The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

Nice one on the extra holidays edidxb! Malaysia is pretty good for random last minute public holidays. Doesn't make it easy to plan to take advantage of them though. Good luck with the digital!

Rose when is your period due?

We just went to watch how to train your dragon 3 - it's such a cute film!

@edidxb yay for the extra holiday! Don’t worry about the coffee and alcohol, it won’t make any difference. And good luck with your test! x

I have less symptoms this month than any other month, even the constipation has gone. I think if I test tomorrow I may as well just flush a fiver down the loo.

Morning all!
I have been absent for the last 2 days or so. My parents were visiting so I have been busy with them. BUT - this is the strangest Dubai thing ever. There we all were at work yesterday and as the students are leaving, a few of them come up to me saying it was on the news that we were having a holiday. I tell them not to be stupid and that it's fake news.

THEN - it turns out that the government have closed down all schools tomorrow and our brand of schools (a bit like an academy trust) has closed all schools today AND tomorrow. Because the Pope is visiting Abu Dhabi! Now, I'm not about to write anything online further about this as you never know who is monitoring anything. But suffice to say, it was a bit of a shock so I have today and tomorrow off work. So, @kinsters I suppose I am on holiday now! I wasn't, but because my parents were visiting over the weekend and it was the end of our inspection it felt like a holiday. I am actually sat at work right now as I really needed to finish something I could only use the network here for, but I've finished that now. So I am posting here, then taking myself to the mall and then home for the rest of the day. I literally could not be more excited after the last mental month of work.

@frazzle I had totally forgot about Sleeper but I used to be quite the fan. That sounds like an amazing weekend you had! And brilliant news about the OPK - did you get to DTD again with preseed?

@kinsters - temp is still up and a squinter sounds exciting! Can you get any other type of pregnancy test today where you are or will you wait until tomorrow and test again?

@tigsyboo - what a rotten time you are having at the moment. So stressful. I can only sympathise with the DH thing as I love mine, he's great, I can't imagine being with anyone else. However at times he is very controlling, very argumentative and doesn't attempt to see things from my point of view at all. I hope the court case goes well tomorrow. How long do these things last? Is it an all day thing or will it be over by lunch? I hope that if it goes well, you can get home and get all the frustration and hopefully happiness out with some great BDing. It does only take one time........

@pegase - your ride sounds great. I am also drinking coffee this weekend fully caffeniated as I decided that if I hadn't have tested early I wouldn't know I was pregnant. And, awfully enough I even had a drink last night as my parents were here and they would have known staight away if I didn't drink. But I'm done now on the caffeine and alcohol front.

I am going to get a digital test I think on the way home and test. Then I will tell DH tonight. I just couldn't cope on the weekend with people here. I still have sore boobs, I had spotting all weekend and some cramps but both have eased off this morning. So we shall see!

@Rose68 any more symptoms? Still waiting to tomorrow to test?

@Twittle - how are you with the cramping now?

Right, I'm off out of this building now!!

I've got a CB digi that I'll do tomorrow if I don't have any spotting today. I normally start to spot late afternoon CD10 so a few hours to go...

Kin ICs are the worse aren't they! With my ICs I don't see a positive pop up until after the time frame and certainly don't see one until well after my AF is due. Any chances of getting a better brand tomorrow?

I'll catch up with everyone properly once I'm in the office, awful navigating MN on my phone.

Argh I just went and looked at my ic again and there's the squintiest of squinters on there. It's way past the time limit though so it could easily be an evap or indent line, especially as its much top faint to see any colour.

Ohh I see, I really hope things go your way x

No @Kinsters she's dropped what she wants... she wanted 80% care.... now she just wants 50% (she currently has 30%) x

My temperature is still up but I did an ic and its really negative (though I know they're not very sensitive because DH didn't order my usual brand as too many people in the online reviews were saying they got false positives... errr no, they're just ultra sensitive tests!!). My temperature normally has a massive drop on CD10 though so this is a good sign for me (unless I ovulated a day or so later). I still feel nauseous but like Frazzle said since the MC I think I'm just hyper aware of "pregnancy" symptoms because I've now experienced what they are.

Tigsy yes, perhaps it's just the court case stressing him out. Hopefully it is. And hopefully you guys win. Why has she suddenly upped what she wants so much? Just to piss you off.

Frazzle that sounds like a perfect day and fingers crossed for ovulation! We get a lot of really nice Asian food out here but I do miss a good cheddar ploughman's sometimes.

Rose I think it's totally normal to feel that way. I love my DH and we get on really well but it's hard to switch from him being away to being home sometimes (I think it's when I'm feeling hormonal lol).

Edidxb I hope you're doing ok and having a nice time off work - you were on holiday this week if I remember correctly?

@Frazzle we haven’t had a day like that for 9 and a half years! And I guess it will be a long time until we do. Yay for positive opk too! My symptoms are dry mouth (had this last month too), strange mouth (probably a bit like metallic mouth, but I don’t think it has a taste, but again I’ve had this before and not been pregnant) and constipation. I didn’t get any pmt on my pregnancy cycle.

Thank you all xxx

@Tigsy I don’t think a 50/50 split would be in the interests of the children. I strongly believe they should have one place they call home, with as much contact with the other parent as is reasonable / possible. Hopefully the judge will share that view. x

Go Frazzle- how bloody annoying that ov announces with a spot though!!

tigsyboo hopefully his head will be clear after Tues.

@ratherbeshowjumping v jealous that your DH rides with you. I actually took a ride yesterday despite being pg. I consulted DH who pointed out that usually I wouldn't even know I was pg at this stage as I don't normally test early due to irregular cycles so would be riding anyway. I just took it slow and did lateral work but have been grinning ear to ear about having some horsey time!

@Frazzlerock Tuesday it's all done .... but it could go either way! Stupid butch ex wife now asking for 50/50 (instead of her proposal for last 11 months of 80/20) so our 60/40 might be at risk now ... if he doesn't win I will 100% cop for it. FX xx

Glad you had a lovely time @TwittleBee and that dh is looking after you. Sorry that you're still cramping though. At least Tuesday isn't too far off... just two sleeps....

@tigsyboo let's keep our fingers crossed it's the stress of the court case. No reason to be vile though & can completely understand how frustrated you must be re SMEP. It sounds like his mind is elsewhere right now (fair enough) but no need to be a twat.

@Rose68 sorry to hear yours hasn't been great either... hopefully your pmt will just be hormones, not actual pmt 🤞🏼

@Kinsters ahh that sounds lovely! When is CNY? I'm really jealous, I bet all the food was delicious 😋 glad you've won gran-in-law over too...

Know what you all mean about struggling when DHs are home... mine worked from home, with me, all week last week. We were together for 8 days in total. I honestly could have killed him.
In the end I lost the plot with him for making scrambled eggs & cleaning dabbing the frying pan with a piece of kitchen roll.

We've actually had a really nice weekend though... had a chill day today, went riding together this morning then went for a nice pub roast 😋
Feeling exhausted (not sure if that's because I've eaten so much), boobs are definitely sore & feeling crampy... but again just trying not to symptom spot....!!!

@Kinsters his head is so stuck up his own arse at the minute he thinks he is faultless. He's vile at the minute. Even the dogs walk away when he walks in the room.... but I've changed. I'm biting my tongue until this court thing is over, I know it's not him normally and I'm putting it down to this but if it doesn't change ... well.... who knows...

The earliest I would test is Tuesday, but I’m not sure if I will. It’s a relief to hear someone else say they struggle when DH comes home. I get used to things staying where I put them when he’s not here, god it’s so annoying when I put something down & then it disappears. He can’t leave anything alone. Supposedly he’s tidying up, but generally things have just been moved to a location closer to where they go (such as outside one of the boys bedrooms) rather than actually been put away. And yes, I bloody love having the bed to myself!

Tigsy does he realise that he behaves so unfairly towards you? Has he had any counselling or work through his feelings towards his ex-wife?

Rose I feel the same after DH has been away for a while. I get used to it just being me and not having someone disturb me when I'm sleeping or who I have to not disturb in the morning etc. When do you think you'll test?

I've definitely had some symptoms but I don't know how much is just normal pre AF and/or my body trolling me. I'll definitely find out tomorrow either way because it's 10dpo when I start spotting normally.

If my body has any doubt whether I have enough food to sustain a pregnancy today should have reassured it! We've gone up to DH's grandma for Chinese New Year and there's so much food!! I used to hate coming up here because his grandma didn't like me very much to begin with but I eventually won her round and now it's one of my favourite times of year.

@Rather & @Kinsters, I think it sounds promising for both of you! Kinsters you can test from tomorrow! Fingers crossed!

@Tigsy I’m so sorry DH is being an idiot. I am really surprised by some of the DH’s on here, thankfully it’s not a problem I have had.

Having said that DH and I have not been getting on well since he got home on Friday. I always struggle when he comes home after he’s been away for a while, plus I probably have pmt. Although the pmt seems to be reserved for him only. I am also symptom spotting, & I do have some, but I think the pmt rules me out.

I know it's control
He's a real bully at times and put everything onto me like I'm causing the problem. Truth is this 'problem' is because his ex-wife is a cunt - and that's fuck all to do with me but I'm getting the brunt!

All I can do is hope it's actually another 32 day cycle with Ov around CD18 because he's so fucking stubborn he won't do it for the next few days at least now, and fuck knows what he will do if he doesn't win at court. I honestly dread to think the mood I'll be dealing with.

I'm most upset that he agreed to do it tho, because it set my expectations up. If he has just said 'u know what, can we play it by ear that month I'd know where I stood :(

I think it is a control thing. They like to be the ones calling the shots in the bedroom and then when you are trying to take charge of that situation, they show their 'power' by refusing sex, even though they would never do that under normal circumstances.

@TwittleBee am so sorry about the cramping and pain