The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

@Frazzlerock she wouldn't give a shit and DH ex would RELISH knowing I'd had a miscarriage! I wouldn't give them the satisfaction.... I stick to witty comebacks and being generally more quick-witted!!

@BettySwoll0cks after 4 years I'm used to it

I also get all the 'you haven't got children so you don't understand' comments that are hard at the mo.

Last time I saw them the best friend was trying to organise a ladies spa day and said 'we could have called it yummy mummy's spa day but Rach has ruined that - dogs don't count ha ha ha ha haaaa!!'... to which I replied, (now you have to understand she is an ugly morbidly obsese pig - and I'm quite glam in comparison!) "that's ok - I'm quite clearly the yummy , you can just be the mummy!"

To note- I'm not a bitch usually , but I do give as good as I get!! X

That sounds horrendous @tigsy!! I would find the bitchiness unbelievably stressful. What is wrong with people, is it so hard just to be pleasant?

@rarher were you in Birmingham?? Welcome to the shithole that I call (10 miles from) home!! 😂😂

Yep, happy Saturday tigsy!! 🤮

Here's a rant (sorry!!)
Got a night out tonight with DHs loser mates. I so don't fit in, they have all been couples since uni and are all boring as fuck! The ex wife was part of the group and friends with some of the girls (some have disowned her because of her actions) but I'm basically NOTHING like any of them!!
I spend my evenings exchanging barbed comments with the ex-wife's best friend.
They've just started a group chat on Facebook where the best friend is constantly trying to mug me off - unsuccessfully.
She's just referred to me as 'miss maiden name'- (dh's EX STILL refers to herself as MRS DH)
I've pointed out it's Mrs DH , but I understand the difficulty seeing as there are plenty of fakes out there, but the easiest way to distinguish is to note the genuine one is to look for the mass of diamonds on the finger - but I do understand her confusion seeing as she wasn't invited to the wedding - and then sent a wedding pic!! (the only couple out of a group of 6 couples that weren't - I put my foot down with that one!) .... someone else has just sent a 'burn' gif.... which means I win this round 😂😂

@tigsy that's nice for you, cold dog sick in the morning 🤢 My DH is pretty good with dog stuff but he seems to have a policy about DS's nappies. He'll occasionally change one, but he can never manage to get it into the nappy bin, just leaves it lying around somewhere for me to tidy up. It's a pretty strong message actually, he's 'doing me a favour' doing a nappy (he expects to be thanked) but really, it's my job 😠

I never knew Shellac was a no-no!!

Ah @tigsyboo sorry your DH is being a wanker it's never too early for gin!

@Rose68 glad you managed to dtd, I don't think it's too early at all. Sounds like a good chance 🤞🏼

@Kinsters gosh your poor DM having that throughout her pregnancy! My aunt had spotting almost daily with her 1st apparently. Something like that would terrify me!

Dh & I went to see Snow Patrol & Kodaline last night... We are huge kodaline fans & chose one of their songs for our first dance at our wedding. Unbeknown to me, DH had emailed the band & contacted them on Instagram basically saying how much we love them, how we chose the song for our wedding, travelled from Cornwall to see them & if they could dedicate the song to us, he'd be really grateful (really cringe, but very sweet... 🙈).
Anyway, halfway through the gig, lead singer starts saying how special the next song is, how he wrote it for his best friends wedding, and how he loves that another couple used it for their wedding, and he wants to dedicate it to... "not our names"
Poor dh was devastated 😂😂😂😂😂

@Rose68
Apparently it's one of the 'we haven't tested but seems not too bad' drugs. It has a half life of 20 hours and I've been advised it's not advised after implantation - but my gp said they give it to people having ivf implantation for 48hrs before hand up to the day to relax them and the uterus... so can't be all bad even then.
I'm only on 2mg.
Tbh I need something at the mo as DH is being a 1st class prick and I can't breath wrong without a full scale row so i need sonething to let his BS wash over me like a warm bath instead of raging back at him!!

Ie- this morning we are both at work - he leaves before I get up. I get a text after I'm up saying 'dogs been sick, I've not got time to clean it up... I text back saying I have to get ready too, and he has just the same amount of time as me... his response 'in only telling you to put it in the bin and antibac the floor, not hand wash the fucker!!' like I can just magic an extra 2 minutes into my morning routine, but he can't possibly! I'm livid reaches for the diazepam because it's too early for gin.

@tigsy I'm on diazepam too, but only a short course for a frozen shoulder. The doc who prescribed it suggested I make sure I stop around Ov just in case, it's not advised during pregnancy apparently?

Sorry crossposted Rose, you had sex yesterday so that's still good timing! Do it again when he's back on Sunday and I think you're definitely in with a chance.

Sounds like good timing Rose and at least he's not away for too long.

Frazzle I very rarely get clear EWCM either. Anything that's a bit stretchy I just put down.

Based on my opks and temperature going back down after one really high blip on Thursday I think I might ovulate today or tomorrow. I hope so anyway because DH is away Monday to Friday next week! CD12 or 13 sounds ok for ovulation...better than CD9! Just shows you can't tell anything by just one temperature.

I finally told my mum about the miscarriage (before the only people who knew were my sister, FIL and BIL). It was nice to speak to her about it. She never had any miscarriages herself but with my youngest sister didn't make a drs appointment until she was 12 weeks because she had spotting the whole of the first trimester (and actually the whole pregnancy if I remember correctly) so didn't think it would last.

Positive opk and ov pain this morning.... where is DH 😩

@Tigsy I believe nail varnish isn’t good for egg quality, I only found this out just after Xmas. Neither is hairspray, and a few other things which I have forgotten.
I had my hair done last week too ☺️
I’ve found if there is any clotty stuff it comes out with the tampon, I have also started using pads more, but not whilst af is heavy, it’s too gross.
Have you thought about having acupuncture? I seem to be calmer and feel I can cope with things a lot better since I’ve been doing it. xxx

@BettySwoll0cks
With me I'm sooooo not used to pads it feels gross!! Every time I stand up I feel the 'gloop' of something moving out 🤮 I'm trying to use them for a couple of hours a day though after work to allow anything the tampon clogged up to pass out.
I find I pass loads on the toilet though, I can see it all coming out when I push to wee.... sorry TMI!!

I have my nails done with shellac anyway.... I didn't know that was a no no??
And yes.... I've booked my highlights in for the 31st too!! Roots-be-gone!!! 🎉

I used to have Botox and I considered getting that done too but know if I got bfp and something went wrong I'd be convinced it was that!

Also started a week back on diazepam to try and settle my anxiety back into a 'non worried' state while it's not harming anything... I find a week or so can settle me down for a good while as my body realises it likes a non worried state.... I also found out the give it to women having ivf implant to relax them for implantation so can't be too bad at pre-implantation stage xx

We're in the same boat tigsy. I tried pads for 2 days then gave up as AF was too heavy, then did 2 days of TOTM tampons, now things have calmed down a bit I'm back to pads. I haven't had much clotting though, have you? I also dyed my hair and painted my nails, because I can ...

Sooooo - AF is horrible!! Heavy and vile
Trying to alternate between tampons and pads (🤮) because want to make sure any clots pass.

Anyway.... I'm sitting with a huge glass of wine, just booked my semi permanent brows appointment seeing as I'm not PG!!

I find that my CM all but dries up when we BD a lot. Apparently that's actually q common (no idea why it should be tho). So when we're doing SMEP (although I don't Ov until about CD16 usually, so I don't start BDing and OPK until about CD12) I find using EWCM as a predictor q unreliable. Temps and OPKs all the way!

The stuff the sperms in doesn’t really stretch like ewcm, but you might have had ewcm & sperm stuff mixed up together.

We aren’t doing SMEP, I don’t like to waste all that sperm pre ovulation. I’m expecting ov tomorrow, based on the last 10 years, it should be today (cd13), but something (dhea or acupuncture) has extended my cycle to ov on cd14 last month. I haven’t had cd 14 ovulation for donkeys years. DH gets back on Sunday and we will bd then, which will probably be too late x

Not coming down with something are you, might be reason for raised temp? Did the heating come on and raise temp in room a bit high before you woke?

That is certainly a good sign though Rose68 keep it up there for the slower swimmers! When do you think you will ov? I suppose you might be SMEPing so could still be all good for you this cycle. FX

I used to wonder that too Frazzle but then found this on FF
www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Distinguishing-Semen-and-Cervical-Fluid.html

@Frazzle I’m using cb digital ov tests which are meant to be done in the morning, or you have to hold your wee for at least 4 hours. Well... that’s what the instructions say anyway.... and there is no hope of me holding wee for 4 hours 😆

DH has gone away now, he’s back Sunday. Nothing seems to have fallen out of me so far after dtd this morning, which is quite unusual. But I still think it’s too early anyway. Tomorrow should be D day x