The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

@twittle my rational head completely agrees with you! And I had diarrhoea through most of my pg with DS (sorted out by a homeopath in the end) so I of all people should know how ridiculous that is!

Hi all
Sorry everyone seems to be having a rubbish day 😢

I'm a bit excited as got a peak on CBFM at 10 this morning and DH is off today and in a good mood!!
Chart is all over the place tho due to lack of sleep and one v early morning then one big lie in after disturbed night. Gonna pounce as soon as I get gone in 1.5 hours!!

Started in my new office today - bagsied the best desk tucked away up the corner. I do feel a bit like Andy Peters in his Broom Cupboard but I kinda like it!! :) xx

ah that is crap Betty hope that it has passed quickly? If it helps reassure you, we all had Hand Foot & Mouth disease as well as a general bug over the TWW in which ended with this BFP. So think our bodies can be quite resilient (should take this advice myself...)

God so I have a stomach upset today, and immediately (at maybe, 1dpo?) I'm like "that's it. There's no chance I can conceive this month, my body will reject it or it won't develop and I'll mc again" etc etc.

Ttc absolutely fucks w your head doesn't it?

Oh no wait, it's 'better you'. I knew it was better something ... 🤦‍♀️

@rather I used get cramp legs at night, not sure if it hormonal, but I found magnesium spray really helped. A few squirts onto the skin after a shower each day. Might be worth looking into? I think the brand is 'better me'

@Frazzle sorry x post, not ignoring you! Re the monster, gotcha. Does your friend do Life Coaching via Skype etc or just in person. Would be really interesting to speak to him. He sounds like he could be really helpful.
I've heard people often get them whilst pg. I never ever did. It's just a really horrid AF sign for me

I agree! Most people never have a car crash in their life yet you've had 2 in 3 months, plus a miscarriage, plus neighbours stealing your woods... you couldn't make it up!! Oh ffs, what a bummer Twittle. It really is one thing after another for you.

I've just sent a nice message to DH saying I'm considering it and he just sent me a shitty reply saying "k. If that's what you want." Well no, it's clearly not what I want but it's stressing me out putting pressure on him DTD over FW, then we'll do it perhaps once, twice if I'm really lucky, and him expecting me to just fall pg.

@rose 8dpo. I know it's too early to tell but my body is so predictable. They always, always start cramping on CD21. That's how I knew I was pg in October way before I got a BFP thank you. We will get there, but perhaps not quite yet.

@Rather how many dpo are you now? It could still be too early to tell. I know you will get there x

rather DH doesn't drive! so that was our only car! My HR Director said I am cursed after she overheard the phone call she said she has never heard of anyone having so much bad luck

oh bless you with shitty crampy legs. Maybe that isnt a bad idea though? get your sex life back on track with DH? so crap you have to consider that though

Ps. @edidxb I think you'd be a great Life Coach... look into it!!
@Frazzle, i'm sorry your DP is feeling so shit... you must feel so helpless...

Oh Twittle that's so shit are you and DH able to carshare for a while? What a nightmare for you.

@frazzle - I love that analogy. What I'd love to know is how to cope whilst you're waiting for that monster to get off. Guess it's patience, but that's something I don't have.

My horrible crampy legs that I get every month have just started so that's me 100% out this month I'm thinking of booking a Drs appointment. PMT probably not helping but feeling like I just want to go back onto the pill for a few months as ttc is driving me insane, we literally don't even have sex, DH is so fucking half hearted with trying and I can't cope with an entire week written off with AF pains every month anymore.

Insurers will cover the current estimate of the car so we will lose at least £500 I reckon from when we bought it (It £4k when we bought it in August last year!) money is horrible tight atm so we cant put anything more towards a new one.

@frazzle - love that analogy and it's something I try to do quite often I think with my own thoughts etc.
@twittle - does insurance cover the value?
@rose68 my work email currently stands at 76,037. They have all been read.........but not deleted or filed!!

@Twittlebee I’m sorry about your car x

Hi.
@tigsy - that's fantastic news. Congratulations.
@kinsters - I really feel for you. There is a possibility you didn't ovulate until a few days later than you first thought looking at your temps. I hope you just know one way or the other soon. A longer luteal phase is only positive though. Hope you are back home now. Do you get the rest of the week off or is it back to work tomorrow?
Oh @frazzle, that sounds really shit. Your DP does seem to have had swings recently so I hope that with a job soon he will be more stable again. It's so hard dealing with someone else's highs and lows when we are struggling ourselves.

@indreamland - sorry it has been such a rubbish time for you. Are you both on board for IVF? Is it on the NHS where you live?

In terms of life coaching - this sounds like something I could move careers into. I spend my day listening to people's issues and helping them to think better and adapt their communication and thoughts etc. Either teachers (as I am in leadership), other leaders, students or parents. I do think it is something I am quite good at. Hmmmmmmm - you have given me food for thought. Although that's quite a selfish comment when you are all discussing where is best to get the help from. Me and my career changes.....it doesn't stop! I just need maternity leave in my current job and then I can move into something else!

@Frazzle if DP would like to delete some of my emails he would be very welcome. I have over 10,000 ☹️

Oh my bloomin car has been written off! Just had a phone call from the garage now I have the stress of finding a new car

I do think you have to be careful with Life Coaches. There sounds like there are a few diamonds but many, many people are just cowboys who like the idea of it and know it makes a lot of money by doing very little.
My DH saw one, paid through his work, for 6 months a few years ago. She was so unprofessional, made derogatory remarks about me (I heard them as he was doing it via Skype), started following his personal, private Instagram account and speaking about things he posted on there in the sessions ie. "I've noticed you post quite a few pictures of Rather on Instagram, do you think this is good for your self-identity?"

Understand not all Life Coaches are like this, and it's the rotten ones that give them all a bad name, but tread with caution if you look into them...

I tried counselling last summer, but I only went 3 times because I knew it wasn’t going to get me anywhere. I don’t ‘talk’ very easily, so really it was a waste of money. And she was never going to solve my main problem, which was that I wanted another baby. She did try to get me to understand that DH would never change his mind... but then he did change his mind.
She also went back to my childhood, I have a lot of issues with my parents, particularly as a teenager into adulthood, so it was right for her to do this. They had 4 children, of which I was the eldest, they were also very good at having their own lives, so they were very busy. It was like they couldn’t wait to get rid of us, esp me and my next sister down. Neither of us went home after uni, I remember asking my Mum why she never phoned me at uni and she said she didn’t feel that she should impose herself on me, and that she thought it should be me going to her if I wanted to speak. That felt like rejection then and still does. Over the years I gradually stopped phoning her, because why should I make all the effort.
I have thought about life coaching, is it similar to counselling, but more directional? I will probably go that route in the very near future... but for now I’m spending enough on acupuncture.... I can’t afford both.