The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

Twittle... what the actual fuck is she going on about? Actually maybe it would be a blessing in disguise if she does?
I have struggled slightly with some of the MIL talk on here, because I’m very aware that I will be the MIL and never the DM. But I would never ever ever say that to one of my sons! I wouldn’t give a shit what their names were as long, I would just want to be part of their lives. They can be whatever and whoever they want to be!
How are you and DH now?

@TwittleBee "Also PIL said they're cutting us from their lives... all because we double barrelled our surname"

Sorry, what???!!!

Total crier here too! Cry at bloomin everything and anything.

So my cousin just announced her pregnancy, due date same as what mine was.... If I didn't have that BFP this morning I think I'd actually be completely distraught. Still hurts now.

Also PIL said they're cutting us from their lives... all because we double barrelled our surname and they've only just realised (MiL saw DH's Drs notes)

@tigsy great result... looks like you saw the right person. What a kind lady. X

@Betty I'm a crier too. No tips whatsoever. I think they're used to it and wouldn't worry about getting embarrassed (know this absolutely does not help).

@betty cry!!!! Why not?? It's fucking shit!!!
I cry every time, I don't try to stop it now because why should we pretend to be ok when we aren't? I think sometimes showing how you feel gets the best results.... xx

Tigsy that’s great news, it will be so much better for you while ttc! I expect she could relate to having a mc, unfortunately I think most women can.

Frazzle my cleaner is also 4 hours every other week.

Betty, I am also a crier, I am pretty sure that not only will they be used to it, they will be expecting it.

Betty I'm a crier - it's just who I am and there's very little I can do to stop it. It used to cause arguments with DH in earlier days because he'd think I was crying to shut him down (i.e. when we were arguing) but I wasn't at all - crying is just a response to anger or sadness for me.

Thinking about it my only tip would be don't give them time to start the conversation - you be the one to start it and try and start as you mean to go on i.e. unemotional and factually state everything as clearly as you can. That way they have no cause to ask how you are or what's the matter. I always find that sets me off. I guess it's a very personal thing though.

Even if you do end up crying I'm sure they'll have seen it before and wouldn't think badly of you.

tigsy those hours sound great and just what you need. Make sure you don't let your boss bully you into doing more!

Sorry....
usually you get put on half usually hours at first ...

Well that's a turnup for the books tigsy!!

I don't suppose anyone has got an tips for not falling apart completely in tears when explaining their situation to doctors/healthcare people? I just had to make an appointment for a medical review and even doing that on the phone has really upset me - just the prospect of having to talk about it all 😪

No girls
It's virtually unheard of!! They have the worst welfare I've ever known! It's 'if you don't like it leave... oh wait... you can't!! Shut up now!'
I was off sick for 3 months with anxiety and got bfp and mc during that period too.
I told the nurse all about it, the response of 'an I going to ttc again or concentrate on work and not going sick', that my first day back last week I walked into an empty office and left to fend for myself... and she said she wasn't having it and I needed to ease back in!
Usually up get half hours for 2 weeks and no public duties for a month.... I've got 4 hrs a day for a month, 5 hours for a month and 6 hours for s month!
She went on to say she hopes by then I'll have my bfp and she'll restrict me again (you have to be medically restricted early in my job as if it all kicks off like the riots a few years ago you are fair game to be in heels oneminute and then in riot gear the next minute for a 12 hr shift if you aren't properly restricted!)
I gave a feeling she might be able to relate with the MC, she seemed to really soften when I started to talk about that.

what a relief tigsy !

That's wonderful tigsy! Is it quite common in your line of work for people to do that to avoid burnout?

Well Occ health have been amazing!!
Really feel sorry for me with the MC and have said I can work reduced hours on full pay for 3 months!!! 👍🏼

I want to go to the badger hideout!

Pegase yes to time dragging! We're on day 23 and give we normally dtd a couple of times a week it's getting pretty tiring!

Betty you fly a helicopter?! That's so cool! My DH is doing his private pilots licence atm in a little cesna. Only as a hobby so it'll take him a few more months to qualify still.

I am so shocked by some of the comments you ladies have received!

likewise frazzle its a real slow day today.

Rose you dont know! You might also get a BFP too! Doesnt just have to be 1 of us DPO sisters! Actually shocked it was me as it took me 12 months to get the last one (not counting the couple CPs)

@Frazzlerock I'm having a slow day too...
Just spotted this on our local buy/sell group. Cheered me up a bit 😂😂

Ha ha!! I know it’s like I’m Barbara Cartland or something!!

One of the lads in the office overheard and took a sharp intake of breath and said ‘Jesus sprog - you on a suicide mission?’ 😂😂