TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO. 9

@stormtrooperjulian

Nope, don't drink at all in the TWW and thinking about stopping around ovulation too. Alcohol lowers your fertility and had an impact on foetal development. DP works in a hospital and has seen and told me about too many horror cases for me to be comfortable taking that risk.

Not drinking isn't a huge deal for me, I've done a year sober before, but it's different when you sometimes drink. If I'm still not pregnant by January I think I'll do another sober year.

It's not just me being strict either, DP is almost not drinking as well, maybe once a month. He's stopped vaping and we're eating lots of greens etc as well.

@sullywifey Thanks for the code but it keeps saying invalid 😔 I have heard of natural cycles though so will look into it!
@GemmaJen Is the tracker something you wear all the time? That might be something else I could look into too, because my lie ins at the weekend might ruin temping with a thermometer!

New thread!

Work has been crazy busy over the last few days, which was exactly what I needed. I’m currently 10 DPO and am due next Friday, so I should know in a weeks time one way or another!

The past couple of days I’ve been a lot more upbeat, maybe because I didn’t have time to overthink things. I’m busy enough this weekend too, maybe that’s the secret?

Have a great weekend everyone!

Hey ladies just a quick check in.

@MrsEG take some time to look after yourself, it's really not a nice experience. I've had 2 now and seems like 3rd time lucky worked for me. Remember, it's just bad luck unfortunately and no reflection on you, it could be fine next time. Take care xx

@PurrMaid welcome. Sorry for what you've been through. A few of us her have had MC's, I've found it really helpful to talk and the ladies on this thread have been lovely and supportive. Can't help much with thermometers, after my mc I picked up the ifertracker after reading about Bbt. I've not got the mental capacity at 5 in the morning to remember to take my temp, so opted for the tracker. I'm only on my first month of using and it certainly seems to give me very consistent temps, with little effort. But can't say more than that yet, hoping my temps show that I've O in the passed day or so, had my first higher temp today, hopefully not just a blip, FX.

@PurrMaid I put this link in the last thread. It's an offer for free thermometer and 3 months subscription to NC. it's a really good one and worth it even if you don't carry on with NC. Paid £20 for mine plus the subscription on top so it's a good deal!

https://www.naturalcycles.com/en/signup/secret?code=KnowledgeGapGB&sessionToken=eyJhbGciOiJFUzM4NCIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJhY2NJZCI6IjAwNjFhZmEwMDU0YTRlZDVhYjBhOTdlZjAyMWEzMDVmIiwiZXhwIjoxNTQ0ODYyMzAwfQ.2mvUa6dkvBsBNCKpZxBON7JeMkXCRFb7eeiseGFHsLS-boTfXgNKMF8lnDiP33cstrI8i487oOFoEBU0COuuCYkZaRghrjCyexUBK7TKr0DpuIY13CHe3FXvBaa_N2VE

Ok so I have literally just gone past a massive sigh that said ‘ARE YOU PREGNANT??’ Could this literally be a sign...😂

@PurrMaid welcome hun! Sorry to hear of your loss I know how down you can get but these lovely ladies have offered me tons of advice and support. Sorry I don’t tempt I have just started using OPKS xx

Hi ladies, i was on the last thread but I’m more of a lurker than a poster! Congrats to @crossfitgirl on your BFP!
I am 18 days post MC and got my BFN on Tuesday, and also had EWCM and ov pains, and I have my fingers crossed so tight I have ov’d. We DTD Sunday and weds so probably not enough to catch, but we will see how the next few weeks go.
I want to start temping, can anyone recommend a really good thermometer? I bought a cheap one off amazon a few months ago and it didn’t work!

Checking in, ladies! CD 5 and AF has gone already! I've got my work's Christmas do tonight (early I know) and then up early tomorrow but hopefully DH and I can squeeze some BD in! Xx

Ahhhh I love how you ladies are trying the ‘normal’ and positive side of things too @KatBeCool @GemmaJen @cupcakesandglitter
I couldn’t get through tonight without some wine! no coffee, I would be a nightmare! I need to get into the gym, makes you feel miles better and is a distraction!

Also got to love a musical and belting out the song...another wa to let go! Just sang my heart out to Wicked and A Star Was Born haha x

@DayDreamer1707 @stormtrooperjulian I have a nice boozy advent calendar waiting for DH and I.

I went to the gym yesterday, first time in over two years. I am in so much pain. But I also got reminded that I was much healthier when I was going. I'm determined to keep this up (once I can move without a sore body part screaming in agony). My dr kept telling me that I must exercise, in general, and especially during ttc and while pregnant. I finally found the right mindset for it!

@cupcakesandglitter yeeeesss I'm so tempted! my hubby told me yesterday, he wasn't expecting me to want to go. Clearly doesn't know next as well as I thought, lol. Hugh always comes across as such a nice bloke. @DayDreamer1707 it's a great film, DH doesn't approve of musicals, but he's out this evening. Cue me in the living room singing along like an idiot later. Been brushing up on the lyrics this morning

Checking in to the new post (we do go through them quick, don't we!)

@Crossfitgirl congrats hun! So funny that it was that one time during a super stressful time too, love it :)

@MrsEG sorry to hear that, keep positive - you're not a failure! Look after yourself and take it easy.

CD7 today, AF has finally gone (yay!). Trying to keep positive and chilled this month, but still temping and will do OPKs (mostly to try and identify when I ovulate for planning when my period is likely due!).

Glad my test results came back 'Normal' - it's reassuring! Feeling proud of myself for trying to get my nutrition in check, too :)

@DayDreamer1707 I'm not going to turn him down if that's the case 😏 and I agree with what you're saying about being normal, I think we subconsciously put so much pressure on ourselves trying to watch everything - I hadn't drank coffee in four months but thought fuck it (I smelt it and couldn't say no 😂) and I'm actually off to have a coffee now! It's too easy for us to try and watch everything, but there are people that still drink smoke etc that are pg without knowing and their baby's are absolutely fine xx

@Bettythecat You have to still live your life, trying to be normal is probably the best thing. Otherwise it will take over and you'll put too much pressure on yourself. So many people get pregnancy when they are just being normal, if that makes sense. That's how I am trying to be haha still only 4DPO yet though 😆

@GemmaJen I bloody love that film!!!!

@cupcakesandglitter sounds like a good plan and I bet your DH just wants to get a bit more festive and fun with you 😉

@Crossfitgirl that is complete genius!!

Ahhhrrggg @DayDreamer1707 you’ve got me hoping now!! 😂😂 hope af hurried up and arrives to put me out my misery. Also had a couple of glasses of my fave white wine last night and a coffee just now having convinced myself I was out the game so that’s not ideal if I actually am 😬

@stormtrooperjulian @GemmaJen oh definitely! I'm going to enjoy the wine this month and eat as much as I want 😂 DH has said we're gonna do SMEP but I don't think he'll stick to it, I'm not fussed either way, not going to stress myself out! @GemmaJen have you seen that Hugh is doing a tour?! X

@stormtrooperjulian ooh new thread, thank you

@cupcakesandglitter new month, new start? Maybe just enjoy the festivities and see what happens, easier said than done though.

Can't wait for Christmas now, finally feeling festive, totally getting the tree set up tomorrow

Working with the greatest showman soundtrack on in the background this morning, and the sun is shining, definitely the best day of the week so far. And it's Friday! Happy Friday ladies!

Hi ladies ❤️ thanks for the new thread @stormtrooperjulian xx

AF seems to have finished for me.. only three days which is weird and I've still got back pain 😩 not sure how I'm feeling this month about TTC...

How is everyone this morning? Xx

Checking in!

Hello! 4DPO here and going stir crazy.

We had a work thing last night and it is so difficult and bizarre to be sober and pretending to drink when surrounded by pissed people!

Good luck with the appointment! @Crossfitgirl try not to worry too much - chances are everything will be fine. Keep us updated on here or we'll miss you!! ❤️
Right I am off now! 😂 Not doing very well at this staying away malarkey!

Thanks for the tag @stormtrooperjulian 😘

@stormtrooperjulian @bettythecat DH had a great idea to say we got takeaway last night and I feel dodgy, I'm gonna say I'll meet them there if i feel better (gives me time to go to docs this morning) then once there I can say I don't want to do the sauna/ steam room/Jacuzzi cos I feel iffy, and same goes for the prosecco! I may have a sip of it and leave the rest.

Glad I have given some hope mrsaw2018, we even did the whole SMEP thing last month and it didn't work! Lol. I think it's just depends on the right sperm and the right egg, at around the right time lol.

Got docs in 15 mins and DH is coming with me, they wanted to refer straight to the midwife bit I insisted on GP just because of my abnormal bloods last month. Don't want low progesterone messing with my pregnancy!