The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

Yay to finally ov'ing Frazzle 👏🏼 sorry about the metal mouth though, it's awful isn't it. I've resigned myself to it being a pre ov symptom every month too 😢

Ah thank you @Kinsters - how are you feeling?

Yay for maybe ovulating Frazzle! False false pregnancy symptoms - nothing would surprise me to be honest! The thread title is right, it's a roller-coaster.

Your chart is looking good too Betty. Fx for O.

rather I agree don't get hung up on the poo! One of my first symptoms last pregnancy was diarrhoea. I swung between constipation and diarrhoea.

Oh Rose sending you massive hugs xxx

There’s a bit too much for me to catch up on this morning... will try harder later.

@Frazzle I’m 10 dpo and I feel headachey so I know I’m definitely out. I don’t think I need to temp, my cycles are so regular and I get ov pains so I know I’ve ovulated. Plus I don’t know what DH’s reaction to that would be. He’s such a light sleeper I know he knows I tested at 4:30am, as soon as I moved one muscle his breathing changed. So getting out of bed and stumbling across the creaky floor had no hope. We aren’t really on speaking terms atm, and I can’t say too much in case he’s decided to stalk me on here. Which wouldn’t surprise me at all.

@Tigsy you are the only one in the whole world to make me laugh today.

@Ratherbe OMG if I had found that picture I couldn’t be responsible for my actions. I don’t blame you for being pissed off, I would have been livid!

@Kinsters sorry about bfn, it’s totally shit isn’t it! You may not be out yet though.

Happy CNY everyone ☹️

Ahh thank you @BettySwoll0cks that's really reassuring. Maybe there is a little bit of hope after all. I really appreciate that 😘 xx

@rather I just read your previous post, please don't be upset and write this month off at CD20 because you're not constipated, seriously there is no reason why that should mean anything at all. I've had pregnancies when I've felt awful and had diarrhoea (sorry) basically all the way through and others where I've felt fine and been constipated!! The tww is hideous but I hate to think of you being sad because of poop!! A big hug xx

That's hilarious @tigsyboo 😂😂😂

Chart looks great @BettySwoll0cks fx'd!

@edidxb not irrational in the slightest...! I'd feel exactly the same.

Reeeeeeaaallllyy hoping for a nice temp rise tomorrow...

Btw I have had much more EWCM since I've been taking maca root powder, used to get a couple of days and not that much but now ... 🙈

My DH pees on sticks when he thinks I'm being silly and imagining lines. He's never had a line on a pregnancy test but did get one on the LH test which makes me wonder if these LH tests I have are a bit crap!

oh my fucking god tigsy hahaha! least that must have lighten the mood up a bit there this morning! Brilliant he just couldnt resist POAS! Bet he would be a fellow POAS addict if he was female ey?!

Morning campers

Fell back asleep and now a lot to catch up on!!

Thank you all for your kind words - family law is such a bitch tho - everything is just 'balance of probabilities' so will she probably do the right thing??

@ratherbeshowjumping I would have had a right strop!! And I would have deleted the picture!!!

@Rose68 so sorry
It's horrid seeing the bfn. I cry too 😓

What is it with men and objecting to science??!!!

Good luck today @TwittleBee FX

@Kinsters I'm sure o-2 is prime time.
I don't tell DH anything about my temps etc now (although temps are all over place last few nights with broken sleep)

On a lighter note - I brought my CBFM and OPKs (and little wee pot) to hotel. DH has found them -I expected him to kick off... instead he just asked why I'd brought so many OPKs (about 6) I told him I just picked up a handful, but 2 a day is needed. He confirmed I had 2 spare and they were cheap. 2 mins later he comes back out having testing to see if he is ovulating!!! 😂 hes happy to see he's not!! 😂😂😂

also - sorry @rose68. That's crap. Big hugs.

@ratherbe you are not overreacting at all. That would upset me so much. I don't really like the fact that my DH is friends with ex on facebook even though we have been together 10 years. In fact when I write that it does sound a little irrational.....

@Betty I do hope you stand your ground although I totally know how hard that is to do. My DH thinks everything he does is more important than me even though his job is half as stressful and he works shorter hours. Also, I organise everything - putting pictures up on the wall, paying bills etc. Man it makes me angry on your behalf. I hope he comes around.

@frazzle - I agree that two days before OV is meant to be the best. Although as my DH told me yesterday - you are not an expert on this TTC thing but you seem to think you have become one!! But with all the reading I have done, BD before OV = good stuff.

Happy Chinese New Year everyone but especially @kinsters and @indreamland. I went to acupuncture this morning with my Chinese doctors and felt really bad that they had to work. I only made the appointment as we have these extra two days off. Oh well, if it wasn't me, someone else would have been there.

@Frazzlerock I completely agree with Twittle, I thought O-2 was supposed to be the most fertile day. So by the looks of it, you timed it just right 😬👍🏼

@TwittleBee @Frazzlerock oh good I'm glad you don't think I'm overreacting. I very much doubt he knew the picture was there, he rarely, rarely goes on his laptop & I don't think he harbours any sort of feelings for her, but how can that not be upsetting?!

No sign of any constipation (tmi, I'm sorry) which on my pg cycle I had on cd20 (which I'm on now) so I do believe I'm out this month & now even more upset.

Ffs. Would kill for a duvet day today 🤦🏽‍♀️

It really angers me how so many DPs and Dhs think it is all a load of BS this OPK & Charting etc! My Dh doesnt like me doing it as it stresses me out during the TWW when I carry on temping but at least he actually believes it and listens! Its simple bloody biology! urgh!

Betty That is now him to sort out and I am fuming on your behalf. Do not budge on this. With DH I had a similar situation which I then made him sort childcare out for DS and actually in the long run it now means he takes a more even share of sorting out childcare for DS. So bloody pissed off on your behalf.

woah you do NOT sound like basket case rather !! blimey I would have had a full on fit and probably hurled his laptop out the house if I saw that (thankfully DH has no exes...)

Frazzle Yeah you are not out by a long shot. Sperm live for a good while up there, and SMEP is meant to be a good idea right? So you are certainly good to go! I actually always have liked to ensure we DTD before ovulation so I have lots of sperm up there ready and waiting! Feels too risky thinking about them on a timer trying to travel up there!

Oh no @BettySwoll0cks that's shit!!! I'd be fuming. Hopefully he sorts it x

That's so annoying Betty - it's definitely his screw up to fix!

Aww @Frazzlerock it made me really sad to see you pre-seeded up & he was dead to the world. That's the sort of thing that would have made me cry. Fingers crossed you've done enough, especially with preseed, sperm lasts much longer than we give it credit for xx

Happy CNY @InDreamland! Hope you had a lovely meal 😋

Sending lots of hugs to you @Rose68 xxx

Thanks everyone. I think it is this whole ttc business plus everyone & their dog (literally) being pg around me, coupled with the fact that this mc has made me feel like a failure. The more I think about it, the more I'm wondering if I have a type of PTSD from it... flooding in front of pg women in the day room, passing my baby in the hospital loos, not being offered anything more than paracetamol... it's all very traumatic.
The argument started last night as my laptop charger broke & I asked to use his laptop for work. I saved a document & saw a picture in the folder of his ex gf on a works trip in a bikini, titled "fit [exs name]." He manages her at work, which I've always found really uncomfortable, and a few times she's tried it on. I know the picture was from before we were together, but really struck a nerve. And as I'm writing this I realise how much of a basket case I sound.
Before the mc I would have never cared about this, as I felt really self assured. I honestly feel like it's made me lose every ounce of self confidence. That's mad isn't it?

So sorry Rose that sucks. Sending virtual hugs to you

Twittle I think you're probably right re tww "pregnancy" symptoms. It's the lack of bleeding which is really unusual for me and properly got my hopes up. I guess it's normal for luteal phase to vary by a few days though and looking back my longest one was 14 days back when I first got my coil out so I probably need to wait till Saturday when I'm officially late.

Bad luck @Rose68 that bfn staring back at you is soooooo bloody depressing isn't it 😪

We DTD with pre seed again last night, OPK still a strong this morning. Might leave it for tonight and then give it another go tomorrow, thoughts?

Looking forward to seeing how DH handles his cock up from yesterday. Basically, it's my birthday a week Saturday, my DSis will be away so she's booked us facials and a lovely lunch in one of my favourite hotel/restaurants this weekend. DH needs to have DS while I'm out enjoying a v rare treat. It's been in our shared calendar for weeks, but he just forgot. DHs work called and asked if he could cover someone else's shift this weekend and without checking or asking he just said yes. The reason that makes me so mad is because he always does it, just does his own thing without ever checking what's going on with the family, and he refuses to make any compromises when it comes to his work, if DS is sick it's always me who has to take a day off work, he would never take a day in a million years. The even more ridic thing is that I have a better job than him and I'm the breadwinner!!

Anyway back to this weekend, as far as I'm concerned, he fucked up so he should sort it out, right? He either needs to get back to his work and say 'sorry, I messed up, I'm not actually available' or he has to sort something for DS. At the moment, he's just saying to me 'whoops I forgot. Sorry about that' meaning I'll have to cancel my plans. I'm fucking fuming.

Oh Rose I am so sorry