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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread

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Frazzlerock · 31/01/2019 10:32

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The July 19ers - All aboard the rollercoaster for a 3rd lucky thread
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Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 12:31

and I've got all these bloody gorgeous newborn summer clothes to use too Sad Why did I buy them FFS!?

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Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 12:30

@Pegase glad you're okay, despite suffering! I hope you feel better soon.

@Rather oh no, that's really sucks Sad I have just worked out that next cycle would give us a baby around mid-late December so, like you, last chance for 2019 Sad a 2020 birthday does sound kinda cool though..

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ratherbeshowjumping · 11/02/2019 12:09

I have never had a charm either (very sulky) Grin
Honestly Frazzle, the month I never even considered I would be pg was the month I fell pg. DH and I had a huge row, I ran out of OPKs, had no car to get more... just a disaster month. You genuinely have no idea until next week. Keep positive!

@Rose, ah thank you. Hopefully it should be contained fairly soon - I think in the deepest depths of Cornwall, mine will be fairly safe.

Sorry you're feeling so rough @Pegase, surely that can only be a good thing though?

In agony with horrid pre-AF cramps this morning. Hope it just hurries up and goes now. If I don't fall pg next cycle, we have no chance of having a baby in 2019. That's such a saddening thought.

Pegase · 11/02/2019 11:59

Sorry I have been quiet as feeling v lethargic and ill still post-flu.

I am having pg symptoms this time- mainly needing a wee every five bloody seconds and agonising boobs and am only 5+5. Coming up to the date I mc'ed last time soon which was between 6-7 weeks so feeling v v anxious and therefore grateful for the symptoms as I had none at all with the mc.

Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 11:32

@Rose68 my chart is looking okay. There is no way to tell until AF comes as my temps stayed high until the day before AF last cycle.
I just have this feeling it hasn't happened, you know? I know you know xx
Re symptoms, I wouldn't expect any until 6 weeks pregnant I don't think. I know that any 'preg' symptoms in TWW are just hormones gearing up for AF. It sounds negative, but this time I just feel like it's realistic rather than negative. I think I have made my peace with it now but who knows how I'll react when AF arrives!

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Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 11:28

@Rose I really wouldn't self medicate, especially with Clomid. It has to be monitored very closely by a medical professional. It does all sorts to your hormones and the multiples thing is a high risk in itseIf. I've heard a lot about it on my PCOS group.
I know how desperate you (and all of us) are, but I don't think this is the way to go about it xx

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Rose68 · 11/02/2019 11:24

@Frazzle What is your chart looking like? I don’t think you can be so sure this early... in fact isn’t it too early for symptoms still? Hang in there and you might be pleasantly surprised. xxx

Rose68 · 11/02/2019 11:21

@Frazzle, I concur with rather, it’s not a stupid bit of string. I never got a charm with my preseed (sulky face).
@Rather I saw about the equestrian flu on the news this morning and I thought of you.
@Kinsters have a fab time skiing! God a love skiing, it’s really the only thing that still gives me some excitement and happiness.

Re the clomid thing, I think I might be able to get my hands on some, but maybe self medicating isn’t a good idea. From what I have read on-line, it looks like you can use it to improve egg quality. But I suspect being the bitch troll from hell is likely to be the only outcome ☹️

Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 11:14

@Twittle mine was from Dr Fertility. I got a little note on a card too, can't remember what it said now but it was a lovely personal touch.

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TwittleBee · 11/02/2019 11:02

so bloomin hope you do get a lovely surprise instead Frazzle !

never knew pressed sent out charms?

Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 10:58

14dpo will be next Monday. I know... and I really appreciate all your good vibes, but my gut instinct is telling me we have not been lucky. I have never felt so sure of not being pregnant! Even when we were not trying and he was using the pull out method, I still thought I was in with more of a chance than I feel now for some reason. 100% expect AF to arrive Monday or Tues next week.

Still.... I got another little charm from the preseed I ordered. It was a little stork in a tiny little pouch Grin. Was it on here that someone said they got a charm with their preseed?

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ratherbeshowjumping · 11/02/2019 10:45

@Frazzle it's not a stupid bit of string, I think that's really lovely. It looks like it has another week or so left, is that not when you'll be at the end of your TWW? Bd looks good. There's no reason whatsoever why you won't get a BFP this month xxx

Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 09:08

I meant to add. I feel really sad about this stupid bit of string on my wrist.

It came from a rainbow pack DP bought me when I was expecting our little boy. It was supposed to signify our rainbow baby. The note that is came with said that when it starts to fray it means a rainbow baby is on its way.
Well it fraying and almost about to snap, and no rainbow on the horizon 😢😢😢

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Frazzlerock · 11/02/2019 09:04

Morning everyone.

How sad to read about cancer destructing so many of your lives. @Tigsy I remember you mentioned about your mum before, you guys sound so close. It's just so shit Flowers

I don't know how, but so far my family and I have dodged the Big C, actually I'm lying, my mum had skin cancer on her nose several years back but it was removed easily. I do wonder, as it is so so common, when (not if) it will hit us and it does worry me. It's a bit like a ticking time bomb isn't it Sad
I do think after all this crap that has hit us over the past few years, that this will be the next thing that will hit us. I think I am the only person I know who hasn't lost someone close or been affected by it so I am acutely aware it will be our turn soon enough.

@rather these symptoms are so frustrating aren't they! I think preg symptoms don't tend to kick in until about 6 weeks so, personally, everything I am getting which is nothing except constipation and the usual metal mouth, I am putting down to progesterone/TWW symptoms. Our bodies are so cruel to us Sad, still I really do hope yours amounts to good things!

@Betty I have also put on weight for the same reasons. I keep berating myself for it but three losses over 3 years can put a strain on the body. I had a great figure before I fell pregnant with Emily. Then I got a bit too comfy and ate what I felt like while preg. Then it was a downward spiral from there really. I'm a pear shape so I only put on weight below my waist which (I think) looks really odd. If I was more in proportion I don't think I'd mind so much - like fatter boobs might be nice rather than thunder thighs Grin

Interesting that @edidxb and @buggles are talking in kgs, are you from Oz? I can only work in stones. I used to be a svelte 8st8, now I am 10st5 and a half! (this morning) and I'm only 5ft4. It's not overweight but I feel so gross. It's not me. I've just worked out that is 66kgs Shock
@Buggles1 I know what you mean about being stuck in limbo waiting to be pregnant. I started exercising (30 Day Shred DVD) pre ovulation but stop as soon as ovulation is confirmed to avoid hurting anything that may be growing in there (ha! as if)

@edidxb I'm glad you got a load of drugs to help. I used Cyclogest and aspirin in my last preg but it didn't work for me sadly but I guess nothing will help with chromosome issues. I will enquire about the other things though.

@tigsy how was it at collection last night?

@Betty I totally relate to feeling hopeless. I am spending all my money on so many supplements that I rattle, and gluten free stuff and sodding oat milk. I have no money left to enjoy myself whatsoever. All DP has to do is have sex with me at the right time, but he doesn't even do that.
I can't even talk to him because it will be 'pressure'. God forbid I mention the SMEP thing. He won't have the same reaction as some of your DHs as I am the one with the higher sex drive. I think he'd rather have less sex tbh. Then you look at other people and they are falling pregnant all over the place like it is the easiest thing in the world.
I overheard a guy in the phone in sainsburys telling his mate they are having a night out as his GF is expecting and so is someone else.
I wanted to scream at him "Do you really think you will get a baby at the end if it you IDIOT!" - obviously I didn't as that would be mental Grin but it made me so sad and angry. Just because someone else is pregnant - I think I am probably not very well to be honest as I've had this jealousy for so long now.

@Rose How are you doing today? Re Clomid, I though it was just for women who didn't ovulate? I know a lot of women with PCOS are prescribed it (though it is hard to get it) because they aren't having periods/ovulating. I don't know of the benefits for someone like you who does ovulate. As for risks, it can cause multiples and I understand it screws with your hormones so you may become a bitch troll from hell Wink

@Kinsters Enjoy skiiing! (and the prosecco!)

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ratherbeshowjumping · 11/02/2019 08:40

These cancer stories are awful 😢 sending lots of love to you all.

@Kinsters oh no, what happened on the plane? The journey up the mountain sounds awful! Glad you're enjoying all the Prosecco, have a fab time xx

while I'm standing on my head surrounded by sperm friendly organic scented oils drinking wheatgrass shots listening to Himalayan chanting having literally no fun and it's still not happening 😩

^ this made me laugh out loud. No truer words have ever been spoken.

DHs top tip is " don't stress" - fucking hell thanks for that one, I've never thought of that before...

TwittleBee · 11/02/2019 08:38

glad you made it there in one peice Kin ! Blimey! Enjoy yourself

Kinsters · 10/02/2019 21:43

Oh I meant to say that's really great your Dr is so helpful edidxb - surely something amongst that lot must help you!

Kinsters · 10/02/2019 21:36

Sorry that you're going through that with your mum Tigsy. It's really tough. We went through it with DH's mum a couple of years ago. Cancer's the worst.

I made it to France! The plane journey was terrifying and everyone was very pleased that we managed to land! We then had an equally terrifying bus journey up to the resort, at one point the bus was sliding towards a tiny little fence at the edge of a sheer drop! The driver eventually conceded that he should probably put the snow chains on!

My period is still crap and light - I just don't see how I could get pregnant with such a thin lining. Fx for those in the tww! Hopefully some more bfps coming soon!

I'm enjoying my BFN status and taking full advantage of the inclusive wine and prosecco!!

BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 19:25

@tigsy my Mum and I went through a phase of going out in London sightseeing when she was first diagnosed. We went all over the place, to galleries and restaurants, on the London eye, to the aquarium. We did a wine tasting at Vinopolis (now closed down I think) on the South Bank and it was nearing closing time, the guys kept giving us more tasting tickets and we got completely sloshed! And then she came back and crashed at my flat in Lancaster Gate. It was so much fun.

Rose68 · 10/02/2019 19:08

That was meant to be ‘for or against talking clomid’

Rose68 · 10/02/2019 19:08

@Tigsy yes I do remember you telling us about it before now, I’m so sorry, and I’m so sorry to everyone else who has been through it. We recently lost my FIL to cancer.

Does anyone know anything or have any strong views for against taking clomid?

tigsyboo · 10/02/2019 18:42

@BettySwoll0cks @Buggles1 cancer is so so cruel!!! I have no words to describe the devastation it brings.
What we are doing is making the most of everything.
We brought our wedding forward so mum was there and dancing 5 days prior to her operation, we've been to shows, for meals... we are going to see the royal Philharmonic Orchestra play pop classics in 2 weeks... which is more than we would usually have done together in years.
When She was diagnosed everyone was sending flowers and get well soon cards... I brought her a card that said 'Fuck you cancer - you picked the wrong woman to mess with!' Which still 9 months later is up next to the tv at her house! X

BettySwoll0cks · 10/02/2019 18:06

Ah @tigsy is this the first time since the hearing? Bloody marvellous...

@Buggles1 a huge hug to you, I lost my Mum to the same (breast cancer in the liver) 12yrs ago too. Wretched. Cancer is such a cruel disease.

DH can't understand why I'm miffed that he went awol this afternoon. I can't be bothered to explain properly so I'm just sulking (tres mature). Also upset because I read something this afternoon about broken sleep affecting implantation, growth and gestation so now I'm feeling hopeless about the baby stuff again. I'm trying so much - stoping breastfeeding, giving up booze, dietary stuff, supplementing, charting, lube-ing (😉) I'm like, why can some people just do it so easily, while I'm standing on my head surrounded by sperm friendly organic scented oils drinking wheatgrass shots listening to Himalayan chanting having literally no fun and it's still not happening 😩

tigsyboo · 10/02/2019 17:04

@edidxb I know it was a typo! Please don't worry!

@ratherbeshowjumping I'm glad DH is onboard properly!!

Glad everyone is enjoying their Sunday's
Just on the way to collect the kids from twat-faces house... I'm practicing my smug look.....

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Buggles1 · 10/02/2019 16:39

Thanks everyone. I’ve not been temp charting etc but AF should be due on Thursday. I was considering testing early but think I’d rather wait.

Sorry to hear about your Mum @tigsy. I lost my Mum 12 years ago now to breast cancer that eventually spread to her liver. Those were the hardest times. You’re being amazingly strong coping with that and mcs. Sending you a big hug.

I’m currently baking ginger cakes cause you’ve all made my hungry talking about roasts!

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