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TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 27 - BFPs are coming!

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Yukka · 28/11/2018 19:31

New Thread as we're at 988 messages on thread 26. we'll do a quick roll call:
Age 39
TTC x1
MC x 3 = Sept + Dec 2017 + May 2018
Currently pregnant again 5w4ds
Diagnosed with APS/Hughes Syndrome. On Asprin since October and start Heparin tomorrow. First scan Monday.

xx

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granolacrayons · 07/12/2018 10:05

@Laney79 I tend to get low Vit D levels in winter so I've been taking an omega supplement which also has Vit D. My acupuncturist recommended this one:

www.amazon.co.uk/UnoCardio-1000-Vitamin-60-Softgels/dp/B00M49CPE4/ref=pd_ys_c_rfy_rp_65801031_0?psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_wg=4axiZ&pd_rd_i=B00M49CPE4&pd_rd_w=IekzN&tag=mumsnetforum-21&refRID=Q457MWH0XDP6RE1GKW4C&pd_rd_r=Y5YJ874ZWJ0FBAR2M4YB

It is expensive, but hopefully, it is good quality.

Holly5633 · 07/12/2018 10:02

@Tinselbee thinking of you today. I hope all goes as well as can be x

KnitKitty · 07/12/2018 09:57

@Russkispy I will be thinking of you on Saturday. Really hope it works xxx

@MeghanV07 You can always have a private scan at 6 weeks if you think it will reassure you; but just be aware that they may not see the baby at this stage and it might only be the yolk sac; but at least you'll know it's in the right place then. Some people will see a heart beat that early; others don't. So if you think you can handle not seeing a heart beat if it isn't showing, go for it... But just be careful because sometimes it's more worrying than it is reassuring.

@MistyMeow The mind games we go through on this journey! Sorry you're body is still a bit all over the place. I got my hopes up for you for a minute there. I have my fingers still firmly crossed for the coming months for you though. xxx

@Holly5633 It's all well and good having certain intentions, but it all goes out the window when that TWW arrives. I found not having any tests in the house the best way for self control; and having OH decide when we tested as he's a lot more level headed than I am!

@DayDreamer1707 I'm sorry you're struggling. When was your MC? I had very strong waves of sadness for about 4 months after my first one before I felt more on an even keel again.

@Panapan Hugs. Doctors are unlikely to do anything since it's only been 5 months hun. I know it doesn't seem normal for you, but some people this happens... They catch straight away and then their next pregnancy takes months. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong. Your body may just need the time to recover from MC.

@Lilimum5 I'm sending you hugs and hand holds.

@fnej01 I find I get a mini bought of PMS around O sometimes too. Must be the change in hormones.

@Boboelephant Have you been having acupuncture before? I can't remember. Good luck with FW xxx

@Laney79 I remember umming and ahhing over which digital OPK to get and seeing the one that gives you 5 days of fertile window vs the 2 days and figured 5 days might be too long. OH doesn't get in the mood that often so I was worried we'd DTD too soon with too much advanced warning. I'm beginning to think the cheaper the better when it comes to OPKs! Although I do like seeing a static smiley rather than having to work out if a line is dark enough or not. I only used mine that one month though and have come to the conclusion that you're just as likely to fall pregnant without OPKs, but they are useful to help you work out when AF is due. I'd take it all with a big pinch of salt, but sorry it's confusing you!

@TinyPaws Oh hun. Sending huge hugs. It's really horrible playing this waiting game, isn't it. xxx

CD1 for me today. I've come full circle now; it's a year since starting TTC.
Had nine vials of blood taken yesterday so the waiting game for answers begins. I'm hoping I don't have to wait long for the MRI scan.
I am really pleased about one thing. It looks like acupuncture may have extended my luteal phase by 2 days. I had a classic 28 day cycle and seemed to ovulated on CD14 which is encouraging. Smile
It's been nice having a cycle just allowing my body to find it's own rhythm again without TTC. I'm sort of looking forward to a couple more stress free cycles now.
I'm not at work this weekend and it's my birthday on Monday, so looking forward to a nice weekend with OH. Christmas shopping, having a family meal and chilling.

DayDreamer1707 · 07/12/2018 09:56

This morning one of my best friends who had a MC in May has just sent me her 12 week scan of her little one. I'm so happy for her but just makes me want to get my BFP even more!!! I do not dare to test!

@Mistymeow hopefully you will get back into a regular cycle soon, not knowing where you stand just makes things harder

@TinyPaws Thinking of you and hope you get better results on Monday

@MeghanV07 oh think positive, our bodies are so unpredictable and nothing ever follows the book when it comes to pregnancy x

@Lilimum5 good luck with your blood test today x

MeghanV07 · 07/12/2018 09:41

@TinyPaws I have it all crossed for you 🤞🏼.

We've got my sister in law surprise 40th tonight so hiding not drinking is going to be tough as my family are big drinkers!

I've still been temping since I got my BFP and had two temperatures drops yesterday and today so now I'm really worrying is this a miscarriage waiting to happen 😔

TinyPaws · 07/12/2018 09:33

@Mistymeow No joy. Faint positive on official clinic test. They refused to do a blood test. I'm to repeat the test on Monday. The nurse did not sound optimistic.

Mistymeow · 07/12/2018 09:31

@tinypaws how are you doing today?

No joy on the frer sadly. Think this spotting must be hormonal. Sigh. Just want my regular cycles back, it’s been 8 months.

DayDreamer1707 · 07/12/2018 08:37

Morning Ladies and another happy Friday to you all. Currently on CD24 and 11DPO (I think). Hope everyone is doing ok and let's hope for some good news for some over the weekend x

MeghanV07 · 06/12/2018 14:04

@TinyPaws I try not to look into the darkness of lines. I had the darkest line the night before my mc so now don't believe in that at all! I just think as long as there is a line, there is hope. Everything crossed for you xx

@Laney79 possibly!! My friend is on them after coming off the pill and her cycles are usually 24 days and she's on day 28 now with no sign of AF and no sign of pregnancy... hopefully AF turns up for you soon and you can start a fresh month xx

Laney79 · 06/12/2018 13:47

@TinyPaws hugs and keeping everything crossed for you.

@Lilimum5 I'm usually 26 days (well the two af's I had between bean and bow) with a 12 day luteal phase. So normally ov day 14...hoping I get a positive opk later.

@MeghanV07 that's interesting-I've only used pregnacare one month prior to catching with bow and it didn't have an effect...maybe that loss has made them more effective?

@Beaglemum93 Yeah, first proper cycle-took 53 days after losing bow for AF to turn up.

Thanks @Mistymeow - on the vitamin d just searching for answers and trying to rule out possible causes. I am always tired and am generally pale! I found a test at home thing for £30 so I thought I might get one. I've read a lot about vitamin D and how it's proven to be important in miscarriage prevention, so part of me says if it won't harm I may take an extra supplement but then worried it'll be too much!

As for tests-if I don't use FRER's I tend to use the cheapies you get from home bargains -they are called clear & simple. They've always been quite good and sensitive for me. Xxx

Russkispy · 06/12/2018 12:32

@TinyPaws everything. Crossed for you!!

TinyPaws · 06/12/2018 12:24

@Lilimum5 I'm hoping my clinic will agree to do bloods tomorrow.

Lilimum5 · 06/12/2018 12:18

OK update bloods from yesterday are lower than Monday but not by much so bloods again on Friday then????

Lilimum5 · 06/12/2018 12:17

@TinyPaws it would be better if you could get bloods instead will your doc do this for you

TinyPaws · 06/12/2018 11:37

Today's FRER, that should say.

TinyPaws · 06/12/2018 11:36

Pregnancy tests are looking much fainter than previous pregnancy and little/no progression. I'm only 4+1 (10dp5dt), got the first positive nearly 4 days ago but they've not got much darker at all and today's free is actually fainter than the one I took 2 days ago.

Russkispy · 06/12/2018 10:19

That's ok @Mistymeow ! @TinyPaws , congratulations on BFP, but what makes you think about chemical/ectopic?! Fingers crossed it's not the case!

Mistymeow · 06/12/2018 10:14

@Russkispy oh I'm sorry, got ahead of myself there. As someone about to embark on my own assisted fertility journey I really should be a bit more clued up! Everything crossed for you x
Thanks @DayDreamer1707 good suggestion. I'm testing too early on the ic really. I don't feel too hopeful, think it's a hormone imbalance causing spotting.
@tinypaws oh no, are you having heavy bleeding? What has the clinic said? Please take care of yourself and keep us updated.

Beaglemum93 · 06/12/2018 10:10

@TinyPaws what makes you think chemical/ectopic? How far along are you? Hope everything is ok.

DayDreamer1707 · 06/12/2018 10:04

@Mistymeow I have never used a Superdrug test but I have used some co-op ones as that was the closest shop to me and they worked fine for me. Gave me 2 BFP's and was confirmed by a clear blue. I always think a positive is a positive as long as your aren't testing too early x

TinyPaws · 06/12/2018 09:59

So sorry for not reading/replying to everyone but I need to blurt this out somewhere. I'm pregnant after IVF but I think I'm having a chemical or ectopic pregnancy. Sad

Russkispy · 06/12/2018 09:44

@Mistymeow I'm not there yet! I've been going through IVF and only 1 survived after fertilisation. And it will be transferred on Saturday! And hopefully there's BFP at the end of this journey!

Wearytree · 06/12/2018 09:20

Hi ladies,
So I got three 🙈 positive opks yesterday because I was testing every few hours to see how long the surge was. DTD yesterday morning and this morning and currently lying propped up on pillows (is this still tmi?!?) both ovaries painful though? The left more than the right but then during DTD the right one really ached. Is this normal?

Had a stabbing in left ovary yesterday afternoon but before my opk was totally positive so now worried that if I did ovulate it was too soon, before the LH surge, which I've read can happen in older ladies.
I'm stilll stressing about the 9.1 fsh too.
Sorry for the essay!

Mistymeow · 06/12/2018 09:18

@Russkispy I completely missed that you got your BFP! Big congrats! Great news that everything is progressing nicely.
@MeghanV07 sorry that you are going through spotting, I would feel exactly the same. GP sounds reassuring (sometimes I think getting the blood tests is more stressful, with the wait). I'm sure you know but spotting is very common in early pregnancy, but of course you are upset because of what happened in your last pregnancy. Also, hormones will make things feel even more emotional than they are. I hope everything settles soon.
@Laney79 Is there a reason why you think your vit d is low? How is your energy? I assume the pregnacare will contain vit d but if you are worried do get it checked (a very common deficiency, especially in winter)! I know it's hard but see if you can find a way to not stress so much, because this can delay ovulation/disrupt cycles. It's a vicious circle which I have been victim of- I worry about my cycles/ttc and several times I've o'd on cd21! I really want you to have a nice Christmas after all you've been through hug
@boboelephant Hello fellow thread veteran! Yes, first fertility appointment on tuesday. When is yours? Ours is just for initial testing (although have had all the bloods). I'm still spotting and getting stabby pains. Did another ic today (11 dpo) and there is something, but too early to tell really.

Has anyone had much success with the superdrug pregnancy tests? The ic are so rubbish but I can't afford the more expensive brands.

Beaglemum93 · 06/12/2018 09:09

That's great news @Russkispy!

@Laney79 is this your first cycle since M/C? It's mine and I only got a positive opk yesterday which is 2 days later than usual.

I'm still getting faint positives on hpt but at least it looks like my GP was right and I can still ovulate with small levels of HCG in my system.