TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD 10!

Just cried to DP - bloody hormones.

There was blood this morning on the tissue, bright pinky red, not much. Assumed it was AF. But nothing more on tissue or pad since. Wish it would just get on and get it over with!!!

@cupcakesandglitter @MrsR16 sorry about AF. Maybe January will be our lucky month ❤️

@MrsR16 sorry to hear that 😩

@MrsH497that's okay, that's what I love about this thread, there's loads of new information shared all the time!

@cupcakesandglitter thank you so much. I'll have a look on amazon.

Thank you for the advice it's crazy that I have no idea about when I ovulate or anything!

I think I'm out this month... started spotting this morning. 😭😭😭

@MrsH497 you need a BBT thermometer which goes to two decimal places - you can get them quite cheap from amazon. You have to take them at the same time every morning as soon as you wake up, before you sit up/get out of bed. I think it has to be after at least three/four hours sleep too. I'd recommend Fertility Friend purely for logging your temperature - if you do it as soon as you take it, it'll log the time you've taken it at and put the chart together too

@cupcakesandglitter thank you! For the temping is it a normal thermometer and rake at certain times of the day?

Bless you ❤️

@MrsH497 there are three main ways for ov; first one is OPKs - doing these two times a day will hopefully pick up your surge, second one is temping - the temp will show you after you've ovulated so should work hand in hand with OPKs, and then the third one is your cervical mucus - when you're at your most fertile it changed to EWCM (egg white cervical mucus) because it resembles raw egg white, so clear slippery and stretchy. This is the best Cm for sperm to swim in, so after ovulation it's either sticky/not stretchy/ nothing at all x

Just texted DH to tell him AF is on her way, and he's just said he thought I was pregnant 😩 I wish it was that easy

Any tips on working out when ovulation happens?!

@MrsEG well today according to app. I feel nothing which to be fair isn't unusual for me.

Determined to not be disappointed it's only our first month trying. Came off the pill about 6 months ago.

Thank you @EltzBee @MrsEG @DuchessofPemberley @KatBeCool @ValidUser I think everything just got to me and then my hormones are crazy, I've woke up to sore nipples and I think the smallest amount of spotting so I'm pretty sure AF will be here by Christmas x

@ValidUser fx it was ovulation spotting x

@starkid like @Crossfitgirl said, your body can gear up to ovulate, so you'll still have your surge but it just may not happen so it'll try again - that's why OPKs aren't always reliable because they don't show that you did ovulate x

@DuchessofPemberley I feel your pain - that's why I stopped temping and doing OPKs this month. I didn't log anything down, and had no idea where I was in my cycle... I didn't think it would work but actually it did, because I didn't feel pressured to know what was going on. I think that's why I was thrown off guard yesterday with the EWCM because I didn't know where in my cycle I was! Maybe take a month off temping OPKs etc and just DTD when you feel like it for a month? Even if you don't catch, like I don't think I have this month, it's nice knowing that neither you or DH have had that pressure? Xx

There's nothing there is there I'm not just being pessimistic

Aww @duchessofpemberley how frustrating for you, rant away that's what this thread is for! If OPKs aren't always accurate for you maybe it's not the best thing to rely on for your timing? Have you tried temping at all? I stopped doing OPKs altogether and temped instead and it seemed to be better for me, I found it less stressful and it meant we just kinda DTD around the time we thought and when felt good,up until the temp rise. i found I started looking more for other signs like EWCM which is one of the best indicators if you're not tracking in other ways.
Totally feel your pain though, for me the OPKs did seem to work but the clear blues and ICs were Contradicting each other so I stressed out thinking we'd nailed it one day to find the CBD told me ov was the day after! And even then, one month my OPKs showed ovulation but my DH flat out refused sex during the whole fertile period! I had a proper meltdown and it wasn't long after I decided to scrap the OPKs. Lol.

Thanks guys. Guess it's best I assume this is my actual ovulation then and get cracking dtd again! (This cycle has been so stressful, I like to be eased into my fertile week not thrown straight into DTD NOW NOW NOW) haha
With that positive test put in my app, i'm now being shown as due on AF New Year's Eve (although that would only be in 9 days time, and my luteal phase is usually 11 days long, so am thinking 2nd Jan)

Apologies for the rant, I’ve no one in real life to let it out with and I’m trying not to put too much pressure on DH. He’s knows I’m upset, but maybe not the extent of it.

It was quite cathartic

I’m actually really angry. I’ve been using OPKs for six months (the first month was a test month, we weren’t TTC) and I’ve got no peak reading three months out of those six.

What is the actual point if you can’t rely on them?

I get high oestrogen readings for ten days, so we bd a bit and hang on for the peak and then realise it’s probably gone.

I know we could do it every day or every second day during the fertile period but I worry that it would put my DH under too much pressure, and after the year we’ve had I’d like to avoid that.

I feel like relying on OPKs has actually hurt my chances, because we have some nice relaxed bd in the first few days of the FW, and then hang on for a peak day that doesn’t come, and by the time I realise that it’s too late.

It’s not impossible that we conceived this cycle, but it’s less likely , and I’m so angry and upset because I don’t know what more I can do.

I tried to be less obsessed this cycle, took my temperature, did my OPKs, but didn’t google anything, came on here less often, hoping that would make me less emotionally invested. Thought about it less, because all I had to do was dtd when my tracking stuff told me to. Right?

Fuck it anyway.

@starkid it's not unusual for your body to gear up more than once for ovulation, so you get 2 peaks in a month but if it wasn't quite enough the first time your body will try again, hence the 2nd peak. Maybe that's what it is?

@validuser hope you’re well lovely, I’ve been on here reading every day, can’t keep away lol. The ladies on the other boards aren’t as lovely as you lot xx

@MrsH497 sorry for the bfn. X

@starkid Clearblue usually gets my days wrong (early) (I don't temp, but progesterone levels suggest my cheap sticks are more accurate!).

@cupcakesandglitter I feel your pain!

@sunshine1987 lovely to see you.

@Crossfitgirl 😂

@MrsEG you are so right. I'm a spring chicken!

@Keyboard91 Sorry for the BFN.

Here's a funny one. I had spotting at 1dpo. I never have ovulation spotting. My hope is we got an egg from the good side and the tube is still patent - apparently ovulation spotting can come from the ovary (less common than uterine lining, but it happens). Here's hoping!

Well most apps predict AF being due today no sign and a BFN this morning not even a hint of a line