TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 11!

@thumper59

Same. Now I wonder why I even bothered with contraception!

I bet not many of your friends are trying or have babies yet, either. I am older at 27, but I'm still one of the first of my friendship group to start trying, so I can't really discuss it with anybody in my 'real life'.

We can try to keep one another's stresses in check!

@Cinderella812

Absolutely. Same for us really! I am 23, and have spent my whole life being told one slip up on the pill and you'll get pregnant. I had a brief idea about ovulation/fertility windows but not half as much as I've learnt in the past month reading into it! This is only my first month trying so I'm trying not to get to worked up but it's still really hard!

Same with me, nobody other then me and dp even know I am off the pill/trying. Nobody really has any idea! And as much as I want to talk about it I don't want the added pressure so will keep adding my made up issues and stresses into these threads 😂

@thumper59

Thank you for saying that.

"Oh to be a man!" - Quite. I've thought that a lot recently. They truly don't understand, do they? But if you think about it, they have been conditioned to believe from being about thirteen years old, that so much as looking in our direction will make a baby. I think all of the sex education in schools (while positive for many, many reasons) may have gone a bit far... it makes it seems like getting pregnant is practically guaranteed. My husband was genuinely shocked when I explained about fertile windows, and the importance of timing. It was brand new information to him.

I think the only way to stop myself becoming obsessed is to focus on something vaguely related... I've got into that 'KonMari' method of decluttering, and I'm telling myself that it's getting the house ready for baby, so it's a good idea to do it now before I fall pregnant. I'm distracting myself that way!

I am also very aware that none of this is remotely interesting to any of my friends, most of whom do not have children. I don't want to become a baby-bore... especially when there isn't even a baby! I am so grateful for this group, which I can use to speak freely.

Sending so much love to all of you ladies. x

@starkid the opk might be just pre-positive, but I'd consider today as positive unless it's still dark tomorrow. Test before sleep, it'll most likely be even darker.

@Cinderella812 absolutely not alone. My first time too and I am finding it really hard not to go crazy!

I'd said to my partner earlier about maybe not drinking tonight, then when we was out for dinner he asked if I was pregnant because he had seen a 'pregnancy test' in the bin last week and with me saying not drinking ( which I explained to him was just incase, I've got a 2 week wait to find out yet!) bless him, I had to explain the pregnancy test was in fact an OPK. 😂 and I would be telling him a million times an hour if I was in fact pregnant! I've tried to explain to him about now having a 2ww and that is IF my body ovulated when it should of and my period comes as it should ( first month off the pill- who knows!) he looked at me with glazy eyes. Oh to be a man!

@BostonFern you are at pretty much the same stage as me, I stopped BC on Dec 29th and OVD on Jan 5th, AF just started yesterday. Going to try OPK next month, I’m the same age wise as I’m 35 (just 😂) but I know a few people recently in their 30s who have all fallen pregnant pretty soon after trying so we just need to relax and try not to symptom spot (easier said than done I know)

@BostonFern

Hello, it is my first time, too. It sounds like your body is doing a fantastic job of getting itself back 'au naturelle'. That is promising in itself!

Thank you for the advice in respect of lubricants, ladies. I did suggest just not using any, but my husband says he likes it, so I ordered the 'Pre-Seed' brand (thank goodness for Amazon Prime delivery!)

I feel a little bit ridiculous, knowing how difficult it is to actually fall pregnant and how long most people have to try for. But I can feel myself getting obsessive! I'm checking my Clue app, creating little 'wishlists' on the Marks & Spencer website, choosing which hospital I would deliver in, thinking about a baby shower... and I haven't even ovulated yet, for goodness sake. I really hope I am not the only lady getting carried away! I am sure it cannot be healthy, but this is my first cycle trying, so I am a newbie.

What do you all do to reign it in a little? To avoid becoming obsessed?

I have already decided not to tests until AF is 4 days late (CD34), so that should stop me flying through pregnancy tests.

I am not alone, right? Right?

Hi,
I hope nobody minds me joining, it's my first time here.
Congratulations to all those with their BFPs.
@Keyboard, I hope all turns out OK.
A bit about me:
Age: 34
Cycle: 1
CD 24
I came off BC 22nd Dec, and started my normal withdrawal bleed on 27th and think I ovulated around the 10th or 11th as I had an OPK with a very dark line on the evening of the 10th. Have tried not to symptom spot but have felt awful the last week, not sure if that's just from coming off the pill, or something else.
I did a FRER test this morning, too early I suppose, it was a BFN.
OH is very excited about TTC, as am I, but I'm worried about my age possibly making it more challenging for us.

@keyboard91, I'm so sorry. Sending hugs and we're here for you xx

@bettythecat, thanks hun! I'm keeping everything crossed for you!! Xxx

@Keyboard91 - sorry you're going through this

So my last clearblue opk was negative this morning (well just high fertility still), but my One Step just showed this. Do you think that counts as a positive? Surely it must pretty much be? BD time tonight either way!

@Keyboard91 Two weeks waiting is terrible :( can the GP not test your hCG levels to see if your levels are increasing?

@keyboard91
Two weeks must feel like an eternity. I’m a little shocked that there’s nothing that they can do to let you know one way or another before then. You must feel completely adrift.
Sending love to you! Praying for a positive outcome. X

Thank you @TrashKitten10 and @DuchessofPemberley

I just don’t know what to think/feel. There is nothing I can do to change what may or may not be happening. And that’s the worst thing, the not knowing. If I knew it was a no go I could begin to process that. But the not knowing is awful. Advice from midwife yesterday was just to wait 2 weeks and if I’m still getting a positive test result they will have me in for a scan. 2 weeks sounds such a long time to wait if there isn’t an obvious sign that I’ve miscarried. :(

@Keyboard91 I'm sorry you think it could be bad news, hopefully everything is ok. What rotten timing that your partner isn't home until late.

Thinking of you xxx

Oh @Keyboard91 I'm so sorry How utterly cruel. Really hoping it's not the bad news you fear. We are here to talk and listen if you need. Hate to think of you being alone at this time

I think I might be having a chemical :(

Started bleeding about 2pm yesterday. Bright pink, enough to stain a liner. It eased around 8pm when it became very light pink discharge. About 4am today I got up to pee and the bleeding started again. Have bled all day. Again, bright pink, almost red, need a pad and it stains the loo water. Has been a few very small clots.

I tested again this morning and the line is still there, but hasn’t really got darker.

My emotions are all over the place. Partner has gone to work for the evening so I’m home alone until 1am when he gets home :(

@Jessikka I think we're in the same boat! I don't know what's going on - this is not a normal period at all! One bit of red blood and then old stuff but nowhere near enough to count as AF I don't think! 😕 wondering about POAS just to eliminate the possibility that I could be pregnant!

@Jessikka I went on Cerazette because the Estrogen pills were a making me crazy 😂 I was an emotional wreck and cpunflt cope with it! Just now trying to decide when I should count day one of my cycle as I had 3 days of spotting before proper AF showed up.

@Scotslass55 enjoy your little break and let your exciting news sink in. We will all be thinking of you ☺️

@AngeloMysterioso a few hours to three full days according to this website americanpregnancy.org/getting-pregnant/what-is-implantation-bleeding/

So on the longer end but not impossible.

@Lozzlepop after realising the progesterone (can't remember name now) gave me the random bad skin I swapped to Cilest which is more Estrogen than progesterone x

Does anyone know how long implantation bleeding typically lasts for? I'm on day 4 of my random mid-cycle bleed...

@Scotslass55 I can imagine it's all really overwhelming. Whether you've been actively trying or had a surprise pregnancy, doesn't make the news any less life changing. Hope a little time away gives you some time to gather your thoughts and enjoy your news x

@Scotslass55 that's understandable and not at all insensitive. I think you're right - sharing it will help someone out there who has mixed feelings when it happens for them.

It's almost like getting your dream job, you're delighted but nervous and second guessing yourself. Enjoy your break and best of luck with it all.

@Scotslass55 makes perfect sense - take all the time you need and enjoy every second!! Hope everything goes well for you and bean, please come back when you're ready!! Xx