TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO. 9

Hi ladies @Bettythecat @sjohnstone @GemmaJen there's a new thread so please do move over to Thread 10 :) as this one is nearly full we've switched to a shiny new one. See you there!

@GemmaJen it's an antioxidant. Our bodies produce it naturally but apparently the older you get, the less you produce. It helps create healthy cells and therefore has been linked with egg quality and increased fertility. There isn't a huge amount of information available though hence why I'm asking if anyone else has had any experience.

Hi ladies

I haven’t posted or been on this thread for a few weeks as I was trying to give myself some headspace from the TTC in the hope it might help me to get my BFN. Sorry I am out of the loop on everyone’s news.

This morning I got my BFN for the 4th cycle. Feel absolutely gutted and empty. Am due on my period on Christmas Day too to make it worse- will have to deal with seeing the physical evidence that I have failed again on what’s meant to be a happy day. We are both so desperate for our BFP. People keep asking me if I’m pregnant or when I will have one (even close friends and family) and it’s fitting to have to pretend and be elusive about it when it’s all I want. We will be with my two cousins this Christmas too both of whom are pregnant (the “we only had sex once and got pregnant brigade”).

I also feel a rising panic that the big family I always wanted won’t happen now as I will be earliest 31 when we have a baby.

Help me out of this misery please!!! 😫😫😫😫

@KittieKath of course!! Got everything crossed but I'm refusing to let myself think about it or even contemplate it as I can't take any more let downs!

@MrsH497 not stupid at all. Completely and utterly understandable. It's hard news to take and no one judges you for that. We all know how you feel ❤️

Will go to the new thread now! Was thinking that yday that we are running out of room!

Sorry posted on the wrong one 🙈

Hello to the new thread!!

@cupcakesandglitter I have pains and I'm extremely emotional this cycle! Keep apologising to the OH because I'm all over the place ha x

@KatBeCool i think I ovulated the other day too as I had lots of CM (sorry tmi) now not as much just this weekend twinge.

Still having my lower left pinching pain 5DPO. If my days are right I could test Boxing Day possible but only gives me a cycle of about 18days which can't be good.

How is everyone else feeling...anyone feeling like a BFP is coming 🤞🏼

@sjohnstone what is CoQ10?

Started a new thread ladies - hope I’ve tagged everyone and forgive me if not!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3456613-TTC-FIRST-BABY-THREAD-10

@starkid isn't it a pain? Anything sets me off, so difficult. I remember having the implant out and OMG I was crying at EVERYTHING!! I think it's good to be honest if you have support from people, I think it's good to get it off your chest x

I'm having pain around both ovaries today, really getting on my nerves. Feeling slightly UTI-Ish but then also not when I pee. God knows what's going on, I didn't want to think about it at all 😡

@cupcakesandglitter - I feel you on feeling tearful about random stuff, ever since coming off the pill in May I've been so much more emotional/teary! I was welling up at the adverts (not even trailers) at the cinema recently

@EltzBee - sorry for your bfn xx

Everyone has enjoyed asking me if we're planning to ttc soon, whether we want them, how's it going etc. I'm just honest about it and people are usually nice about it. Can be hard when they're like 'oh it'll happen soon I'm sure', but I prefer that than pretending I'm fine and dandy not having them to people.

@sjohnstone Welcome! I’ve never heard of that to be honest, I have just been taking Pregnacare Conception myself.

@EltzBee Sorry about the BFN :( You’re not out til AF shows her face! Yeah I think we do need a new board soon, we’re rapidly running out of room!!

@Crossfitgirl Oh gosh about the pregnancy thread, I hope peoples sickness passes soon! We do go through posts quick! What's the method for creating a new one, just literally creating a new thread in the same board when it gets close?

@MrsEG oh totally; gets absolutely on my nerves as they don't consider at all the emotional heartache that could be there!

Cramps still there this afternoon, just waiting for AF tomorrow or Sat...Did do a quick test this morning and it was bfn as expected (I know, I succumbed!)

Hi,

I'm new to the forum. Been TTC since February this year and no luck so far. In the last few months I've started taking various supplements: folic acid, DHA omega 3 and CoQ10. I found out about CoQ10 on Luisa Zissmans blog and she recommended 900mg per day. I've recently been to a herbalist and when I asked them about CoQ10 they said they recommend only taking 200mg. I'm a bit confused by such a vast difference in the recommended dose and when searching online I can't seem to find that much information on recommended dosage. Just wondering if anyone else uses it and if so the dose they take? Thanks

@Crossfitgirl Hey lovely!! Oh bless you! My sister had HG from 7 weeks to 7 months... so I feel for you! She actually missed Xmas day last year as she couldn’t even keep water down so just had to stay in bed!! FX it passes for you soon! Hope you are keeping really well other than that :)

@MrsH497 It’s very hard. My sister and best friend both had babies this year. I’m so happy for them and adore their babies but I just wish I was part of that club!!

@Keyboard91 Welcome! FX you never know you may get lucky this month!

@EltzBee I can’t stand the ‘when will you have a baby?’ question either especially as I had a MC this year. Such a loaded question and I just wish people would mind their own business!

You guys are going to need a new thread soon! Wow it moves fast! @flapjackered will you leave it there or try one more time today? @katbecool yes it's the only month we dtd after ov rather than just the days leading upto, whether it was coincidence I don't know! I'm totally doing the same thing next time we try!
@kittiekath @mrsh497 so many of my friends got married and got pregnant like a month or two later. I hated them all! You can still be happy for them but it doesn't change that it hurts that they have what you want so much. Your time will come. Not everyone's journey is that easy, some could have been trying years or had mcs before announcing, you just don't know. Everyone at my work was popping them out and I was so jealous, until I found out one had 5 MCs before her successful pregnancy. It can be so tough.

If it makes you feel any better, everyone who moved from here onto the pregnancy thread feels like shite 😂 it's a nausea fest filled with ginger tea and sickness bands...
Good luck for this last little stint before Christmas ladies I can't wait to see the next BFPs!!
Xxx

Hi all

Can I join you all?

DP and I are TTC baby #1. We have had a couple of months where we haven’t actively tried for a baby, but haven’t used contraception either. Although I may have initiated more around when I may be more fertile(!)

New year is when we are going to actually try. Im CD26 and usually have a 28ish day cycle. Not feeling anything out of the ordinary at the moment, and don’t think we dtd enough this month to give a bfp. So here’s hoping for 2019! Xx

@MrsH497 so totally understandable!! I know exactly how you feel. We all want it so much, it's hard not to be a bit jelly when a friend announces.

However, it has been shown that being around pregnant women (and babies) can boost fertility and get all the right hormones surging! So I reckon you go hang out with this friend, like, ALL the time. ha ha!!

@DayDreamer1707 it looks puzzling 🙂 Try temping for a few days. I'm definitely more inclined to think you ovulated a few days ago, and you can just wait for the TWW duration, but, personally, I'd be too impatient.

Thanks @EltzBee only got 1 friend who knows we are TTC and she knows this other couple so don't want to tell her how I'm feeling.

I'll be fine
Trying not to symptom spot or get my hopes up after the BFN today. Just one of those days I think

@MrsH497 sending hugs, it's so hard when people we know announce they're pregnant. That and people saying 'When are you going to have one?' You're NOT stupid at all, we're all in that same boat, it is an emotional rollercoaster.

Ugh I'm being irrational a friend of ours has just said they are 10 weeks pregnant. Obviously I'm so happy for them but part of me just wishes it was us in that position. Stupid aren't I

@MrsLBear AMAZING! FX for us both... Here's to a sober and pregnant Hogmany and 2019!! xxxxx p.s. lets defo stay in touch for the big reveal... :-)

@KatBeCool this is what my chat thing looks like, obviously haven't been temping....

What do you think??

@MrsH497 fingers crossed af doesn't show!! Let us know how you get on!
Wow I thought I had it bad working till Xmas eve (I have to go in and do something xmas morning but I think it can wait till Boxing Day) hats off to our emergency services. Nice that you've got the rest of the day off though!
So jealous you're finishing today @FlapJackered! Such a relief when temp goes up isn't it! Like you can relax with finding time to DTD. I've actually learnt a lot from you re fertility supplements defogonna give them a try to get my cycles to be a bit shorter (or get O to move forward as I think my LP is too short)

@MrsR16 You gotta try these aldi ones. Just a hint of Christmas and loads of buttery goodness! And they are minis. Just had 2 with my tea.

@KittieKath I'm testing New Years too!! Fx for a last surprise in 2018!!

Sorry af got you @stormtrooperjulian but I'm loving your glass half full attitude!! Can defo take a leaf out of your book!!