Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

Hi all just wondering its been nearly two weeks since i miscarried ive been getting sharp little twinges in my womb mainly on right side but couple on left could i be ovulating ? Havent had a period i know they say can come between 4-6 weeks any advice be great

Thinking of you melongoose today.... x

@ZoeRoma Afraid not, this is very heavy af. I’ve also had a couple of nights of such bad night sweats that I’ve had to get up and change pyjamas and the sheets, so things aren’t looking great with my hormones one way or another

Onemorego - I find smu works best for me, as it's still quite strong but not fmu. It's usually around midday.

Mimosa - I did jump on him and temps have gone up today (although that may have been the beer) will have to wait and see. Do you think dtd on the evening of ovulation day is too late?
Wow you have a super long LP. I guess that matches up with your theory of low oestrogen, as in balance you would have high progesterone. The opposite of me! How are you finding the DHEA? Hopefully you may find next cycle a bit more balanced.

Hmmm I think your best bet would just be to get a few more dtd in before he goes just to cover all bases, then if you ovulate after he leaves then at least you have some swimmers ready.

Reality - good luck! I've got my hycosy on 31st Jan so will also be holding off dtd that cycle as I think after this months shorter cycle, ovulation will happen before the hycosy so no dtd at all! Then we'll be discussing my test results and a plan forward. Bricking it for that!

@Gizmojo I don't want to get your hopes up but are you absolutely certain that's not implantation bleeding? That can happen 6-12 days after ovulation x

Thanks for the welcome @littlemimosa!

So Ladies I’m now on pre cycle treatment and bricking it ! AF came Friday after a long TWW and a 31 day cycle 🤷‍♀️

Saline infusion and scratch scheduled for 23 jan now and all being well injections from 4th Feb as long as AF plays ball! I’m not really sure where my head is at! We have been advised not to dtd between now and scratch then nothing between then and EC if we even get that far. Is anyone else having treatment at the same time? I’m so nervous about the scratch and injections ( well all of it to be honest!)

DH is like not understanding the concept of not dtd ! Bless him it has been so difficult for the past 4 months trying to dtd on demand and now he’s like err what nothing 🤣🤣🤣 we’ve spent so many times trying to get the buggers in now trying to keep them out seems weird 🤣🤣🤣

@hmmm123 my first month of using CB Advance OVulation kit was November. I had no LH surge got to day 17 in December and again though no surge then on day 18 I got a peak smiley and day 19 so I ovulated late. Just keep testing and fingers crossed!

Everyone not everything!

So my plan has gone a bit wrong as we have only dtd twice on cd7 and 9 have been testing since then on Cb digital ov sticks and no surge and now it's cd13 just tested and nothing so that means unlikely to ovulate in next two days 14 and 15 and dh is meant to be going away with work on cd16☹️

Next month also looks unlikely as I'm away during probable fertile time

Maybe I've missed the surge this month. Can you ovulate really early in the month? Normal cycles are 24-26 days but have had odd months too.. hope not perimenopause!

How is everything else doing?

Mellongoose - thinking of you still.

Orchid - hope you’re ok too?

Cleo - strange set of events but get that man in bed!

Afm - AF arrived this morning after a 17/18 day luteal phase. It’s so tedious waiting so long after ovulation for AF! It’s the norm for me these days. Anyway, I had my obligatory cry and now I’m ok and comforted (weirdly) by the fact that it’s a new moon today too lol. I’m such a hippy as I love it when my cycles sync with the moon. Looking forward to acupuncture on Tuesday too and what else it can help me on.

hmmm123: 41 (42 in spring!) 1 dc ttc #2 6 months ish
Rose68: 43, 2 DS 9 and 6, 1mmc, ttc #3
chatbash72: 46, 2ds 21,19,17,8,5
2 mmc(9wks,6wks) 2cp ttc 2.5 yrs
Russkispy: 42 (43 this April). 1 DD. TTC#2. 1mmc. 2 failed IUIs, 1 failed IVF, no frosties
Minime2017: 41 ttc#1, 1cp, 1mc, ttc 2.5 yrs
Karryk: 41, 1cp, 2mmc (5.5wks, 8wks), 1dd (17 mths old), ttc#2, 1mc (6.5wks)
Realitysucks:40 (41 in 17 days) ttc#2, 1mc (5.5wks), 1DS (16), TTC cycle 5
KateyA: 40, ttc#1 (1 frosty), cycle
Karigan195 41 1DS 1mc April 2018. Pregnant 5+4 today 3.1,19
Littlemimosa age 42, 2DC 5&7, ttc too long!
Cleozeta, 41, 2dc, ttc #3 for nearly 2 years. 1 mmc at 10 wks, 1 cp
Onemorego2019 - age 40, DS 15, DD 10 & DS 3 ttc#4 Dec 2018
ZoeRoma, 41, 1st month TTC#2, DS aged 4 months
Crittertamer: Turned 41 last week! No DC, currently (as of 3.1.19) 15+5 pregnant with twins following second IVF cycle.,
Gizmojo: 44, DS (18 months), 1 mmc, ttc#2 4 months
Booseysmom: 46. 47 in Feb. 1 DS 5. Ttc #2 3 years

@mellongoose... I've been away the last couple days and omg I can't believe your tragic news. Words are just not enough to help you and I wish i could do more than type this. I'm just so so sorry Mellon. I'm sending you my most heartfelt sympathies for your loss xx

@mellongoose I'm so sorry. Exactly the same thing happened to me 18 months ago - spina bifida, chiari 2, talipes, just devastating. I thought I would never come back from it, only dd kept me going. Feel free to pm me, I'll be thinking of you this weekend.

Thank you. I've got a couple left so I'll try again tomorrow. Read online early afternoon is best for them?

Onemorego - keep testing daily until you get 2 solid lines. Later one may have been fainter if wee was more diluted. Also with those tests you do have to leave them a while to get an accurate result

Oh they are the £1 shop tests if that helps!

According to Ovia I'm in my fertile window, d15 of cycle. I did a cheapie LH test midday and it appeared to be just one line. Didn't wait the 10 minutes just waited a few til the sue had faded and got back to work. Left it in my handbag as at work. Looked again tonight as I went to chuck it out and there is the faintest line. I've just done another and it's only one line. What do you think is going on? Headache today and feeling generally rubbish 🙄

Haha rose, yep I'll try and jump on him later, hopefully he can perform this time!!

@Cleo, if you are ov now, it’s not too late. Just dtd ASAP! x

I think I might be ovulating today. Even though I got a peak and +opk 3 days ago, on Tuesday, my temp has not gone up yet. My boobs have been sore since yesterday which I thought meant ovulation had happened, but then today I am getting ov pains, which matches the lack of high temps more. Not sure what to think. Hoping it had already happened as DH was unable to 'perform' yesterday, meaning we have not dtd since Tuesday, so if ov is happening today then we missed the boat.

KateyA ty i have processed the loss i no things happened for a reason i wont ever forget what happened believe me never ever forget my little bean i am starting to relax trust me but i do feel time isnt on my side as much as im 40 and i never thought id want another baby but after this im more than ever sure i would to have one last baby to complete my family me and my dp are just going with the flow what happens happens i know i can still concieve naturally i no that when it is my time to get pregnant it will happen so for now im just moving on trying to get healthier in my weight loss and just enjoying the intimacy with my partner

I’ve never experienced mc so I’m sure others will guide you better but make sure you’re taking care of you. I can totally understand wanting to lose weight and ttc again but just make sure you give yourself time to process the loss and relax a bit.

Well its been a week and 4 days since my miscarraige no period or any bleeding me and my dp did the dead early hours dont know if anything will happen we just going with the flow for now what will be will be in the meantime i will be continuing to drop as much weight as i can i lost a stone in them few weeks i knew i was pregnant i was 13 stone but have put a few pounds back on which im not happy about but hay ho cant dwell on it i am hoping that everyone gets there baby sticky sticky dust very soon and its a healthy one

@melongoose im very very sorry about your heartbreaking news