TTC after pregnancy loss - tread 28 - Bfp will be coming

Hi ladies. Sorry I dropped off whilst on our break, I needed some time out after my birthday disaster. No sign of DH trying to make a birthday 2 yet. I hate all this, feel like I've lost all interest in anything generally. The break was good though, I needed to get away.

I'll try catch up properly tonight after work.

@boboelephant how are you doing? Hope all is still going well.

@Russkispy how are you after transfer? Fx this is your rainbow.

@Lilimum6 yay for your new and first proper cycle!

@Pop1234 and @Beaglemum93 keeping fx that AF stays away and the lines get darker. Maybe give it a couple of days for hcg to rise before doing another FRER?

Oh no @Pop1234 and @Beaglemum93

I have my fingered crossed all ok!

I started to to beat myself up for testing early then thought I had a very faint positive at 14 dpo. Very faint compared with earlier ones but if I'd waited I'd have had nothing to compare with. It would have been enough to make me test over the next week to check in case my dates were out etc. The pregnancy symptoms would have driven me crazy with wondering had I not tested early.

Anyway I really hope all is well and it's just inconsistency in the the tests which seems to be common. Xx

FRER was slightly fainter and clearblue is way fainter than 2 days ago @Pop1234

@Beaglemum93 did you use FRER? Now mine is dry it just looks the same as Saturdays but I used fmu today and I don't normally get great lines with that anyway. Saturdays was second mu. My AF isn't due till Friday. I really wish I didn't test so early.

Sorry @Pop1234 :(

@Beaglemum93 mine seem to be fainter today too. It sucks.

Well that was short lived. I did another couple of tests this morning and the lines are getting fainter :(

@Lilimum6 I'm trying to stay away from the tests. 10dpo today...trying to hold out till Tuesday. Crochet is just not distracting me enough. I've got frers...and they are screaming at me to pee on em!

@Lilimum6 as @Yukka says in your situation I'd probably wait until you see RMC, you've tried it a couple of times and it doesn't appear to have helped on its own xxx

@lilimum6 any clotting disorder impacts in different ways through pregnancy, my third loss was at 10 weeks, which is when the placenta starts to take over. With that one it’s most likely placenta was bad and poor blood supply prevented oxygen and nutrients getting through. Baby could have been perfectly healthy. And the risks now are changing the further I get but mostly the placenta failing, so late mc is an indicator too.

Perhaps wait till you’ve seen a specialist, they will have the latest research and can understand more about your specific circumstances than we can. There could be other indicators in your history that don’t seem relevant now but could help lead to a diagnosis xxx

@Lilimum6 for me I've never got past six weeks so I suspect it's chromosomes really but then with my family history it could easily be a low level clot problem that they haven't even discovered yet! I trusted the "bad luck" bollocks last time and the only thing that changed was high dose folic acid, so for me i feel I need to do something and that dose of aspirin is so low in my mind I can't see what damage it could do. Many of the places I've looked into seem to use it as a "well it won't do harm" thing so I'm going to try. I may feel differently if I was in your position though as you have already been there and done that. It's really hard x

Thanks @LokiCat, @Yukka, @Lilimum6 and @Laney79.

@Yukka it's great your 20 week scan went well, you must be so relieved!

@Lilimum6 yes sorry I forgot that does make sense x

@Lilimum6 I did persuade my local consultant to prescribe me some cyclogest - progesterone. Like all of this there isn't any evidence it helps, but they are confident it does no harm. Unfortunately it is a pessary (something else to look forward to), but if all other results are inconclusive I figure I will at least be doing something different. Could you ask your GP to prescribe?

Hi all,

Just adding to the aspirin debate. I took aspirin with my last two mc.
I am still waiting for my RMC results in early April however saw my local epau consultant last week.
My local consultant advised if there wasn't a clotting diagnosis then I shouldn't take the aspirin until there is a scan at 6-8 weeks with a heartbeat. He thought it would be beneficial once there because of my age (38) and risk later on in pregnancy (preeclampsia etc) He said before 6-8 weeks if no clotting issues were diagnosed the aspirin was likely to be more harmful than good. I'll see what RMC day but having had 2 mc on aspirin I think this is my plan for next bfp.

I have also now had a uterine biopsy to test for uNK cells at the Coventry clinic. Interested to see what that throws up. My acupuncturist thought it was a sensible move. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Much love to all those with bfp and for all of those still trying. I am only dipping in and out whilst waiting for test results so struggle to stay up with the thread
X

@lilimum I can only go on my experience really. When waiting for test results RMC consultant said start aspirin next bfp regardless as soon as I get bfp - not 8 weeks. I did a bit of research and I arrived at the conclusion that taking before bfp would be better, because... if your an early mc’er like I was, then successful implantation could be an issue. If the uterine lining isn’t as habitable as it needs to be, then little bean will get partially in, I’ll get a bfp then a few days or a week later it will eject because lining is no good. I can’t prove this... but my logic was to start a fresh cycle on aspirin. My acupuncturist also said that as my periods were short and ‘clotty’ she could see the logic, that after all is the lining if your womb coming out. So I went ahead, fell pregnant, still pregnant today.

BUT I have to stress that I was then diagnosed with clotting disorder (4 days before getting the bfp) and I was so glad I’d taken my own advice. Perhaps if I’d tried aspirin on number 2 instead of number 4 I’d have a10 mth old or perhaps those mcs were nothing to do with clotting, just bad chromosomes.... being old... etc

I think it’s up to you and what you feel comfortable with. If you can face a ‘what the hell’ scenario and try everything then go for it. If you’re really not sure - wait for your rmc appointment, they will know more than the current person advising you.

I know it’s really hard, but equally with your number of mcs something mustn’t be quite right xxxx

Aww congrats @Pop1234 and @Beaglemum93 fingers crossed for sticky healthy beans.

Oh @LokiCat That's bad-epu should've told them, mine certainly did. Hugs.

@Yukka so lovely to hear from you and with such good news too. Dead chuffed for you. Really pleased they are keeping a close eye on you too. As for me, I think I will still stick with the aspirin, most drs seem to stick to the it doesn't seem to harm but may help mantra so I'm going to give it a try. I need to do something different if I fall pregnant again. I know I've already got my vit D levels up but aspirin seems to help so many people it's worth a shot. Going to speak to the dr too about the mutation as it seems I may be better on methylfolate rather than folic acid.