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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The July '19ers - knocked down, but never beaten

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Frazzlerock · 03/12/2018 09:41

Hey @TinselBee, @Rose68, @BettySwoll0cks

Here is the thread I promised us.

Somewhere for us to help eachother, pick one another up, cry, scream, laugh..

Some of us may be looking to try again, some may be putting things on hold. Whatever our plans, lets get through this together.

(I don't know whether conception was the right choice of topic, I can always have this moved to a more suitable topic if anyone would like me to)

I will look through our threads again and see if I can @mention anyone else who might like to join us

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Frazzlerock · 29/12/2018 11:39

Oh dear Rachy Why's he in the dog house?

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Rachyrach83 · 29/12/2018 11:16

No there's low, high and peak
You are aiming for 2 peaks in a row.
I just presumed it would be low today.... I'll do him later, we aren't speaking at the min m! lol!
If it was speak I'd make up immediately but he deserves the silent treatment for a few more hours x

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Frazzlerock · 29/12/2018 11:09

@Rose68 I'm with you on the black toenails that fall off! I have done several half marathons over the years and lots of training which toenails do not like. My toenails look awful without nail polish on.
I was supposed to be doing the Tommys London Landmarks for Tommys but I gave my place up after we lost Popsy. I figured 'd be too scared to train even after a MC given we are TTC again. DP is doing it though.
I think you're right in holding off the training while TTC. It is one of many things I think about when I was pregnant with Emily. Did that cause me to MC... I just thought I was fine and thousands of women run when pregnant and have no problems but I can't help but wonder.
I've never heard of Morton's neuroma, but I also have knee problems. I'm sure running is bad for you but it's the only way I can keep my weight stable. As soon as I stop I balloon.

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Frazzlerock · 29/12/2018 11:00

@rachyrach, I've no idea, but you'd better jump on DH!

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Rose68 · 29/12/2018 10:59

I also don’t understand what the ring means? Confused

@Rachy sorry I don’t understand your fertility monitor... does it go higher than high, or does high mean peak fertility? It would seem very early for peak fertility... but maybe your body isn’t quite back to normal yet after what happened with AF this month?

@Frazzle I am also a runner off and on. I was training for my first half marathon when we started ttc. Because of that I didn’t do the half and in fact I stopped running the month we conceived. I had read that running is bad and walking is good. So I stopped running and started walking. I haven’t started running again yet, but I have had some problems as well, with my knee and my foot. I suspect my knee is better, but my foot has Morton’s neuroma (I think), I had a scan on it just before Xmas and I have the follow up appointment once the boys are back at school. I also had 2 black toe nails, which finally came off a couple of weeks ago. Lovely!

Rachyrach83 · 29/12/2018 10:32

High!!

The July '19ers - knocked down, but never beaten
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Frazzlerock · 29/12/2018 10:25

I've been putting as many symptoms in as possible like a good girl 😂

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Rachyrach83 · 29/12/2018 10:23

So..... AF has virtually completely gone again and tried out my fertility monitor as it’s day 6.... and it said HIGH!!
Surely it can’t be high this early on?? Could it remnants of AF?? X

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Frazzlerock · 29/12/2018 10:22

Morning all,

Ahhh @Kinsters what a beautiful photo!
I got my first negative test at CD27 Shock I'm now on CD30

@edidxb I'm glad you got some good quality rest at last.

@Tinselbee It's so hard to tell isn't it! I also got a +opk the other day. Maybe, like you say, our ovaries are trying to release an egg but struggling due to left over hormones or something. Just keep BDing just in case, that is all you can do until your temps tell you what is going on for sure. Random question, I've seen the ring around a test before loads of times but I've no idea why, what's the reason? It's been driving me mad, haha!

I am totally confused about all of our charts and weird AFs TBH.
I am in the dark about mine too.

I'm on my 4th day of spotting. Literally 1 or 2 pinky wipes per day and nothing else. It's not usual for me either so I can only imagine it is to do with the MC.
I had a terrible back ache yesterday (continuing today) which I got at ovulation in my pregnancy cycle so I started to wonder if I might be ovulating given my two temp rises. But it fell again this morning, and not enough for an ov dip either.
My temps aren't giving anything away. I will post my FF one as you're all more familiar with FF

Now on flippin CD30. I wish something would happen so I can move onto the next cycle.

I am keeping my mind occupied with wedding stuff. We met up with my parents and my sister yesterday for lunch and showed off my ring Grin. My family aren't ones for emotion but I did get a half attempt of a "very nice" which I know is a a big emotion for them, but DP was like "They didn't like the ring, they think its too small!". I had to explain that that was their way of being impressed Grin

I think we have already chosen a wedding venue, a reception venue and a rough date! Shock Thinking about Spring 2020, nice registry office for the ceremony and then a really nice pub/bar up the road. Though not sure what to do about feeding people.
I'm also doing a mental guest list, and desperately trying to keep it small as possible.
I feel like this is just what we need to keep our minds off the stress of TTC (a bit anyway!)

Today DS2 is ballboy for his favourite football team (Millwall Hmm) this afternoon so the whole family are getting together to watch. I've also got SOOOOO much clearing up to do. I cannot wait to get our house back in order. My body too, I've put on 5lbs Sad. I've not done any running since before I ovulated in my last preg cycle as I was too scared in case I was pregnant
I might do the same as I did before, do all my exercise before ovulation then stop and just do long gentle walks and yoga just in case I jig my egg about too much. I know that is mad but after 3 losses I don't want to risk a thing. Not that it helped last time Hmm

FF chart coming up....

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Kinsters · 29/12/2018 08:33

Tinsel Ah that's so annoying, and fertility friend had even given you solid crosshairs. I think the only thing you can do is wait a few days and see whether your temp goes any higher. How long is your luteal phase normally?

Our last day in the UK today. Its been so nice but I don't think I ever properly got over jet-lag. Not sure if it was the residual pregnancy hormones or I'm just getting older and feeling it more!

TinselBee · 29/12/2018 05:46

Okay so just for a fucking positive OPK? Now what!? Urgh!!!!! Guess I will assume that it was a failed ovulation attempt last time? Can't even DTD tonight as my dad is staying over

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TinselBee · 29/12/2018 05:06

Yeah see, just changed my chart to reflect if I hadn't woken early and hadn't been drinking etc and looks more how it should BUT that temp rise is so small compared to how my temp rises used to be

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TinselBee · 29/12/2018 04:59

Rachy it could be retained product that was being kicked out first time maybe which might mean it wasn't even a proper period as such which is why you was confused about ovulation etc, your body might not have got a chance or might have literally just ovulated when it realised you still had stuff it needed to get out. So maybe this is then your proper period? Just thinking it does sound similar to how my body was when I had the infection, heavy period at start soaking through tampons and towels, a day or 2 break and then more bleeding. But MCing is so confusing!

Oh Kin that is a lovely photo! I saw my BFN around CD17 I think. I get my FRERs from boots as usually they have the packets of 3 for price of 2.

Rose I thought the same regarding photos but then I remembered if I write anything controversial I always change username anyway.

Oh yay edidxb and so glad you feel better for it too!

Chart attached! I know it says I've ovulated but I'm not feeling confident at all tbh. I know that CD18 and CD21 are open circles due to waking earlier than usual and CD 19 and 20 are open circles due to drinking though. So actually CD18 and CD21 should be higher than what they are and CD 19 and 20 should be lower due to the drinking. And today I've woken early too so should be higher. So I suppose when I consider that I do have more faith in the FF prediction but idk.

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Kinsters · 29/12/2018 00:41

If this TTC and especially MC business has taught me anything its that bleeding can be so random! I've had to put a pad on today - CD12. Very unusual.

Yes I saw the levels Rachy, thanks. I think if I remember correctly for 1-2 weeks levels must be under 150 or something? That seems like an OK level for hopefully a week before ovulation. I think it would be too much to hope for my usual CD13 ovulation!

smerlin · 28/12/2018 17:50

That's really annoying rachyrach

During one TTC month this year, I had 2 full periods back to back with only one day off in the middle. Nightmare!

Rachyrach83 · 28/12/2018 17:09

FX @kinsters it's coming down
Did you see the post I put on about the hcg levels for each week from clearblue... it was a photo around a week ago.

Well, it seem I spoke too soon as after 2 days of absolutely nothing, not even blood on wiping... AF IS BACK!! wtf?!
And typically when I was wearing a nice pair of knickers! I hope it sorts it's self out for ovulation!!!

Kinsters · 28/12/2018 16:54

After saying I was going to forget about TTC until the new year I just went and spent £70 in boots on cb digitals and pre conception vitamins for me and DH (can't get them for a reasonable price where we live so wanted to stock up) . There's loads of 3 for 2 offers! Might go back for some frers later although my internet cheapies seem very sensitive.

Did one of the digitals and it shows 1-2 weeks pregnant so it seems like my HCG levels are coming down OK, possibly similar to yours Rachy.

Had a fair bit of bleeding after sex today. Not sure what to make of it tbh.

edidxb glad you got some sleep. It feels sooo nice to start getting over jet lag and back to your normal self. I hope there's no missed ovulation. I just want to get back to trying asap.

edidxb · 28/12/2018 12:28

Hi all. I am pleased to announce that I slept for 11 hours last night and I am back in the land of the living today! I feel like such a different person, it's amazing. I went to bed at 8pm and woke u about7am.
@Kinsters and @Tinselbee I love your photos - thank you so much for sharing. I would love to share mine, but in my profession I would be worried that someone would find it/share it even though it is highly unlikely. Maybe tomorrow, I'll see!

I should have taken my temperature today as I had a proper nights sleep but forgot all about it as it was my morning to walk the dog and I was just so pleased to have slept! Maybe tomorrow. FF can't tell me if I have ovulated or not as I don't enter my temp. I do have lots of creamy CM still though so I must have as I usually have ewcm before ov. Although like @Rose68 it could have changed.

Also, some people say that some people don't actually ovulate to start with - you can just have a build up bleed. We'll see!

I have been WAY too tired to even think about DTD so that hasn't happened since Sat so almost a week so if I have ovulated this week or am about to, I will have missed that window.....

Rachyrach83 · 28/12/2018 10:52

My negative test was day 18
On day 14 my hcg was 34

That was after erpc so hope that helps xx

Rose68 · 28/12/2018 10:02

Morning Ladies, I’m loving the photos! They are all gorgeous pics! I don’t think I am brave enough to post a photo of myself on here, although I did seriously consider it. It’s not that I don’t want you ladies to know who I am, it’s just it’s out there for the whole world.
My AF is also very short these days, probably 48 hours of reasonably heavy bleeding which then quickly tails off to very light brown bleeding.
I should be approaching ov too, I am using clear blue ov tests, although I haven’t used any since October. I have found my cm to be different recently around ov, it used to be very watery and would hang down on its own, esp after a bm (tmi?). I haven’t been getting that so much in the last few months... I’m wondering if all the supplements are affecting it?

Kinsters · 28/12/2018 09:59

So nice seeing these pictures! Everyone looks so beautiful and happy. I've added one of my faves from our wedding day.

Tinsel I do the same with temps, adding in days in advance to see what I need to confirm ov or a triphasic pattern! Fingers crossed your temp stays up tomorrow.

Rachy I have no idea if it can all come out in one go but it makes sense there must be a finite amount of blood etc in there. I had an iud for years and no periods, I've not enjoyed having to think about them again!

I was going to restart temping today but I got quite drunk last night and drank lots of water during the night and as soon as I woke up. DH and I are having plenty of sex anyway as its the holidays so not too worried about timing plus its only 10 days since erpc so a few days at least till possible ovulation and that's assuming it's not delayed. Might pick up a pregnancy test later and see if it's gone negative yet. How long did it take for everyone to see a negative test?

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Rachyrach83 · 28/12/2018 08:43

Morning!!
Loving these stories and pics!!
Love a bargain dress!!
Mine was 60% off as was used in a catwalk show at a wedding exhibition!!
Love the rings too.... I was shocked by mine that he picked! Boy did good! I adore it! Wedding ring has diamonds too. I joke my finger is worth more than my car! Ha ha!!!

Don't really understand temping at all and the more I do it the more it confuses me lol!!

AF seems to have completely stopped after 2 days!! I'm wondering if was so heavy on day 2 that passed all that needed to go?? Does it work like that??

Xxx

TinselBee · 28/12/2018 08:23

Frazzle all I can assume is that you're pregnancy hormones were keeping your temp up and maybe as soon as they dropped you potentially ovulated which kept them high? Is the pink wiping unusal for you?

Thank you! Dress was a total bargain at £40 including postage.

Love the sapphire and that is means the ring incorporates Emily's birth stone too.

I always wanted an emerald for my engagement ring but didn't tell DH that before he decided to get on one knee, but ah well

Temp at 36.5 again. I've been cheeky and entered tomorrow's temp at 36.5 as well to see if I had another day at 36.5 would mean I ovulated and it's only gone and suggested I'm now in TWW. Trying to not get hopes up.

I have come out in a horrid acne rash though... so that might be making my temps off. Really never seen anything like this on me before

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Frazzlerock · 28/12/2018 08:06

I've entered the three days of pink wipes, but temp rising like pre ov rise 🤔

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Frazzlerock · 28/12/2018 08:04

Morning all,

Ahhh I love these stories Grin
@edidxb I love the Haribo ring, always said o DP that he needn't get me a ring immediately, that I'd be perfectly happy with a Haribo and then choose one together. I think finding the perfect stone together and having it made is a beautiful thing to do. DP knew I wanted a sapphire as it is Emily's birth stone so that helped him.

I'm glad to read AF has gone and, yes, there is nothing like spending time with other babies to make you ache with desperation is there. This year is our year!

@TinselBee, I love your dress. I am looking at one very similar. Very 50's style. Plus I love that you kept it small, we'd do it just the two of us if we didn't need two witnesses! But already all our friends and family are asking for a date and an invite Hmm. My mum asked if we'd chosen a date literally minutes after he proposed! No mum, it has just happened! I guess we should invite the parents really. My dad paid for my last wedding which was huge and must have cost a bomb. It was beautiful, but I've realised now that it was about the day and the guests rather than us. I feel like it wasn't really 'me'. This time I want it to reflect our personalities - we've actually already picked to venue we'd like. You guys look so happy and sweet together in your photo.
How is your chart this morning Tinsel?

@Kinsters Your proposal sounds idyllic

@smerlin FWIW I am getting the odd bit of pink when I wipe too for third day in a row. But only one wipe a day.

My temp has gone up for second day in a row so I'm wondering if ov is imminent... @smerlin maybe we are both experiencing ov bleeds? Is that a thing? ?

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