TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO. 9

@FlapJackered Bloods and SA are done, all normal. Thyroids are fixed now. I know I ovulate and hormones are clearly there as I can tell the difference in how I feel after the ovulation, plus the temps don't lie. Ugh. I'm debating to just forget opks and temping this month, and just go by ewcm. And there's definitely going to be a large chocolate martini in my nearest future (tonight).

@cupcakesandglitter @purplefig it wasn't a necessarily a deadline. We're going to SIL house for Christmas, and she's pregnant. She didn't want kids, wasn't trying, and she is a horrible person, so seeing her all happy and glowing will be hard. Told DH that I'm not going. She can't cook anyway.

Have had a progressively worse back ache all day, not sure if AF or something else. I'm going crazy here!

Hey @FlapJackered good to see you back 😊 I'm with you, not doing anything and drinking/eating to my hearts content 😂😂 I'll be back on it after New Years I think x

Sorry to hear that @KatBeCool please don't be too hard on yourself ❤️ Like @purplefig I really struggled too - my anxiety was through the roof, feeling like a countdown till Christmas was coming and then that's it... it's important to take care of ourselves and remember that it will happen when it's supposed to, we have to look after our physical and mental health too xx

@KatBeCool sorry to hear that. I really, really struggled with the concept of not being pregnant by Christmas too, if it's any consolation. I didn't realise quite how much I had assumed it as a deadline! Be kind to yourself over the next few days. And allow yourself to feel crap. That's my best advice, at least.

@GemmaJen I think it's totally normal to be both happy for your sister, but sad you're not there too. It seems like a lot of us - perhaps subconsciously - picked Christmas as a sort of deadline! I know I found this AF the most crushing. I actually burst into tears.

@FlapJackered love that approach! I'm not bothering to eat perfectly or cut out drink, but I will be using OPKs. As I only started last month I find them quite a novelty still!

Hi everyone! Had a little break from the ttc madness and feel mucchhhhh better!
Not bothering with opks and just temping this month, screwing the diet and fully embracing mulled wine and gin! 🍷 i think this month is going to be my break from it all and then will get back on ttc strategy in 2019! 😂
How is everyone else getting on?

@KatBeCool I'm sorry about af and that you're having a tough time ❤️ I know exactly how you're feeling.
That's great you have got the hsg booked, hopefully that will shine some light if there are any issues. I can't remember if you said you had had all the blood tests etc done?

@DayDreamer1707 sorry about af, the mc is it proves you can concieve so it's now just a matter of time, especially as everything's now back to normal. Fx for a new year bfp x

I feel like I'm walking a tightrope between being positive about my chances this month and falling into a pit of despair. The tww can do one. After yesterday's test I'm trying not to get my hopes up. It's only been a month since the mc, so it would be unlikely to happen now. Ive felt so much pressure with my sister being pg, that I just want to be pg asap. I can't even think of Christmas without getting upset, she'll be close to 20w and showing and I just feel so conflicted, both happy for her and so sad. I guess I thought getting a bfp before Xmas might make it easier to cope. I'm not holding too much hope though. I've got a few tests left so will try and wait till Friday to test. If AF shows up I'd expect it some where between Thursday and Saturday - I don't know what my normal luteal phase is meant to be.

Afternoon ladies! Tentatively popping back. The last week or so has been crazy! Job interview last week and started training for it today!! Had a discussion with OH about whether we should wait a few months before trying "properly" again to ensure best maternity benefits etc. Still undecided!!
The way I'm looking at it is that we have been trying for a year, got pg in cycle 8 but lost it unfortunately. Don't see the point in hanging off for a couple of months for it not to have happened anyway? Does that even make send or am I just babbling?
I mean when you think of unplanned pregnancies etc and people getting caught off guard, I'm sure we would manage to get by if we had to.

@KatBeCool oh! That's very strange. I wish I could be more useful in offering advice! 😕 xx

@MrsR16 since we started ttc. For a couple of months it was 12 days, after I started thyroids medicine, but now it's back to 10.

@KatBeCool hmm... have you always had a 10 day luteal phase?

@DayDreamer1707 we've been trying since May. I know it's not very long but the problem is that I'm 40, the clock is pounding, I don't have much time left, if any. I'm getting HSG done in January. IVF is a luxury beyond our reach.

@MrsR16 24 days is still considered "normal", 10 day LP is what's bothering me but even that is still within the range of acceptable, although minimum.

@MrsEG loving your message! 😊 I'll definitely be kept busy until work stops on 21st... then I'll only have a few days to wait!!

@DayDreamer1707 you literally just made me lol in the middle of the office! Your OH should be very grateful to be presented with your peed on stick if it's +ve 😂😂

@stormtrooperjulian fingers crossed for you! As we've said so many times, you're not out till you're out!

@MrsAW2018 ooh, fingers crossed this is your cycle! 10dpo is reasonable (if a little early, but hey, you know your own body!)

@KatBeCool oh hun, that does not sound fun. Have you spoken to anyone about your short cycles? Sorry if you answered this before.

@KatBeCool don't think like that, it will happen for you. What cycle are you on?

I am hoping the SMEP will work for me because I know I can get pregnant but unfortunately had a MC. I just wasn't sure if to start the plan on CD6 rather than CD8 with mine being a little shorter...

@DayDreamer1707 it doesn't matter how long your cycle is as long as you can find your fertile days and when you ovulate. Apparently my cycles are only 24 days, smep isn't an issue for me, but my body seems to be quite a failure in actually getting pregnant.

@KatBeCool so sorry hun, I got the visit this morning...as if Mondays aren't rubbish enough. FX we both have better look in January x

Thank you ladies for the support and least I can enjoy Christmas and hope for a BFP in the new year on the OH birthday.

I was thinking of doing the SMEP, pretty sure some of you have either tried this or are doing this. Will I be able to do this with a cycle of 26 days? Any pointers? x

@KatBeCool oh so sorry to hear that. Sending virtual hugs. I know nothing anyone says can help the way you feel right now.

@MrsAW2018 ah the safaris are just amazing. We wanted to do one again this time but we are about to start a massive house renovation so decided the money could be better used elsewhere. I mean we are probably mad TTC with that looming but I've been waiting for years to start.

Well I've had the signs of a chesty/flu since end of last week so my temps are all over the show so I'm struggling to pin point where I'm at. Natural cycles says I ovulate tomorrow. And as of this morning FF said I ovulated 4 days ago...which I 100% didn't as I only got EWCM on Saturday morning for the first time. And also a flashing smiley for the first time. Still having flashing smileys this morning so that's the 3rd one. Feeling twinges but it's like anything am I just reading into it all way too much.

Do you normally get sore boobs pre-af? Did you get positive OPKs this month? Got everything crossed for you!!
I feel your pain, the tww is a killer isn't it. I swear I think about this literally 24/7. Finding Mumsnet such a support though cos I can't talk to friends about it as I've not even told my best friend we are TTC cos she gets married in May and I'm maid of honour so don't want to stress her yet or unnecessarily.

Started spotting late last night, this morning temp dropped to cover line. That means AF is coming within hours, not pregnant again, not pregnant by Christmas, not pregnant this year, back to only 10 day luteal phase, and 24-day cycles. I am absolutely crushed.

@MrsLBear we went in August as we wouldn't have been able to cope with the heat! I've been twice, did the Garden Route first time and then Kruger the second time. Absolutely loved it. Wanted to go back with my husband but we decided to have a baby instead 😂 thinking I'm going to test for the first time on Thursday with an IC. 6dpo now and having some cramps and my boobs are slightly sore. Feeling impatient now, just wanna know! How are you getting on?

Aw sorry to hear that af got you @DayDreamer1707! Hopefully next month is yours!

@PaintingOwls I wouldn't worry about having a few drinks, you probably need to relax and still enjoy yourself. Hopefully you will figure out what is going on FX x

@PaintingOwls I really doubt a few drinks would hurt. As I understand , it doesn't even filter through to them at that stage? And just think of all the people who get pregnant accidently or don't find out for a while.

@DayDreamer1707 sorry to hear that. Good news cycles are back to normal at least x

@MrsEG and @GemmaJen wait until you have missed AF. I am so glad I didn't POAS. Sometimes it can make it harder. I was going to try and hold out till at least Friday but the cow came bang on time.

@MrsR16 yes it's one good thing I suppose. Also next AF is due on my OH birthday so hopefully she doesn't make an appearance then. How amazing would that be as a birthday pressie....yes it will be my pee on a stick but if it's a positive 😂

@MrsR16 Hold out! You can do this!! At least your TWW is the Xmas run up too, to keep your mind occupied :) FX for you, for an amazing Xmas morning surprise!