Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

Such heartbreaking stories, I'm so sorry for the losses you ladies have experienced xxx

I’m so sorry to hear that Mellongoose. What terrible news. I know no words can make it better but just want to give you a virtual hug 💐

@mellongoose I think I would be tempted say something now to your LO to prepare her. She is very bright, so I would consider a very toned down version of the truth. She will see how upset you are and this will help her to understand why.
I am thinking of you xxx

@melongoose i have followed this thread on and off as i was 39 and TTC (now 40). I had also say goodbye to my little boy in April due to a brain abnormality which was pretty much incompatible with life (i had had flu earlier in pregnancy and my temperature was so high it had cut off the oxygen supply to him causing a massive injury during development in the early stages). I was 23w 6d when we terminated following a final diagnosis and prognosis after being picked up at the 20w scan. Up until then all had been well. It broke my heart.
I know there are no words i can offer other than how sorry i am, but if you do want any support from someone who has been there please PM me. Sending much love and strength.

Ps Sands do a really good leaflet which helps explain the death of a child to a sibling or cousin. 4 year olds generally dont have any awareness of what death means but there is some useful advise in here. ARC are also a good source of support.

@MellonGoose it's so hard but I'm sure you'll know the moment when it's time to tell her and you'll use your maternal love and instinct to comfort your precious daughter. She will always be loved and looked over by her little brother or sister ❤️❤️❤️ ❤️ ❤️ xxx

@Melongoose I am so sorry. That is devastating news. I wish you all the best in recovery and big hugs to get through these next few weeks x

hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,
Gizmojo: 44, DS (18 months), 1 mmc, ttc#2 4 months
Letsdothis43: 43 TTC#1 ttc for 2 years first IVF cycle in January/2019

Oh No I posted too soon before finishing thread, I am so so sorry @Mellongoose heartbreaking, sending huge virtual hugs. So sorry

@Orchid222 Thinking of you, sending hugs

to you too @Booseysmom, hope you are feeling better,

Congrats @Karrigan and @Mellongoose so over the moon happy for positive success stories on here!

@Crittertamer how are you and exciting times ahead!

AFM AF should be here in a few days (if it plays ball) and I can start IVF Stims and hopefully be out in the Czech Rep in a few weeks for EC!

Thank you for being kind. We are numb. There have been lots of tears. I have to start the process today and it won't end until Sunday night.

In answer to somebody's question, it was news out of the blue at the 20 week scan. We were told they don't check for it sooner.

I don't know how to tell our very bright 4yo. She has been so excited. I don't know how much she can understand but she has been talking to my tummy and last week made a bag of her toys to give to the baby. I feel sick with fear and guilt about it all.

hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,
Gizmojo: 44, DS (18 months), 1 mmc, ttc#2 4 months

So, AF got me today - only 8dpo. Gutted. I thought my cycles had become quite regular since I had DS but this has come completely out of the blue, I don't know what to make of it. Weird period as well, much lighter than normal and I've been having lots of night sweats in the run-up (though bbt as it should be). Could I be premenopausal already?!

So sorry to hear your news, Mellon. Thinking of you and yours x

Mellon I am so very sorry to hear this, I hope that you and your DP have all the love and support you need.

Mellon I am truly saddened to read your devastating update. There are no words, it is just simply awful. Thinking of you and your DP, and wishing you strength to face the coming days and weeks ahead x

Ps, welcome Zoe x

Oh Mellon sweetheart I’m so so sorry for you. My eyes are blurry with tears writing this, I cannot imagine your pain right now. You were so happy and then this terrible news. We are all here for you and send love wherever you are x

Oh melongoose I'm so so so sorry.. I can't imagine how hard that is for you.. sending hugs

Was this the first you knew at the 20 week scan? Can't believe it wasn't picked up earlier at the anomoly scan.. so so sorry xxx

Melongoose im so very very sorry :( x

I’ve been away from this thread for a while due to one thing and another. I just wanted to let @Mellongoose know how sorry I am to read her news. I can’t imagine how you feel. Please accept a virtual hug.

@Mellongoose - oh no! I only just caught up with the last page of this thread and have no idea what to say - that's devastating. I'm so so sorry xxx

Oh @mellongoose I'm so so sorry..my heart breaks for you and this sad news 😔 I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. All I can do is send much much love and many hugs ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,

@Realitysucks - we had two put back 😊 Thank you @KateyA!

Ohhhh @mellongoose I'm so so sorry to hear this news.. sending lots of hugs and love at this beyond dreadful time xxxxxxxx

Oh no Mellon so sorry to hear that, you must be heartbroken. I can't even begin to imagine. Sending you hugs and strength