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My lover is going to leave me if I don't get pregnant

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RosemaryWoodhouse · 22/06/2007 02:29

I'm 37 and have never had a child. I proposed to my lover in February last year and he said he didn't want to get "trapped in a childless marriage" so we decided to have a baby and then get married. He loves me very much, I know he does, but ultimately if I can't give him the family he wants then I think he will choose to have it with someone else. I'm very scared of losing him.

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keiralou · 24/06/2007 23:02

Me too...

Nightynight · 24/06/2007 22:51

lol at doodle

MamaMaiasaura · 24/06/2007 22:44

Rosemary.. I felt sick reading alot of what you spouted..

Georgie11 · 24/06/2007 22:43

Leave him (you are better than that) before he leaves you ... find someone new who loves you for yourself rather than being a baby-machine, get pregnant and have a wonderful life.

Judy1234 · 24/06/2007 22:34

Why? She never wanted children. Got pregnant at 34 and had an abortion. He boyfriend wants her, not their potential children so says he respects her decision.

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RosemaryWoodhouse · 24/06/2007 19:16

I felt sick just reading that.

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Judy1234 · 24/06/2007 16:24

Sunday Times Style magazine - www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article1945296.ece

Her boyfriend loves children but he loves her more so supports her in her abortion.

MrsMar · 24/06/2007 16:24

I'm sure this is a triptrap... I can't believe anyone could fall in love with someone who would leave her because her body failed to do something. It's a totally different thing to say "I couldn't marry someone who didn't want children" to saying "I wouldn't marry someone who wasn't able to have children". The first statement involves some kind of choice and life values and I agree it's important to agree on life choices. But I find it revolting to think that someone would make me test my fertility before consenting to marry me. What next? Perhaps there's some way to establish his earning potential, and if it's not up to scratch you won't marry him? I was sympathetic to the dilemma at first but now I'm getting angry!

Dottydot · 24/06/2007 15:41

Trip trap

wishingfourgotone · 24/06/2007 15:39

you can have oral sex and finish with penetration!!!
and hooked on your man or not if you dont want kids you are being utterly unfair to any child you bring into this world.

Doodledootoo · 24/06/2007 13:16

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MamaMaiasaura · 24/06/2007 11:45

What xenia said and see if you can get referred for some couselling, couple or independently

Judy1234 · 24/06/2007 10:44

So the answer is you both go to the GP this week or if you can afford it private testing to check the fertility of you both out as time is not on your side.

MamaMaiasaura · 23/06/2007 21:59
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RosemaryWoodhouse · 23/06/2007 21:52

If he decides to leave I wouldn't ask him not to. If someone wants a family can you honestly ask them to give it up? I am desperately unhappy about my situation.

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MrsWeasley · 23/06/2007 21:48

will he walk right over the bridge to the green grass on the other side?

lulumama · 23/06/2007 21:40

but he might walk away from you if no baby arrives

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RosemaryWoodhouse · 23/06/2007 21:36

I've read all your replies and taken them seriously. I am genuinely thankful for your responses. I was kind of hoping someone had faced the same ulimatum though and was interested in how they handled it, or rather how it turned out. There is no way I'm walking away from my man, I am totally hooked on him.

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Genidef · 23/06/2007 21:35

lucykate
I have the same suspicions (troll) but was too wimpy to say it. Normally I hate it when people say that, but it did have me wondering on this occasion. glad you did.

purplejennyrose · 23/06/2007 21:26

If I was a sperm i wouldn't want to live in a fridge...

lucykate · 23/06/2007 21:26
Smile
FioFio · 23/06/2007 21:25

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purplejennyrose · 23/06/2007 21:25

oops sorry slightly hormonal and oversensitive at the mo
no offence taken..

lulumama · 23/06/2007 21:24

OP doesn't seem to be listening to anything re the sperm issue

lucykate · 23/06/2007 21:23

oh no, i didn't mean you purplerose

i meant the op