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TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!

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Yukka · 28/11/2018 19:31

New Thread as we're at 988 messages on thread 26. we'll do a quick roll call:
Age 39
TTC x1
MC x 3 = Sept + Dec 2017 + May 2018
Currently pregnant again 5w4ds
Diagnosed with APS/Hughes Syndrome. On Asprin since October and start Heparin tomorrow. First scan Monday.

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DayDreamer1707 · 02/12/2018 09:13

@OctoberGirl91 I thought I had Ov’d the first positive poke because I had what I thought was ovulation bleeding. This time I’m just having slight cramps so god knows. Just have to DTD and see what happens I suppose. Definitely a positive in the first picture. Il do more OPKs x

OctoberGirl91 · 02/12/2018 08:56

This is my first cycle after ERPC on 4th October lost my baby at 8 weeks and had first AF on the 9th but I got first picture spike at 7 days after AF and then last photos were on Tuesday this week so I've been really confused! Not sure I have ovulated or not, although felt physically like it happened on the 29th

I had blood streaked EWCM on Thursday but nothing since and never experienced that before.

Hope you managed to get a sticky BFP xx

DayDreamer1707 · 02/12/2018 08:46

@OctoberGirl91 I haven’t struggled reading them to be fair because like you said there’s 2 that are definitely positive but that was last Sunday and then you can see how I now have another positive from yesterday 🙈 xx

OctoberGirl91 · 02/12/2018 08:36

@DayDreamer1707 I have found those cheap OPKs so hard to read and I was using CB Dual Hormone Kit but the sticks are so expensive to keep up with it as I seem to be on 35 day cycle.

I can see two positive OPKs on your photo though xx

TinselBee · 02/12/2018 07:58

Blimey, it's cruel enough that we've had to experience MCs then our bodies take that long before we can even have a potential shot MeghanV07

DayDreamer1707 · 02/12/2018 07:33

@lilimum5 @MeganV07 this looks like what is happening to me 😫

TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!
MeghanV07 · 02/12/2018 07:04

Thinking of you @TwittleBee ❤️. We started TTC straight away but I didn't ovulate till my 3rd cycle.
Xx

TwittleBee · 02/12/2018 04:32

Thank you both for getting back to me Lilimum5 and Dimblebimble . I am so worried I'm going to start bleeding naturally before as symptoms are starting to fade now.

How long has it taken you ladies to find youre able to TTC again? My MIL is telling me I should wait at least half a year and drink lots of milk as I need to make my body healthy as that's most likely why I miscarried? (Fyi, I do have a few health issues e.g. cusp of underweight due to bowel issues).

This is confusing Lilimum5 for you! Hopefully next cycle it be a bit more usual with the LH surges.

Lilimum5 · 01/12/2018 19:52

OK I googled and found this

Does having an LH surge mean that I will definitely ovulate that month?
Not necessarily. In a normal cycle, ovulation usually follows the LH surge. But sometimes you can have an LH surge early in your cycle, before the follicle is ready. If this happens, you’ll have another LH surge later on in your cycle, and ovulate after that one.

Another reason why ovulation may not follow the LH surge are certain conditions that cause elevated LH levels such as PCOS.

And finally, a third reason why the LH surge doesn’t always lead to ovulation is a phenomenon known as luteinized unruptured follicle (LUF). Between 6 – 25 percent of women with infertility have LUF[2.Qublan et al. 2006], and it’s one possible cause of unexplained infertility. It can also occasionally happen to women with otherwise normal cycles[3.Killick et al. 1987].

In LUF, even though hormone levels leading up to ovulation are normal, the follicle doesn’t rupture, so the egg is never released. In normal menstrual cycles, the ruptured follicle becomes a corpus luteum, which releases progesterone and stimulates the lining of the uterus to build up. But with LUF, even though the follicle never ruptures, it still releases progesterone. From the outside, your cycle will look completely normal: you’ll still get a regular period each month, and you’ll still get positive results with the temperature method or ovulation sticks. In fact, the only way to detect LUF is via ultrasound.

Well that would explain my random positive opk so early.

Lilimum5 · 01/12/2018 19:43

@MeghanV07 that's a good point I'm going to go Google that. Thanks x

MeghanV07 · 01/12/2018 19:38

@Lilimum5 Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm sure when you're bleeding, you can have a LH surge which can give a positive ovulation test. I can't remember where I read that but I'm sure I have. Maybe test each day at the same time if you can, as different times of the day can give different results. Sending you love x

It's just bitter sweet isn't it @Justincase87, glad you can eat but it's a horrible reason why. I would be around 8 weeks on Christmas Day and if this pregnancy is okay, my sickness will be horrendous so I'm dreading Christmas Day, but will be welcoming the sickness with open arms if it means I have a healthy baby.

I've just been to the loo again and had more cm mixed with brown blood this time, but it was a pale brown. Hoping it's just old blood from the bleed tomorrow. Will try and test again in a couple of days if the bleeding continues.

@TwittleBee I'm hoping it's implantation or my cervix is just being a nuisance! I just don't think I can go through it all again!

Xx

Laney79 · 01/12/2018 19:05

@Lilimum5 hmmm...its so confusing! So I'm not sure. I know after I lost bow I was getting positive ov tests (and very faint positives on preg tests) for several days. I gave up testing for ov until after I was deffo negative...apparently the hcg can mess with the hpt as lh is a similar hormone.

If it is ov perhaps it's your body resetting itself after the Mc taking so long? Sorry not to be more help x

Lilimum5 · 01/12/2018 18:37

OK ladies I need to test your body knowledge.

Right third medical intervention for 12 week mmc on Monday, never seen so much blood and tissue in my life, pretty sure I passed everything.

So treating Monday as cd1 I am now Cd6 and I believe a negative hpt (blue strip) and a positive ovulation (green strip) today but I'm still actively bleeding. Hmmmm???
Also if this is ovulation isn't it too early and the egg would be immature and would it result in another loss if this is going to keep happening every month. I ovulated on cd10 every month before this pregnancy. With every mc my cycle get shorter, is there anything I can do the lengthen the time from cd1 to ovulation???

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Dimblebimble · 01/12/2018 18:35

@TwittleBee I had the surgery under local anaesthetic. As it happened the miscarriage started naturally the day before and I was in quite a lot of pain by the morning of the surgery. The surgery in comparison was a breeze. They gave me gas and air and it was over quickly. No pain during or after the surgery. Hope it all goes well for you.

Lilimum5 · 01/12/2018 17:54

@TwittleBee I'm so sorry for your loss x I had surgery and it's not too bad. I had some period type cramps and felt sore for a few days. I had bleeding and spotting. I'm sure some of the other ladies will be able to explain more as I'm not the best person to ask about this. Xx

Justincase87 · 01/12/2018 17:33

@meghanv07 I'm feeling a bit rubbish as I've just managed to eat a load of food after being super nauseous all week, I feel like my symptoms are fading and I'm so sad. I'm sorry to hear about your bleeding, as people have said it sounds like an implantation bleed especially as it was so brief. Keeping everything crossed for you.

TwittleBee · 01/12/2018 17:25

Hello, can I join you all please? Just waiting for my appointment for my surgery after confining a missed miscarriage yesterday. What can I expect after that?

MeghanV07 oh, really hope that the bleeding stops and isn't anything sinister, just a typical cervix spotting or bit of implantation bleed if you're still early?

Justincase87 Sorry to hear you're struggling this time of year, unsurprising considering. Wishing you lots of luck

MeghanV07 · 01/12/2018 15:42

@hayleyfx thank you hun. I've had no more so
Hoping it's my stupid cervix being sensitive! Xxx

MeghanV07 · 01/12/2018 15:41

@Justincase87 I hope you're okay. I've started bleeding today so I'm sure of the outcome, sure it's going to end in a chemical & if it does I just want it to hurry up and happen. I hope Friday is good news for you... maybe our bodies are just super sensitive after mc's? I wish they gave you more information & help after you've had one xxx

hayleyfx · 01/12/2018 15:37

@MakeLemonade I’ve just read your last message! I thought I recognised the name, didn’t realise we were both due in Feb. I’m so sorry to hear you also had a TFMR, hardest thing I’ve ever done. I hope you have your rainbow soon ❤️

@SerenaOverjoyed thanks hun. You’re right, I could just be a few days out on my dates. I think I’m just so pessimistic because of the past. I was expecting my hcg to be super low like 100 something so I’m glad it was in the thousands, that’s one positive at least. Will see how tomorrow goes. So glad all is going well for you x

@MeghanV07 thank you 🤞 I’m sorry you had a bit of blood but a tiny bit like that isn’t usually reason to worry although I know I would be same. There’s a good chance everything is totally fine though. Will be keeping everything crossed for you x

@Yukka @Lilimum5 thanks girls. So glad I have the support of this thread. Fingers crossed 🤞 glad you’re doing well Yukka fingers crossed for Monday!! X

@InDreamland hope you had a nice holiday and are doing okay. I’m feeling the same about Christmas. Exactly 1 year ago was my first MMC and now I might be having another one exactly a year later. With even more losses and my baby boy in between. It’s surreal. Never even thought I’d experience one loss, never mind 5... 😔 Christmas is tough. I’m hoping everyone here has much better luck in 2019 x

Justincase87 · 01/12/2018 15:17

I usually love Christmas - but this year I'm dreading it - I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant but expecting bad news on Friday, just gut feeling, and should have been welcoming my first baby into the world this week. Even if it's good news on Friday I don't have my 12 week scan until new years eve and I was 12 weeks last time I had a MMC, trying to be positive but it's so hard.

@InDreamland I hope your holiday allowed you to relax just a bit, here's hoping for 2019 babies for us all X

InDreamland · 01/12/2018 15:00

Hi ladies
Back from holiday and joining the roll call - thanks for the new thread.

TTC #1 since June 2013
MC x2 - first in July 2018 and second in November 2018
Should be 32 weeks pregnant with baby number 1 but instead trying to cope with loss of a second baby now.

Fingers crossed for lots of Christmas pregnancies and 2019 babies for all of us!

Anyone who normally loves Christmas and is usually excited dreading it this year?

MakeLemonade · 01/12/2018 13:34

I’ve been doing acupuncture and second the recommendation, I’ve been doing it in conjunction with Reflexology to help get my hormones back to normal and help with grief and it’s been really effective. I was having terrible tension headaches and haven’t had one since the week I had both treatments - difficult to know which one is making biggest difference so I’ll stick with both. Really not needle like at all as they’re so small and thin and doesn’t hurt. I was a bit squeamish about the idea of one in the top of my head, between my fingers and in my c section scar but they were all totally fine (even if in my mind it was a bit odd!).

My reflexologist does a lovely guided meditation too - I listen to a recording of it before bed (link here if anyone is interested www.thehormonaltherapist.co.uk/recordings/ and there are specific fertility ones she does too but you might have to pay for those).

MeghanV07 · 01/12/2018 11:20

@OctoberGirl91 I've always had off white/pale yellow cm, but this month was excessive! Like globs of it. Which made me question it.

Thank you @Lilimum5 ❤️

Wow @Yukka that sounds amazing! I am so tempted to go to acupuncture.

I had some cramps last night, have just gone to the toilet and had some ewcm mixed with a streak of blood 😔. I knew this was too good to be true. I feel so upset already. X

fnej01 · 01/12/2018 11:12

@Yukka thanks, that's really helpful. To be honest I am a bit hippy so do like a holistic treatment anyway. Not sure I will manage the relaxation after next weeks (OH Birthday night out) but I will bear it in mind for future appointments. It's really interesting about your EWCM - mine has definitely seemed less since the 3 MC this year, but not sure how much attention I had paid it until this last year so might not be true. I've managed all those years of not really noticing it, and feel like after this year I could do a PHD on my cycle and bodily functions 😂

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