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Bfn before bfp?

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Cat249 · 30/01/2019 14:38

Hi, never posted before just looking for a little reassurance and hope.
I took a hpt yesterday, day before af due, and a got a clear bfn. Today, still no af but I've not had any pms symptoms all week. Normally have the worst sore boobs that they can't be touched, not even the softest material. No irrational emotional outbursts either.
Have had a metallic taste, kept thinking there was blood in my mouth but checked and there's nothing there. Been overly gassy, hilarious to my OH. Fatigued and vivid dreams. And weirdly, my skin has been so itchy the last couple of days.
I've not been symptom spotting on purpose, gave up on that months ago, just a few observations. If I hadn't checked my tracking app then I wouldn't have realised af is due.
Anyone else had to wait a couple days after af due date?

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Mrsmummy90 · 05/02/2019 11:54

I'm sorry to hear that! Go treat yourself to a bottle of wine xxx

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Cat249 · 05/02/2019 10:03

@Mrsmummy90 I'm sure it'll go quick!
Unfortunately nothing like that in sight for me. Af has finally arrived Sad but at least I can get this out the way and try again!

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Mrsmummy90 · 01/02/2019 11:38

It's not over yet!! 😊

It's on the 28th feb! I'm so excited!! Just want the weeks to fly by 😂

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Cat249 · 01/02/2019 11:18

Thanks @mrsmummy90, I'm like the cat hanging from the branch Grin when do you go for you gender scan?

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Mrsmummy90 · 01/02/2019 10:00

Hang in there! Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you xxx

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Cat249 · 01/02/2019 09:55

@manycatsandallthegin oh no! But like you said, you can now concentrate on dtd again. Practice makes perfect Wink
I'm still waiting, thought I'd test this morning with fmu since yesterday was a washout but still coming up neg. Decided that if af doesn't show, I won't test til tues/weds. That way I'll be a week late and should know for sure

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Manycatsandallthegin · 01/02/2019 09:42

Im out. Af arrived today. Relieved tbh that i can get over this period and crack on with dtd again haha.

Must say its more uncomfortable than usual. So much so i had a cadbury twirl for breakfast

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Cat249 · 31/01/2019 13:38

@manycatsandallthegin yeah she's still not here and still don't feel like she's on her way.
Really hoping she don't show today as having a bad enough day. One of the pipes attached to my cars engine has decided to break. Simple replacement but Ford want to charge £160+ for the part where I could get it for less than £20 and wait for delivery Angry rant over!

Ooh I can't wait to hear the results! I've got everything crossed for you! I've not tried preseed, not sure if I should

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Manycatsandallthegin · 31/01/2019 12:45

Oh thats a shame but not over til the fat lady sings....or af arrives. I havent tested since saturday as too scared. Havent even got a test in the house, though i have ordered some pink dye ones, some ovulation strips and some preseed Blush - kill me now! From amazon so will do it again this weekend!

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Cat249 · 31/01/2019 11:26

So just done 2nd hpt, another bfn. Granted it wasn't fmu but I couldn't hold it in anymore! Still no af so I'm not giving up yet

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Cat249 · 31/01/2019 10:43

@mrsmummy90 once again, I'm glad I'm not the only one. I had started to feel guilty that I was biased towards having a boy. We've discussed names but we've agreed it can't be an ex's name and I went to an all girls school where there were a lot of b*itches so I'm trying to avoid any of those.
With the boys name, he picked the first name which I love and I picked the middle name. So for the girl, I think it makes sense to swap.

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Mrsmummy90 · 31/01/2019 10:25

I know exactly what you mean! With dd, I kept saying I didn't mind either way but secretly was hoping for a girl as I couldn't think of a boys name and had my heart set on a girls name.
I was convinced she was a boy in the end so when they told me I was having a girl, I was in shock lol.
This time DH gets to pick the name because I picked DD's. I'm so scared it's going to be something stupid like Grognak 😂

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Cat249 · 31/01/2019 10:08

@mrsmummy90 I love pinafore dresses! They look so adorable.
In an ideal world I'd like 1 of each but in my head/heart I think I'd like a boy first. Part of the reason also being because I haven't found any girls names that I love. There's a few I like, but not 100%.

@ozziewozzie yeah I've heard the blue dye tests are notorious for evaps. I'm currently using ovaview tests, are cheap on Amazon and pink dye but they have mixed reviews. How many dpo were you when you found out?

@mum22soon23 no I haven't yet. I woke up in a daze this morning and by the time I'd remembered I was going too, I'd already finished. Guess I'm starting the 4hr hold, if I can manage that long lol. I'm so scared to get another bfn

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mum22soon23 · 31/01/2019 07:36

Have you tested again ??? X

Ozziewozzie · 30/01/2019 23:41

Oh yes. Lots of bfn followed by a late bfp. Still hope for you. Use a pink test, do much better than the blues in my opinion.

Mrsmummy90 · 30/01/2019 23:36

I've never really liked the colour pink but it looks so cute on dd 😂 my favourite thing to dress her in atm are little pinafore dresses. Super girly and they don't need to be pink!

I've been wondering whether I'm having a DS as well! Only time will tell 😊

Are you particularly hoping for one or the other? Xx

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Cat249 · 30/01/2019 19:55

@mrsmummy90 I still think she was mad lol.
I'm the same, I don't want a 'pink' girl. The odd thing maybe, but hoping to add femininity with other colours and patterns. I don't know why, I just hate the colour!

Sounds like it must have been terrible! Perhaps this pregnancy is different because you're expecting a DS?? Who knows Smile

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Mrsmummy90 · 30/01/2019 19:08

Oh my gosh I definitely could not have 3 surprises!! I like to plan lol. As soon as we found out we were having dd, we bought so many cute little things for her. I swore I wouldn't have a 'pink' girl but I got sick of people asking "what's his name?" 😂 she now lives in girly stuff lol.

It can be tiring but tbh this pregnancy as been pretty easy so far. It's quite a relief as pregnancy with dd was horrific. It was genuinely so bad that I was considering finding a surrogate for baby 2 but ended up pregnant anyway xx

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Cat249 · 30/01/2019 18:32

@mrsmummy90 I don't understand it either! I've always known that I would find out. I'm impatient and I like to be prepared lol. My mum never found out with all 3 of hers and finds it weird that I want to know.
Thats lovely that they'll be close in age, hopefully they'll have a strong bond with each other! Although I can imagine it's exhausting work looking after her whilst also being pregnant

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Mrsmummy90 · 30/01/2019 18:24

@Manycatsandallthegin I conceived at the end of October and got my bfp on the 20th of November. I started feeling pregnant about a week after getting my bfp :)

@Cat249 this is my second 😊 I have a dd who turns 1 next week!
Yeh, I'm going to find out the sex! Don't understand how people have the patience to wait til the birth lol xx

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Cat249 · 30/01/2019 18:23

@orangedaisy that feeling is the worst! I'm also never more than a day late apart from onxe and that's how me and my OH decided to try. I ended up being a week late, whilst on the pill which never happened, I was always clockwork. When af finally arrived we both realised how disappointed we were and how excited we'd become. Since then, no abnormalities. I'm starting to miss the agonisingly sore boobs I get a week before af because at least I know what's coming! Never thought I'd say that!

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Cat249 · 30/01/2019 18:16

@manycatsandallthegin I will definitely keep updating here. Fingers crossed it's good news for the pair of us and whoever else that joins in Smile

I was a lot worse a couple of months back, struggling to not poas at 6dpo and googling everything. But the last 2 days, I've been a nightmare! Google is my best friend right now. Even looking at reviews of the tests I've got just in case mine might be faulty. They don't get great reviews but I've got a spare that's a different brand just in case lol

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Orangedaisy · 30/01/2019 18:11

I didn’t have any symptoms but af had never been more than 1 day late before. I did my utmost not to symptom spot or test again as I had been crushingly disappointed the one time it had been late and I didn’t want to get my hopes up.

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Cat249 · 30/01/2019 18:08

@orangedaisy thank you! do you remember having any feelings that you might be pregnant or that af wasn't coming? I just don't feel like I normally do when awaiting the witches arrival

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Manycatsandallthegin · 30/01/2019 18:07

Yes totally agree! I felt i was “out” because didnt get a bfp 9dpo like it feels the majority do! Hope your symptoms are correct! Lets keep each other up to date in hee! And any other late bloomers!

Do you find yourself thinking of very little else? Im obsessed and its very annoying. Read so much on google too