Should I tell my bosses i may ttc??

There's a big difference between being considerate and helpful to your employer when planning maternity leave and taking it too far.

If you feel transparency is so important, once you are pregnant, discuss it with your manager as early as you like. I had to have n early conversation with my manager because I wasn't well and it was pretty obvious something was up. That's fine. And certainly, i never understand women who try to keep it secret until 20+ weeks.

I agree with others that it’d be unprofessional and unhelpful to tell them you’re TTC.

I got pregnant immediately with my first DC- first month of trying (and not trying very hard either). Second time round it took 18 months of proper trying and a miscarriage. You could be setting yourself up for months of embarrassment all round if it doesn’t happen quickly.

You're planning a baby, not industrial espionage. Your work will survive. You are not letting them down by having children and for them to even hint that you are is bang out of order.

How worrying that despite being "the ONLY senior person ever hired" that you can't spot straightforward discrimination. God help any of your subordinates.

Pasta 😁

There is nothing in any of your pasta that would make me waver in my thinking. Do not tell them. It would be massively, massively unprofessional to do so. (And I speak as a mother of three and a manager with a difficult portfolio of clients).

No you don’t tell them. You don’t know what will happen, if you can have kids or if it’ll take years. Yes it’ll probably be fine and you’ll probably be pregnant soon but you don’t KNOW that. To say now would be career suicide for no certain outcome. Tell them if it happens at 12 weeks like every other employer gets. 4/5 months is more than long enough

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/jan/22/the-public-would-be-shocked-if-they-knew-how-gagging-contracts-cover-up-maternity-discrimination

You might want to check this out when making your decision. Several women in senior positions found themselves out of a job.

It is terrible that they said they considered it during hiring.

It is terrible they are putting pressure on you not to "surprise" them. (Is 4-5 months notice really not enough for them?!)

I think they have really got in your head and made you feel like you might "look bad" or you might be being unprofessional.

I think the thing to take away from the unanimous horrified reaction on this thread is that it is definitely NOT unprofessional to get pregnant after starting a new job, and in any reasonable workplace it does NOT make you look bad. Your colleagues hints and comments, however, DO look bad to the vast majority of people.

Don't tell them you are TTC. They have no right to know or need to know.

Seriously don't plant the seed in your bosses mind before you are pregnant and have protection.

There is so much risk that it will affect their decision making in relation to you (either consciously or subconsciously) for something that might not happen.

You have just got this job do not risk being sidelined.

By all means go ahead and TTC a year in the job before announcing is fine. If you want to give them as much notice as possible tell them early in the pregnancy if you want but not before you are pregnant.

You sound very immature

This is madness. And I say this as a fully fledged career woman! The fact that they said they had this in mind when they hired you is so bad, especially given that mat leave can be shared between parents now! Work to your schedule, not theirs.

if I had ever told my bosses I was TTC, I would have created a horrendously unprofessional atmosphere. It's a work place, not a club. You need professional boundaries in place or you'll find your "oversharing" nature is what stops you making partner.

As a manager in a professional services firm, this x 1000

You sound like you want to tell them, in which case do tell them, but please don't be surprised when they try and get rid of you for all sorts of reasons. They can't discriminate against you when you're pregnant but they probably will if you tell them you're ttc.

With that conversation with your boss... no, I wouldn't tell them. I would probably consider joining a union at this point though. Just in case. They sound hideously unprofessionally to be talking like this.

I'm half tempted to speak to work about us ttc purely based on there bring zero maternity policy in our company so I have no idea whether there would be enhanced pay or just statutory.

However, I don't want to discuss something so private (and we've had several miscarriages so it might not happen anyway). It also feels like there would be a line I had crossed.

In your case I absolutely would not mention it until you got your bfp.

I'd say don't tell them. Even the nicest of bosses will let it subconsciously (if I'm being generous) change their decisions about what opportunities they allocate you . You are better off being the best employee you can be and seeing how the ttc goes.

Ok, you asked for people's views. Everyone says don't tell, but you don't seem able to accept that advice. Why ask then?

@sjess2019 respect for other women? Take a look at your responses and maybe start there.

Everyone has said don't do it but you're arguing with everyone. Ask yourself honestly - Are you usually so stubborn? If so it might be the first thing you work on when looking at your development plan. You'll be an even better person and account manager if you can admit when you might be wrong.

It's your right to have a child if you wish and you don't need to plan the timing around your workload and you don't need to only have a short time off work to suit your clients.
Your manager is responsible for sorting maternity cover not you - you are entitled to take a year (assuming you're in the U.K.) and no one can pressure you to make that shorter. Neither can they dictate when you return in the year.
You'll regret rushing time off with your new baby. Forget about work and enjoy your time off at whatever time you have it. There's more to life than bending over backwards for work.

I personally would keep my ttc to myself, as you may not conceive immediately and I think it’s not needed. Trying for a child is hard enough on you without sharing the information with too many other people, it’s heartbreaking if it doesn’t go well and I would prefer to keep that pressure away from work