The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

@Tigsy I am taking pregacare conception, so I would take them off you, but I’m also very happy for someone else to do so as they might actually have more chance than me.

@Ratherbe If I get a bfn with a frer at 10dpo I would count myself out. I know you can get bfp’s at 8 and 9dpo but I wouldn’t count myself out with a bfn that early. I have noticed with frers that I can sometimes see the line where the second line should be if it was there (if that makes sense). It looks grey in colour, if it’s a bfp there is always a hint of colour to the line x

I am just off for a very short run, I will be back with more soon x

oh Frazzle my heart breaks for you. And I totally understand that odd feeling to some extent about having to justify wanting another baby so bad when you already have children. I really hope your PCOS is gonna stay better for you now and that you will get there. DP won't change is mind will he, do you have a niggle that he might?

I took a test as i was leaving for work (so 3rd morning pee) and it is clearly a BFP, so so so much better than past couple days with FMU! I am so confused. GP has no appointments left for today so won't be able to discuss whats happening. Spotting stopped too at least. Also chucked my guts up this morning at the smell of tea so taking that as a good sign.

And pegase..... yey for peak
Mines been high all cycle and now day 22 and temps suggest I’m out the window now.... read that once you are 3 days past peak / Ov you can reuse old sticks as readings don’t matter then anyway.... got 2 left so will be saving them and reusing till Af (which I’m convinced is the only outcome this month) x

Morning all
@rather yes it’s embarrassing all round, although my colleagues think it’s hilarious and we’re reminding me to buy some fruit for the fruit bowl and check there is milk and cereal (standard social worker checks)! Tbf he’s not too bad (I’m not a social worker fan.... police are much less fluffy and I’d rather someone talk straight!!) but it’s still irritating asking me to rank our happy home life on a scale of 1-10!! Yes mate... erm I think I’ll go 10 thanks because I can’t really say “about a 3 at the min because DH is being a knob, I’ve just lost a baby, and I swear to got if I tread on another piece of a Lego model I’m gonna launch that shit straight through the f**king window!!” ..... 🤔.... no I stuck with “oh it’s definitely a 10 here, we are all so happy living as a family at last!” 😂😂😂😂

Rather that bloomin sucks. You might not have implanted yet though. Most implantation happens at 9dpo! Although I got a BFP at 9dpo recently, my previous BFP wasn't until 12dpo!

ratherbe I think a FRER is considered definitive at 12dpo by most of the TTC communities I've seen so you still have a few days. For what it's worth I've found ics to be insanely sensitive and got really early positives (though one was a chemical). If you've had more than one line on an ic I'd be inclined to think its a positive but wouldn't rule out the possibility of a chemical.

Really hoping its a positive for you.

@tigsyboo what a rubbish situation. Considering your job, I'm sure they're equally embarrassed to be visiting you. Sounds like it should be resolved soon?

@InDreamland welcome back. I have no knowledge or experience with fertility testing I'm afraid. I'm sorry that you haven't conceived by your dd yet - that's one of my biggest fears - sending lots of love xx

@Pegase you still have time tonight!!!! 😬

I did another test this morning & I'm pretty sure the one I did yesterday was an evap line or a faulty test as this one is a very clear BFN. I'm 9dpo so should get something on a FRER shouldn't I, if I was pg? 😫

@edidxb that’s such a sad and awful story! I hope she has lots of lovely friends to help her during this horrendous time. The poor thing can’t even imagine how you would cope with that.

@ratherbe 52 is no age! So sorry and so sad.

I found out yesterday that one of my friends at work her husband had a stroke at the weekend and apparently his speech is badly effected. He’s only 53 and he’s really healthy in himself. I could cry for her because it’s their first grandchild first birthday next week and this will put a right dampener on it. It does just go to show you that you can’t take anything for granted.

Don't worry Pegase you have between another 12 and 48 hours before you ovulate anyway, DTD tonight?

Argh- peak this morning! Knew we should have DTD last night. So tempting to not go to work and have important baby-making shag!

edidxb that's such an awful thing to happen. Can she even fly back home or is she too far along? Hopefully she has some support around her.

Tigsy that's a kind offer, I take pregnacare conception but live in Malaysia so the postage would be uneconomical! Sorry about the social workers, that must be hard.

InDreamland I have no idea re the NHS timescales. Sorry you've been feeling down, I think the significant dates must be so much harder. We were going to announce our pregnancy at Chinese New year so I'm not looking forward to that.

Pegase Would he just do a quick baby making shag?

Welcome back @InDreamland

Sorry I don't know much about fertility testing but I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will have the answer.

Am getting v annoyed with DH- as I suspected would happen, he is over all the extra DTD and now can't be bothered/is too tired. But I don't know if I have ov'ed yet or not so could end up rendering this cycle completely wasted if I can't convince him to get on with it soon !'

Hi ladies. Not been on MN for around 10 days as AF arriving hit me hard with it being our last chance now lost to be pregnant by the time due date of first baby confess around. Dreading Friday next week. Finally took the plunge and contacted a private clinic for testing as after second loss in November I really need answers now. Does anyone know how long it takes for NHS to provide copies of all test results I have had related to fertility? Do I ask my GP for them even when the tests were ordered through gynae clinic? The private clinic say to bring to initial consultation.

I'm going to try and catch up on here.

Hope everyone is well and riding this crazy journey better than I am x

Oh my what a sad sad thing!!
Makes me so sad

Had a bloody awful night with social workers coming to see the kids before the final court hearing... even though it’s not me that caused this it’s their crazy mother I hate having bloody social workers in my house!! Makes me so angry she brought this on us!!!!

Hope you are all ok ladies
Much love!!

Oh is anyone using pregnacare conception.... have around 45 tabs I’m not going to use I’m happy to post to any of you save them going in the bin??

Oh that's so heart breaking edidxb reminds me about my family friend, something similar. She was pregnant and her DP passed away in his sleep unexpectedly (only in their 20s). She named their daughter after him

@edidxb that’s horrid, the poor poor lady.

And @ratherbe, to lose your Dad at age 52, that is so awful. It’s wrong that people can die so young.

It does really make make you think doesn’t it.

xx

Stories like this terrify me.
My dad was passed away very suddenly, he had a nap on a hot sunny day, had a heart attack in his sleep & never woke up, aged 52. In my teen angst, the last time we spoke I slammed the phone down on him. Anything like this really scares me. You just never know what's around the corner.

Feeling very jealous of your evening alone @edidxb - I always let the dogs on the sofa, order in Thai & spend the evening reading my book completely uninterrupted when Dh goes out/away. Absolute bliss 😍

It's just awful. The healthcare here is pretty good as a whole but things can happen at any time.
I am sure more details will come out tomorrow. Sorry to bring the mood down but I love how you decided to text your husband @ratherbe to say you love him. I am home alone tonight and will do the same!

Oh @edidxb that's devastating. I hope she gets the support she needs. Is there much in the way of that in Dubai?
I was genuinely going to post about how my DH has pissed me off today but stories like that make you realise just how precious life is and to be grateful for everyday. I've just text him to tell him I love him instead

Oh gosh @edidxb that's completely tragic 😔

I think I need to try and be more militant in what I eat. I am usually pretty healthy but since my first miscarriage in March last year I have slowly put on lots of weight in comfort eating.
I need to get a grip and was doing pretty well until this crazy week of work has started and I am eating badly and drinking alcohol. I need to really get a grip.
I am taking supplements to try and improve egg equality though and also eating spinach, pumpkin seeds etc to be good. I am jst eating cake, crisps, pizza and wine as well........

Anyway, in other news, and this is actually really really sad. I've just had a whatsapp message from my work chat to say that a lady at work's husband has just died tonight. She is 8 months pregnant and is due to give birth in the next week or two...........he went in for heart surgery and it went wrong, ended up in ICU today and died tonight. I just feel so sad for her. Especially in Dubai where you are far from home. She isn't British but most of her family are in a different country. Truly awful for her. And now she will have to give birth and grieve all at the same time.

Sorry to share the news, and I know you don't know her but just had to share.