The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

Oh @Frazzle I would have lost it at "flange" I'm very immature though. Tower Bridge looks gorgeous, that's a fantastic picture!

@Kinsters I know exactly what you mean but I think you're probably overthinking things slightly - no one is going to think "omg she's having a period" if you take your handbag to the loo. If you do feel self conscious, can you not pop a few pads in your bra and use those throughout the day?

Beautiful!

That's shit Frazzle it's so mean how our bodies play tricks on us. I was quietly hopeful this cycle cause I had awful heartburn, was a bit gassy etc. but it was just pre-AF crap. For what it's worth your chart looked really stable and smooth which must be a good thing for the future.

I really don't know how to manage my period at work! Which sounds stupid but I haven't really had periods since I was 18. I've got a pad in my bra at the moment cause I'm wearing a dress without pockets. I don't know what other people do - just take your handbag to the loo? I don't want everyone to know I'm on my period (stupid as that is).

Ah I'm sorry @Kinsters that's rubbish 😕 I think the first cycle pre AF is renowned to be all over the shop. Xx

Sounds like a lovely weekend @ProseccoBee glad you had a good one.

Wanted to do a test this morning with FMU but woke up so bursting for a wee that I completely forgot to do it 😫

It's so annoying edidxb I just feel like why's it so hard, we should just have sex and make a baby.

Does your DH go away quite a lot? Mine travels for a few days most weeks although so far we've only had trouble catching one o. Next one should be in a couple of weekends which would be good timing.

arrgghh, sorry @kinsters that's rubbish.
I know the feeling as I really wanted to get pregnant straight away and you read so much stuff that says it's the best time. And you time things right, and still.

I tried to console myself with the fact that I needed AF over and done with so I could move on. I am on CD9 now and I am hoping my cycle will be a bit more normal this month. Nothing happening yet but that's OK as my DH is going away for work for the next few days! I don't want to miss the opening.....

@Proseccobee - that sounds like the nicest day ever!

More spotting/bleeding now so I guess that's me back at CD1 again.

The roller-coaster that is my luteal phase continues... I swear this cycle has been the most confusing. With the temp drop and spotting yesterday I assumed I must be 10dpo and AF would start but it didn't and now my temp is up again so who knows.

I've had a 14 day luteal phase before so I'm not getting my hopes up too much as for me luteal phase spotting has always preceded AF. The one time I didn't get it was when I was pregnant.

Twittle it's not selfish to be upset about what happened. I agree with the others, try taking a month not mentioning it to your DH and see what he does when you're next ovulating. My DH would always say "hmm maybe it's not the right time" after I'd ovulated but I never mentioned it and he'd happily resume bd'ing when I was next ovulating. Unless your DH would see this as a deception/betrayal?

Rose sorry about AF

Prosecco that sounds like a lovely day!

Happy Birthday @edidxb, sorry you've not had the best one! definitely do plan something lovely for yourself for a later date! In regards to feeling like time is running out and that you havn't got a single child of your own, I hear you! I just want one! I feel like everyone I know in real life has a baby or is pregnant.

sorry @rose that Af has arrived!

and hope your doing ok @twittle, everything about this all sucks!

@ratherbe fingers crossed your symptoms are leaning towards a BFP!

hope everyone else is doing good! I've had a nice weekend of chilling. Dh went to the football and then went out with his friends for a few drinks last night, so I had the house to myself. It was actually really lovely just got tidied at a very leisurely pace and then read a book and binged watch "You" on Netflix. I then finally go round to watching "Call The Midwife" Christmas special an cried my eyes out but in a good way. This morning Dh was feeling slightly fragile so managed a lovely long lie in, we did a big shop and then went for lunch at the farm shop tea rooms and then a lovely long walk around the Country park. Sometimes its the simple things isn't it!

Argghhh sorry @rose68 that's rubbish. But like I tried to think. In some ways a good thing. And now you are back on the acupuncture. Hope it's not too painful x

AF has arrived here

Hey. Thanks for the birthday wishes. I got to work at 7am and left at 8.30pm and had some toast for dinner so was pretty rubbish!! Och well, I'll try and get some nice days planned soon.

@Twittlebee - hope you are OK - best thing is the 48 hour HCG test to know for sure. I do think a break of a month or so will help your DH loads.

Thanks for all the comments on my age/children etc - it's nice to feel so supported.

Right, off for a large glass of wine now!

How are you feeling @TwittleBee? X

That’s really helpful to know Rose68. I’ll def look into it. Frustrating they don’t readily offer any of these tests up though. Thank you x

@TwittleBee it's not selfish
I go back to my buying a house analogy (I may trade mark it!) once the ball is rolling your mind changes and shifts into a new way of thinking, you can't reverse it!
It's like booking holiday, then it getting cancelled.... no one say 'ah well, who needed a week on a beach anyway??' You are gutted because that's where you head is at.
I hope no one thinks I'm trivialising being PG by the way, i know it's nothing like a beach holiday... it's just the only way I can explain why it's so 'there' in my mind now when it was just floating around loitering before. Xx

@Twittle, you are not being selfish, it is just totally shit. You will have more children, but it might be slightly different to how you planned. Maybe when DS is sleeping properly DH might feel a bit different. Maybe even when it comes to DTD DH might not realise / not care. xxx

@Buggles1 you can get some blood tests done on the NHS, I can’t remember if you are living abroad? If you are in the UK you can get CD2 FSH test and also cycle CD21 progesterone test on the NHS. Also DH can get SA done. xxx

Sorry I'm being so negative today, just don't feel like I can turn to DH at all. Don't feel like I can talk to anyone IRL. Just so sucks as took as a year TTC to end in MMC and should have bloomin known it was too good to be true that I got lucky straight away. I know I am being so selfish, I have one lovely DS already. Just never thought we should have more than 2.5 year gap between our kids and always saw myself having at least 3.

All you can do is keep temping tigsyboo it's the annoying thing about charting. It isn't until a few days later (even a couple weeks) that things become clear in terms of temp patterns. It is suspect that the rise happened after a lay in. But also the shift does look good and typical of Ov.

@Rose68 we had a two natural conceptions last year but both ended in mc, one mc at just 5 wks then one mmc at around 9 but discovered at 12wk scan. We’ll keep trying but it would be nice to know if there is anything wrong with either me or DH which means we’ll continue to miscarry. 3 mcs seems a long time to have to wait for investigations at this age. I think I’ll look into private tests if we have no joy this month.

Pegase I maxed out mine too but it told me to carry on testing.... I'm Day 21 with no peak on that but IC's suggested LH surge 3 data ago and had temp rise now (although slight dip this morning)..
I thought you had to keep testing on the cbfm for a while cycle so it's learning you? Otherwise next cycle might be a 'learner' one too. Seems a waste of stick but I figure I'd rather waste the sticks than waste a month??

I'm concerned as the temp rise has come st weekend when I get extra 2 hrs in bed?? Is that coincidence?? Also gone back into my app and seems to have generated its own cover line... dies it look right?? @Frazzlerock @TwittleBee I know you both feel shite today (and rightly so!!) but could you have a squint? Xxx