TTC after pregnancy loss - tread 28 - Bfp will be coming

Hello,
I'm hoping its ok if I join you although not quite at the TTC stage as had surgical management (12weeks pregnant) after huge blood loss only yesterday. Joining this thread feels like something I can proactively do towards TTC even if I'm not doing anything about yet it in real life if that makes sense.

I was this forum about 3 years ago after a previous miscarriage and I found talking to other people in the same situation helped me get through it all. Miscarriage feels so lonely but the crushing disappointment of seeing AF arrive after trying again seems even worse and having people who understand is a massive support.

@InDreamLand and @ale2992 it's hard isn't it, I have a friend with a DD the same age as mine and she was 2 weeks behind me this time. I saw her yesterday and was fine while I was with her but in the afternoon it was hard. She's panicking about getting Moses basket etc sorted and I'm being told my babies ashes are ready to collect.

@ale2992 it's shit isn't it. You're good going, I'd probably pull out if by it was me. I was in no fit state for anything for a few months after my first mc and I think with my second I was only able to get on with stuff because I had a long holiday in the sun a week after it.

@frillyfarmer if it was me I'd prioritise my health but I'm not a drinker.

@Laney79 I had 7 days of flashing smile and got peak on day 8. I remember thinking would it ever get to Peak? As remember reading that after 9 days it's unlikely to get static. But never had from high to low without having peak. Hang in there and hopefully you'll get your peak later today/tomorrow

@InDreamland I'm supposed to be going to a baby shower this weekend with my pregnant best friend who is 4 weeks ahead of where I should be if I hadn't had my miscarriage in December. Baby shower also my other friends who I told I was pregnant again last week and now it's turned out I'm not.

@Laney79 the most I've had is 8 days of flashing before I got my static. I did start to panic though so was relieved when it went static,, it was later in cycle too than normal.

😢😭

Only 7:30am and already 2 pregnant women and not even left the station yet.why can't it be me? After coming up to 6 years now since we started TTC and no baby at home

@frillyfarmer I'd do the same and wait to take the antibiotics

@ale2992 so sorry lovely.

@frillyfarmer I'd be the same as you, tempted to wait until after the party...but I honestly don't know if it will make it worse to do that or not.

For those using clearblue opks with high/peak - what's the maximum amount of days you've got high (flashing) before you get a peak? And have you ever gone from high to low without a peak? I'm on CD16 and 7th day of flashing smiley. The instructions say if you get 9 days of flashing you can stop testing as it's unlikely you'll get a peak. X

And that is "swabs" - I haven't sent any swans anywhere!

Right, swans are back - bacterial vaginosis so another course on antibiotics prescribed BUT I'm a bit conflicted in what to do -

The course is 7 days and you can't drink alcohol on them because they make you ill.

I organised an event almost a year ago, thousands of people are going and it's on this weekend - we have about 20 friends staying at our house this weekend who are coming to said event.

I can't just not go, because I organised it. If I don't drink and say I'm on antibiotics, my friends will all assume I'm pregnant because I'm a drinker. I also want to drink - this night has been a long time in the planning and if I'm looking for the small insignificant silver lining in my miscarriage, it's being able to drink at this event.

Can I just sit on the ABs and start the course on Sunday? BV is fairly common, I'm hoping my vagina isn't going to rot off in the meantime? All of my symptoms have gone tbh although I know I need to take the course of ABs. When I told my GP he was it was best to take them and not drink at my event, but I just don't think he understood how heartbreaking it will be to have to explain when I tell my friends I'm
"On antibiotics" and they give me that excited squee look. I can't cope with that this weekend. I just can't.

Yes that's my plan although I've started to feel periody so staritng to feel less hopeful 😔

@user1474623337 I'm rubbish with those tests and never really know what I'm looking for! I'm definitely a FRER kind of girl! Can you test again in the morning with FMU?

@InDreamland what a rough road you have been on. I did not realise you had been trying for so long, my heart goes out to you. Have you and your DH had tests? Do you qualify for IVF? I hope I don't sound callous but might that be an option? You clearly want this very much and you definitely seem to deserve it xxx

@ale2992 I'm so sorry lovely. What a horrible rollercoaster. Be kind to yourself tonight, have a glass of wine, eat the chocolate, whatever makes you feel better. Life can be an utter bitch.

@ale2992 I'm so sorry. It really is just shit!

@BluebellTulip thank you.

@MyHeartIsBrokenButIHaveSomeGlue thank you. We're going to Venice for a few days.

@ale2992 sorry you're spotting, hope it stops and things are still ok.

@Russkispy keeling fingers crossed for you.

Been so tearful today crying in the loos at work. I'm so sick of being so useless and unable to have a baby. 5 years of unexplained infertility was hard enough to cope with, 2 losses is even worse and on top of that not pregnant, birthday next week and mothers day at the end of the month. Crying again now. Why me?

@ale2992 I'm so sorry to read this. This is just shit. Sending hugs

Not much I guess apart from looking after yourself best you can at the moment. What a horrible shock! I don't think there's anything anyone can say. Take care! xx

@Catconfusion not really but what can I do

@ale2992 I'm so sorry. That's such as shame. I hope you're doing ok under the circumstances. xx

Spotting is getting worse, also have done a test and it's come back negative. Looks like this isn't my month after all 😞👎🏻

Hi everyone
Hope everyone is doing ok x tough road this one

My AF is due today and so far nothing ... I had a MC in Jan and one of the first signs I had looking back was indigestion and what I can only describe as horrible sulphur burps around a week before my AF due ... Well this month I have had the same (I know random symptom) ... I did a test this afternoon and I'm obsessing about whether I can see I faint line on it ... I plan to do a clearblue in next day or two as I'm already driving myself mad and it's only the first day!!

@Russkispy still just spotting I supposed but is think it's getting close to proper flow unfortunately

@ale2992 I'm sorry to hear it. Is it a proper flow or just spotting here and there?!