Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

@Taxgirl1 are you sure that FSH is accurate? What cycle day did they do the blood test? x

@mellongoose Another one in tears here. So, so sorry that you’re going through this but what a beautiful message you still sent to all of us. You’re one amazing woman. Take care of yourself xx

I have had a couple of really short cycles - 22 and 24 days (and I was using progesterone suppositories). I went to the doctor to ask to have my FSH levels tested - she did agree to the blood test but dismissed my concerns (and was actually quite rude) on the basis that I had 4 mc last year. Turns out my FSH was 20.1. My best option might be IVF with donor egg. I'm ready to draw a line and give up. I can focus on enjoying my little boy rather than being all consumed and utterly obsessed by what I don't have.

@Cleo I think at our age that you can get one LH surge but it may not be enough to push the egg out so sometimes you can get a second surge. Equally sometimes the temp surge doesn't happen until a couple of days after ovulation. I think I read that on the ava website.

I haven't been on here for a few weeks and am just catching up with everything. @Mellongoose I am so so sorry. Words cannot express how sad I feel for you. My heart is breaking. I can only imagine how you must be feeling. I'm not surprised that you are numb. Allowing yourself to let go of all that pain is truly terrifying. I think sometimes one's brain shuts off a little to protect us. It may be worth speaking to a counsellor - does the NHS offer any bereavement counselling? It's much healthier to let it out although I know I really struggled to.

So I've completely messed up this month as we didn't do anything over the weekend as we argued😩 then yesterday I ovulated and dh went away with work .. must try harder next month

So frustrating

Good luck to everyone

@Mellongoose another one here that is so so sad about your news, you are an amazingly strong and brave woman, your husband and little one too.

@Booseysmom, @Orchid222 @Cleozeta @RealitySucks

Thank you, yes definitive answer from clinic was that if my flow is normally quite light throught to count Sunday as day 1 and Monday as Day2 but if not first full flow day is CD1 which means DH will be injecting me in the morning (Tuesday)

@crittertammer hope you are well and everything is progressing well

Hi @Michele sorry about your MMC

@mellongoose my heart is breaking for you. Sending much love to you and wishing you happiness for the future

Thank you everyone.

I took a CB this morning and was negative so will be expecting AF by the weekend.

Sending positive baby thoughts for everyone who needs it

@mellongoose sending massive virtual hugs. Am in tears as for you.

Just checking in on all, hope everyone is ok. Hi to all new members.

@Letsdothis43 you are ahead of me fingers crossed for you. My Clinic have said cd1 for them is classed as bleed day not spotting but dependant on colour.

I’ve had horrible and painful AF this month. Still full flow and no signs of letting up. Was so wiped out Friday came home from work. Just counting days to infusion and scratch now so I can get started.

Just out of interest where is everyone based are we all over the country or different countries ? I’m in Hertfordshire so wondered if anyone had used the Herts and Essex clinic before ?

Mellon- my heart is breaking for you this evening. I hope there is peace in your future. Your daughter is a lucky little girl to have such a devoted loving mum. Take care of yourself.

Cleo.. we managed it! (Dtd I mean) much to DH's surprise as he was expecting the usual 'no chance i'm feeling rubbish' response!!

Chat..sorry to hear AF got you

@Letsdothis43... thank you. Good luck with your IVF.

@Michellebops..welcome and sorry to hear of your mc. Keeping fngers crossed for you!

@Mellongoose...my deepest sympathies and I echoe others here in that it must take a huge deal of bravery to go thru this and come back here to reassure us it wasn't age related. Your msg has moved me to tears as we too have just one DC and is looking likely he will be an only too. There's a thread for one child families I sometimes post on and i find a lot of support there.
Good luck Mellon xx

Mellon .. thanks so much for your update you are being so brave and also for saying that we shouldn't be put off trying and that it wasn't age related .. that was very nice of you to give us this comfort when you are obviously suffering so much .. sending lots of love and strength to you and your lovely family xxx

Mellon I would be amazed if any of us weren’t in tears reading your post. I’m not surprised you have decided not to try again, stay strong and look after each other. Sending you loads of love and a massive hug. xxx

@Mellongoose - another one of us in tears here after reading your post. You are so strong to come here and take time to reassure us when you must be so completely devastated by what has happened. I hope you and your DH are getting lots of support from the hospital - take care of each other. Xxx

Mellon - I too am crying for you. This is so incredibly sad and heartbreaking. Give yourself time to grieve. Big hugs to you x

Orchid - good to see you. When you’re ready we’re here for you.

Mellongoose- Your Message moved me to tears. What an amazing strong person you are. I’m glad to hear you are ok physically if not emotionally. We are all here for you anytime you feel like talking. Much love.

@MellonGoose sending much much love to you ❤️ I wish you and your family a peaceful and love-filled journey of healing ✨🙏🏼

@mellongoose love to you I'm in tears here for you xxxx

Thank you all again for your messages of support. They really did help to read.

Yesterday was horrendous but it is over now. DH is in pieces and yet I cannot seem to cry at all. I chose to see baby for a short while. Utterly beautiful and a miniature of her beautiful big sister. It all feels surreal to me. DH didn't want to know the sex but says he will in time. It's just too difficult for him to cope with.

Please don't let my experience put you off trying. They keep telling me how random this was and that it was definitely not age related. We have decided (for now) that we will not ttc again. I'm 42 and DH turns 49 today. We will hold our DD close and she will be an only. Probably super spoiled and overly loved by me now, if that's possible. My littlest one will live in my soul for ever and I will always wonder what might have been.

Good luck ladies. I wish you all happy healthy pregnancies with lots of love. I will check in from time to time xx

Lets - good luck with your IVF. Exciting to have things moving forward!
Not sure about clinic rules on spotting, but in general we usually say 1st day of full flow is cd1. Hopefully your clinic will get back to you to confirm.

Welcome michelle - sorry to hear of your mmc, I had ome last year too, they really do suck. So frustrating when we are on limited time too. Fingers crossed this cycle you will get another chance.

Orchid I have been thinking about you. How are you getting on now?