TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD 10!

@cupcakesandglitter it's hard isn't it as you don't want it to be a chore but you also know too much and don't want to miss ov! DH said to me he always felt like he ejaculated more when he was more horny but when he was tired or not in the mood it was less erm powerful and not as much came out haha. I do think being in the mood makes a difference... And doing it when you don't feel like it makes it all the more disheartening when you get a BFN. When we did SMEP and it didn't work I was absolutely gutted as we'd "worked" so hard that month for nothing. The time we conceived was the best sex we'd had in ages. Good luck and enjoy the good place!

I'm good thanks, got the day off today, feel OK and am tentatively considering going back to the gym... We shall see!

Hi everyone 😊

Here is that link that @Crossfitgirl was on about, the numbers seem scary at first but I loved how quickly they went down (plus I love statistics haha) datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php

I am 13 weeks today, I had my 12 week scan last week and everything looked healthy, the baby wouldn't stop moving 😊 really hope to see you all on the grads thread soon! Xx

@MrsH497 Disneyworld is awesome, we've been a couple of times, definitely my favorite place to visit.

@cupcakesandglitter another vote for The Good Place, love it. We've been binging on Highway thru hell, lol, one of the few things we can both agree to watch. Bruges is brillant, going to throw in a vote for Budapest, beautiful city and so much history. The thermal baths are excellent and totally worth experiencing.

We've got a holiday planned for next month, we booked the flights back in October. Ought to get hotels sorted🙈. It's not been high up the priority list.

@19Bee2 @KatBeCool @Crossfitgirl Yes you're all right! Hopefully it'll catch.. trying not to get my hopes up. I've been unusually relaxed the last few weeks away from the usual stresses of life so hoping that's helped! Also when me and DH discussed TTC we said we weren't going to be maniacs around the fertile window and we were going to attempt just doing it a lot the whole cycle but it really is exhausting! Anyway I caved and randomly did an opk which happened to be positive that day and then during that time I tracked my temp which is how I caught it. I also didn't actually tell DH how much I was checking all this behind the scenes and as such I think it made the BD's way more natural and good! I've heard that helps!

Thanks for Netflix recommendations - we're Netflix addicts!! We binge watched Haunting of Hill House which was terrifying but good!

@cupcakesandglitter Florida we went 4 years ago but DH wants to go again before we have kids so it's just us.

Kraków is beautiful and really cheap when you're out there. Bruges is also beautiful. Love a good city break xx

@MrsH497 we were thinking about Krakow! DH has been before but years ago. Think I'm gonna redecorate etc and then budget a holiday for next month! OMG which Disney?! There's one in Tokyo!! DH said he wants to do it when we have kids 😭 I don't need children to go 😂 also I was pissed majority of last month and we caught, I think it's relaxing that helps 😂 x

@cupcakesandglitter I can highly recommend Bruges and Kraków for a city break! We don't know really we had thought about Mauritius or something similar but then are we just going to compare a beach holiday to the Maldives?! So now looking at Disney!

That is true it takes one time! Our friends told us last night they were pregnant and conceived when they were both pissed nothing romantic lol xx

@MrsH497 try and stay positive, it only takes the once!! Ooh have you decided where you're going?! We're thinking about doing a city break maybe next month/March - crazy how fast that will go! X

@cupcakesandglitter not too bad thank you lovely. Really tired works taken it out of me also meant we didn't DTD enough in fertile window I don't think so not optimistic. May go for temping or clearblue OPKs next month.
Ooh we like a good Netflix series I'll suggest it to DH. We are planning our holiday and also getting bits in the house sorted. Xx

@Crossfitgirl will start watching it tomorrow!! We've finished you 😳 watched it all yesterday 😂 Thankyou! I find it's not always how often we do it, it's more that it feels like a chore I guess. I think when we're tired but super horny we will make time - whereas when we're only doing it for a baby we just don't have the energy. 🤷🏻‍♀️ How're you getting on? Xx

@cupcakesandglitter have you watched "the good place"? If not, put it on your list after "you".
Soooo good!! Glad you're feeling a bit better xxx

@random2468 @katbecool true, it only takes once. We spent 7 cycles trying to carry on as normal, when that didn't work we tried to time it around ov, then when that didn't work tried SMEP, then we moved house and I literally missed the window completely and in a last ditch attempt to save myself the day of the temp rise (when I thought oh fuck it's too late now) , we dtd and that's when it happened!

They do say sperm quality /quantity reduces the more often you have sex so I do wonder if the couple of weeks of no sex helped it along? But then it could just have been a total coincidence and pure luck. Who knows!

It feels like ages ago now that we were dtd all the time. It was so bloody hard work! Next time I'm totally just doing it once. Day of the rise. Haha. I mean 8 cycles of that would have been much easier!!

How's everyone doing? What CD are you upto and who's still doing SMEP and who's in the 2ww?

@MrsH497 how are you? Xx

@MrsH497 I'm okay thanks 😊 symptoms from my CP have finally calmed down so I think I'm getting back to normal. Decided to redecorate our hallway to take our minds off things - spent the weekend shopping, cleaning and DTD 😂 we've been like giddy kids, I guess we're both just trying to move on from last month. Ooh and we've binge watched 'You' on Netflix - highly recommend it!!! X

@cupcakesandglitter how are you? X

Hi all, just checking in. Hope you're all well xxx

@TTC34 welcome! Hope you find some solace here - I certainly have since I joined! POAS is inevitable and perfectly acceptable here 😊

@AnnaMC214 oh hun, being ill is not much fun! Stranger things have been known to happen - you could have ov'd early!

@Random2468 your dtd days sound good. @Crossfitgirl conceived doing it just once the day the temp went up. Personally, I don't believe every day is necessary other than maybe right around ovulation and the day after.

Welcome @TTC34!

Hi everyone. I hope you've all had a good weekend.

My dh has just left after being home for the weekend and it was a bit of a disaster on the baby making front! We dtd on Friday and the plan was to do it again today in the hope that there'd be some swimmers still around when I ovulate which my Clue app was predicting on Thurs (so bit of a long shot). But then we both got super ill so dtd was out today and then to top it off I got a positive opk this evening which seems really early (cd10)! I'm so gutted that that's it for this cycle and now we have no choice but to wait for the next one!

@stormtrooperjulian @random2468 I'm due either 14/15th depending on which app I look at. Will try and hold off testing until next weekend but I'm a POAS addict so might end up doing it from 8dpo. Only got one FRER to use this month at the moment and wondering whether I should go ahead and order some more! We did SMEP this month for the second time running so really hoping it's worked this time! Fingers crossed for us all! Xx

Hi everyone,

Id love to join!

I've been lurking at the sidelines for a week or so. DH and I are 'officially trying' as of this cycle. It's so good to get an insight into all your journeys so far and great to know that there is support out there for when I inevitably turn into a POAS lunatic. FX for all you wonder women this year. Here's to the class of 2019!

TTC #1
Age 34

CD 5

Let the games begin! X

Hi all,

I've been fairly quiet on here since joining (trying to soak up the last of Christmas holidays/distract myself from the Sunday night dread by cleaning everything in sight before back to work tomorrow!).

It seems like a few here are in their TWW now - good luck to you all. I hope you manage to keep busy and keep positive.

Your three days before ovulation sounds good to me, @Random2468 Remember that it could very well have been on of those times that is the lucky one! I am just about to head into my first fertile week of TTC which coincides with returning to work so although I am hoping we can fit in as much as possible, I am going to try (ha!) to be fairly relaxed about it.

Happy Sunday to you all - hope everyone is relaxing!

Reading that back maybe it isn't that great how much we DTD but it's so hard to do it daily in that time with all the commitments of life! How often do people aim to do it during their fertile window?

@stormtrooperjulian I'm due 17th ish (I think - cycles still messed up after MMC and ERPC) so wondering if I will just hold out till then! We DTD 4,3 and 1 day before ovulation which I think is pretty good but obviously wishing it was all 6 days of the fertile window now! But trying to be more positive this new year and think what will be will be.... it's so hard though 😣 Also last time I got pregnant with my MC I had strong nausea at 8 dpo which in hindsight I think was implantation day and I got a bfn on that day so don't want to test too soon..