The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

Hugs @tigsy that's really shit. I'm sure she will be the most fantastic nan, and that will spur her on more than ever to keep fighting.
Glad you had a lovely dinner. Mums roasts always are the best!

@BettySwoll0cks my cycles were 26 days pre MC. I've had a 28, a 26 & a 31 since though so god knows. I got a BFP last time in the afternoon after my 10th wee of the day, 12dpo, so going by that, should see a line I think if I was now 🙁 we dtd on cd10&11, & I O'd on cd14 so the chances of it catching are minimal anyway.
Ps. You're certainly not being unreasonable! I'd be fuming! It's not hard to send a text.

That sounds promising @Buggles1, keeping everything crossed. Let's hope this time is different.

Glad you've got all the drugs @edidxb, I think your dh is right on that one. Get all the help you can. How are you feeling in yourself?

Dh & I went for a lovely pub roast, we had a good chat & he's promised me that he'll try harder over FW & I'm not going to go back on the pill. With FILs diagnosis, he's keener than ever to get cracking with a family. So fx'd we'll get something soon. It's so bloody frustrating 😩

@tigsy - oh goodness me, I am so so sorry. What an awful thing to get wrong. Of course I meant selfless.......if only you could delete posts I would. I know you know I didn't mean it xx

@edidxb I think you mean selfless 😂😂
I'm glad the dr gave you stuff, I'm contemplating taking baby aspirin just in case if I get my bfp... I've read it can't hurt but can deffo help. Xx

@tigsy - cross posted. I am so sorry about your Mum. what a difficult time for you and not being able to share. That's so selfish. You're both so brave. Much love xxxx

@betty - totally unreasonable (of him, not you). My DH is watching the rubgy (as am I, although it's half time now) but he's doing it here with me. I would be really annoyed if he said he was at work and then wasn't for whatever the reason.
@buggles - same. I was just about 60kg and now I'm up to 65kg. Urgghh. But hopefully @rather is right and it will all come off eventually. It's just been a difficult year. Especially after the miscarriage in December and then I went on holiday and haven't quite got it together since. But just had a healthy dinner with loads of veg so that's something.
@frazzle - enjoy the roast chicken and apple crumble - YUM! You really have had a restrictive diet. I'm no nutrionist so I don't know about weight gain but I am sure not eating so many things has to help your fertility somehow.
@buggles - you are right - hugs to you too. But fingers crossed - it will still be exciting!

I went to the doctor today after work. She really is lovely. After my mc I told her that if I got pg again I wouldn't come and see her until 10 weeks and I turned up today at 5! Because my DH said I would be stupid to wait. We decided not to do any blood tests but just to throw all the possible drugs at me as they can't do any harm. So I have the aspirin, duphaston, cyclogest and she is also giving me clexane which is what you get if you have the blood clotting issues. I never got mine tested as I due to go this month but she said just to take it anyway.

Anyway - sorry, not sure if it's OK to write about all that but I couldn't have got through the last few months without you guys and the next few months are going to be really tough too. I'm not going to go back for another few weeks unless there is a problem though.

@Buggles1 how many dpo are you? It sounds promising x

Rose yeah mum has the big C. It's stage 4 metastatic breast cancer that came back in her brain after 12 years in remission. She doing ok tho... surgery, radiotherapy and chemo.... 9 months since diagnosis and still fighting.
One of the reasons our lost baby would have been so perfect as she definitely would have been here and well in June to enjoy being a nan... also the reason my MMC was a very lonely time as they never knew I was PG so I never told them I miscarried either. She needs to concentrate on her not me so I pretended I had flu for a week.

Roast was delicious!! Had home made rice pudding too!!
I'm one of those annoying types who loses my appetite and loses weight when stressed so despite eating what I wanted - I didn't want much so I've kept my weight down to the size 10 I've always been x

Ps DH is hiding somewhere watching the rugby. He was meant to be working today but I'm certain it'll have been cancelled due to the weather. Trying not to get irritated but he seems to have turned his phone off as well. I'd rather he'd just said "work is canned, do you mind if I go and watch the rugby at x" (rather than coming home to be with the family) at which point I'd have said "no, go for it". Instead he's just snuck off which I find really bloody irritating. I'm not stupid. Unreasonable?

@Buggles1 I agree, I couldn't feel happy about being pg because 'getting pg' isn't my problem, it's staying the course. Big hugs I think everyone here knows how that feels xx

Im convinced that my broken sleep is causing me problems, this whole thing with low temps after Ov has made me even more convinced of it. To sort it out though DS will have to start sleeping though the night - he'll be 3 in May and it's rarely ever happened yet. Not a great deal I can do about that, at least, not quickly.

Struggling with weight here too. Was 56kg before the two mcs and Xmas, now at 61kg and hardly fitting in any clothes. Want to exercise and diet again but don’t want to do anything to risk a pregnancy either. Feel stuck in limbo just waiting to be pregnant again.
On that note, I seem to be getting good pregnancy signs but won’t be able to check until the end of the week. Almost feel scared of seeing a positive test.. as if just waiting for the inevitable mc. They really do suck all the joy and excitement out of it.

should get something on a FRER at 11dpo shouldn't I? Not necessarily @rather, how long are your cycles usually?

You're all making me hungry with this talk of food, but I've put on a fair amount of weight over this year also. It's on my tummy and hips and a bit on my arms too (I'm an 'apple' at the best of times) and I think a lot of it has been down to not exercising, which I'm nervous of doing in any meaningful way. And the rollercoaster of being pregnant 3 times in 12 months, hormones and comfort eating.

It is really quiet on here!
Jealous of everyone having roasts today, we're still waiting for a new part for our oven so can't cook one... may actually be a nice wife & treat Dh to a pub one, a Sunday just isn't a Sunday without one.

@edidxb Don't berate yourself for putting on weight! Think how much you've been through the past 12 months! I think it's only normal. You'll have plenty of time running after a newborn in 8 months to lose it xx

I'm feeling really "pregnant" today. My boobs are huge & killing me, I'm so bloated/constipated, nauseous & I'm absolutely shattered. Crampy legs have completely vanished too. Did a test after a 3 hour hold & again white as white BFN. If I was, I should get something on a FRER at 11dpo shouldn't I?

I’m off to run up and down the stairs until the family return from swimming lessons....

@Tigsy I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum, I can’t remember if we already knew she was having chemo. Obviously you only have chemo for one thing 😢

I can feel I am putting on weight too despite healthy eating. I’m obviously not trying hard enough cause I had started to lose weight before I got preggers in October. And that was supposedly following the same healthy eating plan.
I haven’t started exercising properly following the mc, which I really need to get on with, exercising is good for fertility, but running isn’t apparently. And I tend to run.
I have made a lasagne for our dinner later, which obvs isn’t very healthy at all!
I have mentioned smep to DH, his eyes lit up like a little boys would in a sweet shop. Maybe we will give it a go this month.

I love a roast!!
Mum is on her no chemo week so she is doing a roast dinner today which I'm really looking forward to, I love her cooking!

After the DH's strop about smep plan he really did pull it out of the bag I guess with BD-ing.
I think now I've got to make the effort to keep the momentum up during this TWW because otherwise it's clear it's just about that.... but quite honestly I was happy just to get in bed and go to sleep last night!!! I will make an effort too... even if it is to prove a point I don't really mean!! 😂😂

Sorry for being quiet x

I use 4 different devices (!) to use Mumsnet and have only just signed back in on my work laptop.
@frazzle a roast dinner sounds amazing - what kind are you going for?
@tigsy the timing looks great and I think unless there is an issue with low sperm count then it doesn't matter how often you do it.
Good work with the FRERs @kinsters - that should keep you going for a while. You can get some more on the way back through too maybe!?

I'm at work today (Sunday-Thurs working) and it's been a long day. It's 3pm and I've still got loads to do before I go home. I am wearing a shirt today and I feel it has been constricting me all day. I have put on so much weight in the last few months, a lot of it miscarriage and fertility related. I feel I really turned to food and alcohol as some kind of crux to get me though and now most of my clothes are super tight. My blouse is a size 10 but even breathing in it is painful. So it's a bit of a wake up call to really cut down on the crap food I have been eating recently.

Morning all
Is it me or is it quiet on here!

Sounds like a lovely day @BettySwoll0cks! I could do with that!!

We had a day chilling yesterday too, it was pissing it down so we stayed in with the dogs having a relax!
Watched Bohemian Rhapsody last night, it's VERY good!!

So FF has put lines on my chart and predicted my Ov was CD 15. Coverline seems a bit high though?? I thought it would be lower than that?? Anyway the BD seems pretty well timed ... but now I'm concerned that there wasn't much recovery time and what if he was firing baby sperms up me who are still in armbands?? Is it possible to NOT worry??

@Frazzle, gutted for your DS but a trampoline park does sound a lot warmer than a wet, windy sideline!
Absolutely do not understand the love for football at all, DH is the same about Spurs... goes right over my head...

Congrats on picking up the FRERs @Kinsters, have a safe flight tomorrow (I'm so jealous!)

@Betty glad you had a lovely time!

I'm cheating really, it was a pre-birthday treat but it was lush. 75 minute super moisturising facial (I was basically a husk when I went in) and head/shoulder massage followed by a really lovely lunch. Surprisingly tiring being pampered like that! I'm off for an early night.... x

Happy birthday Betty! Hope you've had a lovely day.

I'm in London now having one night here before we go off to France to ski. I'm now the proud owner of 6 Frers! I wanted to get more pregnacare but there was none there.