helpless as everybody else in the face of such tragedy.