TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO. 9

Omg @starkid @FlapJackered I've had a cough for what feels like months and I've been trying to lay there after with a pillow under my bum (I know it's probably a myth but makes me feel better than I'm really trying) and I've had to suppress my coughing cos otherwise it would be game over 😂

Did you do a IC OPK tonight @starkid? I always get confused cos I did one when I got home from work. Given I didn't hold my wee for long and I did drink something and I didn't dip I just held it in and it was negative in terms that the line wasn't as strong as the test but it was still clearly visible. Is that maybe just remnants of LH in my system? This is why I don't like ICs cos they aren't a clear yes or no.

@Scotslass55 it's so funny to think how little our OHs know about the chats we have on here. I love it!

@GemmaJen I'm no pro but I tested from cd7 this month. What OPKs do you use?

@MrsAW2018 I totally agree that we are overdue some. Fx for everyone and that Christmas or 2019 brings us all BFPs!

@MrsEG the amount of times I've done that. I've even driven to the gym before sat in the car park on my phone and thought no thanks I'm going home. I call it listening to my body 😂😂

@MrsR16 yeah I've never had them before and I've actually been quite uncomfortable all day. I have this awful feeling (knowing my luck) that maybe af is coming early but then I had a static smiley Sunday so can't be but it really feels that way. I can't believe I've never noticed them before if this is o pain. Fx for your BFP on Xmas day!!! What an amazing present that will be! When's af supposed to be due?

@cupcakesandglitter the things you say you have to eat and drink make me so jealous!! Cheese and wine are my fave and baileys hot choc oh my. I'm sat here with my bloody Aldi dry pancake (my current addiction) and apple squash...

Hello all!

I've been quiet lately because I'm struggling with this whole thing. Still trying, but know our chances are slim before my op. Hard to be enthusiastic about my prospects, but I'm still keeping up with all your stories. ❤️

Omg @MrsEG now THAT would be fantastic!! 🤤

@Scotslass55 oh bless him😂 I remember when it hit DH that it's not as easy as first try, he's trying to learn what he can 😂

@MrsAW2018 sorry for her turning up - glad you've got a good plan for tonight though xx

@MrsR16 I've just said fuck it this month honestly, I needed it 😂 baileys hot choc tonight!!! X

@MrsEG you're definitely my spirit animal! Finishing your advent calendar on day 17! Good going! 😂

@cupcakesandglitter eating cheese and salami! 🤣🤣 you're hilarious!

@MrsLBear I had cramps this month, which was unusual for me! I don't temp or use OPKs, so have no idea if that correlated with my O day or not! Flo reckoned I ov'd the day after though, so we shall see! Christmas Day can't come around quick enough so I can either test or AF arrives and I can get over myself and crack open the Prosecco!

@MrsEG LOL at finishing the advent calendar! I had a soak in the bath after work and have got my PGs on now, ready for a chilled out evening in front of the tele. DH is even cooking dinner :o

@DuchessofPemberley glad to be able to help! I'm trying to be much more chilled, if it doesn't happen at least I'll be able to enjoy a tipple over Xmas and on my 30th bday (silver linings). I'm just hoping if AF does come, she isn't too late!!!

@MrsEG yes! Fingers crossed for some Christmas BFPs! I don't blame you for changing your mind about Pilates - It's too cold and dark! I've just polished off half a box of Heroes😂enjoy your Netflix evening!

@MrsAW2018 Definitely!! Think there’s quite a few of us testing next week though - FX for some Xmas magic! I’m having a night in front of Netflix myself - planned to go to Pilates but once I was in the car, changed my mind, came right home, finished off my advent calendar (oops) and now i’m in my PJs for the night - I do not regret my decision :)

@MrsEG that's the plan for the evening! And thank you.... think we're overdue some BFPs on this thread!

@GemmaJen Hi! I start my CB OPKs at 8 days but that was just following the guidance in the box, based on my cycle length!

Great you are relaxed this month - that has been me this month and it’s honestly been great. Can’t tell you how much I don’t miss the stress and anxiety! Of course i’m still aware and counting down my days DPO etc but I just feel a lot calmer - if it will be, it will be. There really is only so much you can do after all! FX for this cycle for you!

@MrsAW2018 Feet up, Netflix and chocolate and get yourself ready for your next cycle. AF coming along is always tough, I’ll keep everything crossed for you for Jan!

Thanks for all the lovely messages ladies. AF has arrived with a vengeance so I'm currently lying on the sofa with a hot water bottle. Onto cycle 7 I guess😔

Just checking in, how has the week kicked off for everyone, good Monday?

I've been concentrating on work for the last few days, got a stressful week coming up with building work at home, already going wrong as the start date has been pushed back till Wednesday. But af has now left the building, so planning on when to start the ic OPKs and CB... Thinking cd8 and cd12 - what does everyone else do? Think I should be back to a 30 day cycle this month. Had 36 day after the MC last month, but only a 12 day luteal - think the chemical might have brought AF on early though.

Have been doing my best to relax... No testing early this time. Going to wait till the 12th January, already in the diary! Fx for all of you still in the game for 2018 bfps. There's got to be some more bfps due this year, I know it

@Scotslass55 Haha! DH refers to our tube of Preseed lube as ‘Baby juice’ At least your DH is being supportive and getting involved!

@DuchessofPemberley that is a nice way to think about it. Thanks.

AF arrived here overnight. Mostly ok with it as has been such a weird cycle I’m just glad of some clarity. DH was funny last night - realising it’s not happened 3 months in he announced “we’ll need to start some of that unromantic timed baby-making!” Not sure what he’s been reading but made me smile...if only he knew how much I’d been learning on here!

@Eltzbee that’s really reasssuring - thanks for that!

I totally understand the “pregnant by Christmas” thing. I really wanted that for myself. I was so upset when it didn’t happen. Still, some of us will have babies for next Christmas, which is a nice way to look at it.

@cupcakesandglitter Ha I read it as ‘wine cheese’ and thought wow that sounds delicious!!!

Omg I didn't drink cheese or salami 😂 (ate both though )

@FlapJackered yes!! Sometimes it's everywhere, and other times I'm convinced there was nothing there in the first place!!

I feel like AF is on her way 😩 don't know where I am in my cycle but I've drank copious amounts of wine cheese and salami this weekend so it's only a good thing really 😂 just waiting for her to show up now

@FlapJackered - coughing or laughing usually dislodges it for me 😂
@MrsLBear - I've never noticed any cramps etc. around ovulation

Did another opk just now and it was a firm negative, so will definitely be dtd tonight (didn't happen yesterday in the end) so will hopefully have had 2 goes this month while fertile, presuming I ovulated yesterday or today... not ideal, as I was hoping to have done it a few times beforehand so they're all ready up there, but wasn't expecting to ovulate so much earlier than usual (my app wasn't even showing the fertile week yet, not usually until around cd19, not cd10!)

@MrsLBear I get very mild ovulation cramps and usually the day I ovulate, really mild though - nothing like AF cramps.

@DayDreamer1707 I’m sure there’s absolutely nothing wrong! MC is ridiculously common, I hadn’t realised until I had my MC at the end of October just how many people had them. There’s no reason at all why you can’t jump right back on the horse, but don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen right away. It hasn’t for me yet either but we’re trying again now and just hoping for the best. I’m trying my best to stay really positive as my GP really advised against stress and anxiety when TTC - I had to tell her my only stress was getting pregnant!!! Fx for us both :)

@FlapJackered I used to worry about sperm leakage as quite a lot tends to come out with me! But it’s nothing to worry about at all; apparently the sperm are ejaculated first and head right on up there, and the rest is just leakage that flows out naturally. So if some leaks out it’s no big deal, and if nothing does, great it’s all stayed in there! I’ve heard position can be good to keep it in too - doggy or missionary - to direct it up there, and also lying still for 20 mins after to help it on its way! But I’ve heard the legs in the air thing is a myth :)

@FlapJackered I notice this too and then hours later loads more will come out. I think it gets trapped 😂 but still think the number would be the same it's just more semen maybe?

I'm having really bad ovulation cramps today - well that's all it can be as had my static smiley yday. Does anyone else get them? And if so is that generally the day you ovulate?

@FlapJackered suppose it could be but that would mean I am on CD 34 and possibly had 3 lots of positive OPKs. Anything is possible I suppose though. I hope not because I have looked an you can Ovulate early and wouldn't be too far out for my next AF prediction. Also had lots of CM lately so would make sense but then again nothing makes sense in the TTC world. I have noticed that sometime I get more sperm come out after than other times. Sounds silly and TMI but my OH knows when it's going to be alot. Especially after AF as we wont have been DTD.

@EltzBee I know people who have also gone on to have successful pregnancies after MC and it does give me hope 🙂 FX for your BFP this month x

@MrsEG I suppose there isn't anything wrong because the EPU said that there was nothing wrong with me after the scan and they did check, probably have to when you have a MC. They also said to try again as soon as my first AF. I guess I just need to give myself time and I can just keep using the OPKs, I can obviously get pregnant so that's a positive x

@FlapJackered yes!! I notice this too, some days there is loads and other times I nip to the loo after and it seems like nothing. I wonder if it depends on how much fluid we have down there which can vary day by day on the cycle?

TMI question, do you find that sometimes loads of sperm comes out after sex and other times there is not even a drop?
We just Dtd as DH is working from home today and literally nothing came out afterwards. That can't be a great sign for lots of swimmers can it?

@DayDreamer1707 could it be that the spotting wasn't your period but just some mid cycle spotting from your MC? I would try not to worry too much although I know it is hard. Your body probably just needs time to balance out again.

@MrsAW2018 so sorry about the bfn. It's rubbish but just try and focus on the benefit of not being pregnant over Christmas, you get to enjoy mulled wine and lots of junk food!🍷