Want to start TTC but I'm a bridesmaid

Flying limit is 36 weeks for single pregnancy or 32 weeks for twins and multiples - think that would work out ok even if you got pregnant straight away.
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I personally would leave it a few months to ttc and pull out of being a bridesmaid now and attend as a guest instead. You never know how long it will take or what might happen if you do fall pregnant.

It will be less stress for both of you and no issues then with dresses/ shoes not fitting

Don't worry about the lack of NHS just have good travel insurance. Part of my job is flying babies/children back to the UK if they are born premature or get sick abroad. Honestly I wouldn't wait. I'm a MOH in June, I started TTC 7 months ago. I was worried I could be heavily pregnant at the wedding. Given I've not had a whiff of a positive in 7 months I'm glad I didn't wait!!!

Speaking from someone who has also spent all of 2018 either being pregnant (3 times), losing 2 babies or trying to get pregnant, I personally would not wait as you are ready. You cannot predict anything.

ALSO most of the other pregnant bridesmaid threads involve the bride not wanting the bridesmaid to be pregnant at all, whereas your friend sounds like she just wants you there, pregnant or not x

This is a tricky one, and while a lot on here always argue that you should never wait, I think in your circumstances I would as it would only be for a couple more months and I’m sure it would mean the world to your friend for you to be her bridesmaid as she was yours.

If you start trying in Feb you should still be safe to fly in August and 8 weeks is nothing really. If she was a good friend I would hold off

Come off your pill and let it come out of your system and let your cycles start settling down. I got pregnant within 3 months of stopping mine luckily but it could take you longer, you just never know.

It's fine to travel by ferry but depending on where you live and how pregnant you are the drive to the ferry could be uncomfortable. We get the ferry back to Ireland at least 2 times a year but I wouldn't have made the 7 hour drive past about 34 weeks pregnant. The frequent need to wee and general discomfort wouldn't make it the best journey.

Personally I wouldn't worry about it until you're actually pregnant!

Do what is right for you.

I was trying for my son for 18 months then conceived and was 4 months pregnant at my friend's wedding. She'd bought a dress based on the fact I might be pregnant (I had to go braless because my boobs were bigger and lift the bottom part over my bump).

Am glad we didn't stop trying just because I wanted to attend her wedding / fit into the dress. But really it's up to you :)

I agree she is BU. If you want to start trying you should just go for it. The travel, as others have said, is not an issue if you do get pregnant and really want to go. However, there's not only coming off the pill and your cycles to think about but also as @TheCraicDealer said, sadly there is no guarantee even if you do get pregnant that things will go to plan. I have spent all of this year trying to conceive number two. I had a miscarriage just before 12 weeks in July. I now feel down and stressed about a whole year going by and can't imagine how I would feel if I had held of for a friend's wedding and then found myself in this situation! Your family and what is right for you must come first.

If you really don't want to risk missing it, then could you hold off a few months so you'd be say 6 months at the wedding if you got pregnant immediately? And yes I know babies are born at 24 weeks but it's rare. So ttc from Feb? That would go e you Xmas and New Year to indulge and then January to detox.

However obviously you have every right to get as pregnant as you want as soon as you want and I wish you well!!

I usually see both sides, and I can see both...but would it be difficult to wait literally a month or so? She has no issue with you being pregnant, she's just worried you can't get there.

Hospital is for more than basic first aid...dam phone

That is a very unreasonable demand of your friend.

To be frank, having eight good friends around me all unable to conceive or carry a pregnancy last year I would say to absolutely anybody do not wait if you feel the time is “right”.

On board all ferries.in the UK it's a legal requirement for these people to be On board if not the ship can't sail

when you Google it, it's more specific to cruise ships as you're on them for a significant amount of time.

I know on-board a stena line ferry all captains and at least two cabin crew have a captains first aid ticket it's a five day course renewed yearly where they receive extensive training and are trained to deliver babies do stitches, administer controlled meds like morphine (only caoatain can authroise that though) they can even put one of them tubes in someones throat to open airways, as well a bunch of other things that only nurses or doctors can do,
there is two people with this certificate on every shift (day and night)

each ferry also has a small but fully stocked "hospital" a sterile room *varies in size depending on ferry) with a range of equipment in preparation for incidents, requiring basic first aid, has a bed monitors breathing apparatus and a range of medications, and im anything requireing more than basic to.medium first aid an announcement will always be made asking if there is a doctor, nurse or paramedic on board if not they will contact the closest port to alert the nearest hospital to have a doctor call and give verbal or video assistance and have an ambulance and medical staff on stand by for such incidents. I have assisted two women give birth on board over the years just held their hand (not the medical side)
I've the 3 day cert not 5 but I'm usually asked to attend and assist (pass equipment talk to passenger). You'd be in safe hands,

Your friend is being unreasonable! I was a bridesmaid at my friends wedding while I was pregnant. I couldn't go on the hen do abroad but I was at the wedding. I had my ds 10 days later. My friend would never have dreamed of asking me to not ttc before her wedding.

I get married next year and I have 5 bridesmaids and any of these are likely to ttc before then I wouldn't dare ask them not to for my wedding.

It's a bit of an unfair ask, but sounds like she just wants you there to celebrate with her.

OP you say you are worried about ovulating after coming off the pill. Could you come off the pill now and then use condoms for a couple of months. That way you are getting the pill out of your system, but not actively ttc quite yet? Then when you do ttc, hopefully you'll be ovulating etc just fine.

Just get on with it- even if you concieve quickly it's still no guarantee. I got pregnant the first month we tried there but had a m/c and am still waiting on my cycle going back to "normal" so we can try again. I'm gutted and frustrated, and I think it would only be worse if I'd put off trying to facilitate a friend's wedding. I agree with your DM that it's completely unreasonable of her to ask you to plan your family around her wedding.

Look at the boat options, research hospitals near the venue and make a decision, but tbh you need to prioritise you and your family. The fact that she's even asked this if you suggests a certain amount of selfishness on her part, and you should bear that in mind.

Just to say that I had a bridesmaid who I was also bridesmaid for. She got married first 5 months before me, and made a HUGE deal about me not getting pregnant before her wedding. She was then 5 months pregnant at my wedding! I didn't care about the fact she was pregnant, but it was bloody hypocritical!

You can't plan babies to a specific time slot, and you definitely shouldn't plan your family around a friend's wedding.

To be honest I would fly before I would get the ferry when pregnant (travel sickness might be an issue) and flying is way less travel time.

And also it is free to have a baby in Ireland. There is no nhs yes but maternity care is free so also not an issue if for some crazy reason you end up going’s into labour in Ireland.

Your friend was being U. Ignore. If attending her wedding becomes too difficult for pregnancy related reasons it’s unfortunate, but she’d be U to be off with you over it.

You can fly with a docs note at any time!! I flew at 35 weeks. My cousin flew over from oz and back at 32 weeks and 36 weeks! It’s not a big deal unless you are extremely high risk. And from U.K. to Ireland is about an hour so not exactly long haul. It’s totally doable. Go for it!