TTC FIRST BABY - Thread 11!

@starkid he's never had it as good he's asked for a week off to recover.

You'd think having a baby is the most natural thing in the world and yet it's by no means easy.

*partner

@PinkFizz19 - your poor husband

Just did another opk and the lines are definitely the same colour now ah something so simple as knowing your body is at least trying to do what it naturally should!

@19Bee2 really? I never knew this, our bodies are amazing but complicated. Have ordered some OPKs for next month so I can check ☺️ Thanks for letting me know!

@MrsAW2018 That should say Sorry* AF got to you. I really should preview my posts. Sorry.

Hey ladies...hope you're all ok and having a lovely weekend. We BD again last night so keeping everything crossed we've done enough. My DP actually said "I'm all shagged out" So here's hoping it was worth it.

@Keyboard91 So sorry to hear about the bleeding. Keeping everything crossed for you that it's nothing to worry about. Sending lots of love.

@MrsAW2018 So AF got to you. I was the same at the beginning of the month..tested in the morning 4 days late BFN..was keeping my hopes up but by lunch she arrived. Have a nice glass of wine and some chocolate.

@FivexFiveHuge Congratulations to you!! What an impressive line. You must be thrilled.

A lot seems to have happened on here today and I can hardly keep up.

I'm sorry @Keyboard91. I really hope it's not what you fear and we're all here if you need us xx

Welcome to any new people. I can totally relate to how crazy ttc can make you! I think I've calmed down a bit now compared to cycle #1 but I'm so glad I have this thread to channel my crazy rather than spewing it all over my dh all the time! 😂 It irritates me how chill he is about it all!

@Beddie11 Hi 👋🏻

Still having some brown spotting every few hours so I think tomorrow AF will hopefully arrive and I can start again, as I've ordered a Thermometer and will try daily OPKs.

Last time I randomly did them every few days just to check I was producing ANY LH hormone and wasn't looking for the surge exactly but managed to randomly pee at the correct time and found it lol!

So will do it properly this cycle!

@starkid glad you've had some luck. You gonna try another one after yours earlier? It looks pretty much positive 😊 I've had some fluctuations dark/light ones but no positives really x

Hi everyone, hope everyone is having a nice weekend.. thinking of the ladies having a tough time! One thing ive realised from being on here and beginning the ttc process is that our bodies are truly complex things! I read something on here earlier about the men not having a clue about the fact that timing has a massive impact on ttc, but like youve said its drilled into them ( and us ) from a young age that practically looking at a woman will end in pregnancy!
@jessikka hope your okay, any progression on the possible AF or IB?? -quick update from me, i had a show of the infamous EWCM today! So it seems my body is finally doing something! Xx

@keyboard91 I know it’s scary but bleeding doesn’t mean the worst at all. I would try and speak to your doctor though and see if they can do a HCG test to try and put your mind at ease. But I do know that implantation bleeds can be as heavy as a period, so please try and keep strong x

@KatBeCool - good idea, will do another one before BD time
@FlapJackered - I've run out of clearblue ones unfortunately might buy more if I end up going another cycle, not sure though... so expensive!!

Think we've done quite well this fw if today is ov day, at least for us... so fx!

Sorry to hear you both not getting any darker opk's @FlapJackered @cupcakesandglitter mine were all barely there until this afternoon

Sorry @Keyboard91 fx all is okay for you xxx

@FlapJackered same here 😩 all light today. Temps not showing I've ov'd yet either which is really annoying. Not BD yet either, and DH is doing overtime today and tomorrow so I doubt we will all weekend. I've been checking my cervix and tbh I'm pretty much dry, i don't 'feel' fertile... Pretty much lost all hope by this cycle! I don't know what's going on with us 😩 x

@Lozzlepop
You can still bleed after not ovulating and it will seem like a proper period but is technically not menstruation, as it is caused by a build up of lining that can't be sustained or a drop in oestrogen (I believe).

In October, I didn't ovulate, according to BBT, but I did bleed, but on CD32 rather than the usual CD30.

@Keyboard91 thinking of you lovely and hope all is okay.

@Jessikka oh I didn’t know this, thanks! I don’t think anything is considered tmi on this thread, we are all very close and like to share

On another note does anyone know if you can still have AF without ovulating or is that impossible?

@Keyboard91 I'm so sorry to see that you think think things may not be progressing well. Keeping everything crossed for you and sending love.

Hope everyone else is doing well, depending where they are.
Welcome @BostenFern
@Thumper59 @Cinderella812 I am also on Cycle 1 and in exactly the same place. It's so hard not to think of it all the time! I'm on CD24 but pretty sure I ovulated later/am having an anovulatory cycle according to temperatures, but surprisingly I'm feeling not TOO stressed about it. Doesn't stop me thinking and wondering all the time, but I'm looking forward to seeing what the next months bring.

For people on here that temp (I've done it for a few months before TTC), has anyone read 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility'??

I had seen it mentioned COUNTLESS times and I am the type of person who loves reading, researching knowing as much as I possible can (doesn't bode well for relaxing, does it?!). It arrived yesterday and it is HEFTY. I've had a scan today in between catching up on work and it is so interesting. Our bodies are amazing and have to do so much work. No wonder things do always go perfectly according to plan or as quickly as we like. Thinking of it that way is going to make me view this whole process with a little more perspective I think.

@Jessikka I've got one cheapie HPT left, so will make a judgement and probably POAS tomorrow! 😂

@Lozzlepop I've read you must count cd1 of actual flow; when it's enough to soak a pad/tampon. That's why I'm still in cycle 1! I'm hoping I have a heavy flow tomoz and actual red blood; not this gross brown! Sorry, considering what we discuss on this thread that one may actually be tmi 😂🥴

@MrsR16 I would be doing that except I had a bfn yesterday morning so I think it would be pointless for me now. Il save my last stick for next month! fx for you though x

@Cinderella812 I'm with you with the wish list. Was looking at baby grows in white company today - we've only just started trying! Must try not to overthink it lol

@thumper59 @Cindarella812 it’s crazy isn’t it- the things you believe when you get told them at school- what else have they lied to us about? 😂 we’ve not told any of our friends or family that we are trying either, it just puts too much pressure on things, most of my friends already have kids so I’m the odd one out 😂

@BostonFern we’ll all get out BFPs and it will deffo be worth it 😄

@Cinderella812 I'm doing konmari too! I was sceptical about the whole thing because I'm not usually into the "brings me joy" thing, but I'm actually really enjoying it! Though it's a bit terrifying how much crap I've bought, never used, and is now destined for charity shoppage. What a waste of money 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Keyboard91 you're being very brave, we all know here how long two weeks can seem. Hang in there, and if you need to vent we're all here for you xxx

@Cinderella812 exactly the same!
No the friends who do have babies have been 'surprises'. I don't know about you but I have a real mixed bag of friends at this age! Some are settled, some are travelling. Some are party mad!
I like being at home with my dp and my dogs and a glass of vino every now and again. 😂

Its a toughy as we have an amazing open and close family so i don't want them to twig onto me acting different now or when we do conceive but we have both decided to keep it between the two of us until a good 8-12 weeks into a hopeful pregnancy whenever it happens. I also don't want to bang on about it to dp as I just want to keep it chill (haha! I couldn't be any further from chill) so it is lovely to get on here and talk about CM and how many DPO we all are. If he could read this he'd think we was mad. 😂😂

Thanks @Cinderella812 and @Lozzlepop
It is so hard trying to distract myself at the moment! It's been on my mind for months really, I've had to slowly come off medication for a heart problem and for arthritis, which is making daily life a bit more challenging already (but it is necessary, and will be worth it in the end I am sure!).