Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

I used one when pregnant with DS2 & it wasn’t hard to find the hb, it was very reassuring. Once I could feel him move I didn’t need to use it & I know it should never give reassurance if you are feeling reduced fetal movement. x

Thanks @olivia12. He's a joy :)

Critter we were going to get one to ease my anxiety but have been scared to death out of it by the KicksCount campaign - def worth a read: www.kickscount.org.uk/why-we-want-home-doppler-sales-to-be-regulated
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@Rose68 funnily enough I was looking at dopplers at the weekend (after hearing about my friend's horrible loss) and in the end decided against it in case I was not very good at using it and ended up panicking myself more for no reason! Decided to book the private gender scan instead which was a similar cost and leave it to the professionals! As far as feeling movement goes ive read that often you feel less with twins as they don't have much room to really get moving about a lot so I have no idea what to expect really!

Welcome @Olivia12

@zoeRoma thank you! We can worry about the silliest things!! I guess worrying does worse than anything else....lovely to hear about your perfectly healthy boy!

@Rose68 I can't believe I am 43 most days! I'll be 44 in September. What about you? I'll look up the ubiquinol and dhea (I will read up about the scary bits..Thank you!)

We are going to dtd this Thursday/Friday/Saturday as well as after reading more about it, I think my ovulation hasn't even happened yet. I looked it up and my period length was 35 days last month.....It's sooo complicated!!! Fingers crossed for everyone xxx

Hi @olivia12, I am 43 too, so it’s good to have another 43 year old on here. How an earth did we get to 43, this is what I keep wondering.
When will you be 44? Supplement wise a lot of us are taking ubiquinol and dhea now. Dhea is a bit scary though x

@olivia12 Don't worry that you've harmed your chances through a bath and trampolining! The month I conceived, I went on a business trip the day after we DTD, so I flew, was super busy in meetings, and also drank like an absolute fish. I went on to have a textbook pregnancy and a perfectly healthy little boy. I also continued running until I was 32 weeks pregnant, did no harm whatsoever x

Hello everybody, this is my first month ttc. I am 43 and I have a 10 year old girl with my exh.

My dp and I would love to add a sibling for my daughter and his son with his ex.
I have been taking folic acid, Co-enxyme Q10, Selenium, Zinc, Vit C and E, probiotics and Vitamin B12 since September and I am starting Vit D spray as I have read that here somewhere!
I came off the pill in October and since then I have had regular periods.

We have dtd twice on Saturdays which was 11 days after my period started and I have my fingers crossed. I have no idea if my ovulation has happened or not. I have had some cramps and breast tenderness on the Sunday and yesterday. Is that ovulation? Hopefully!!!

On Sunday we have been trampolining with our littles ones and I had a bath after and now I am paranoid that the jumping and warm bath might have compromised my chances.
I won't drive myself crazy though, I have promised to myself that whatever happens, happens, we are very happy as we are, but having a baby would absolutely be the cherry on the cake.

good luck and lots of love to everyone xxxx

@Critter glad my comment made you smile ☺️ I wasn’t sure if you would feel movement slightly earlier with twins. Everyone is different, I was earlier, I think 16-17 weeks with my first and really early (14+) with my second, but I know people who haven’t felt anything until 24 weeks. Had I reached 9 weeks with my pregnancy I was going to invest in a Doppler, you can buy or hire them... it might be worth considering x

Presh, definitely test! Tomorrow morning x

Ive also been wondering what effect DHEA might be having on the opks. Could this influence it do you think? The past few months while ive been tracking i didn't have high fertility, it just went straight to peak. Which makes it all so difficult to time!!

Haha, brilliant Rose you are so right!! I'm secretly hoping that he might have just done that!!

This whole thing is such a nightmare. I freaked out about it with my husband this morning at 5am since i couldn't sleep and he was up early. Took him completely by surprise. You'd think just dtd during the month would be an easy thing right?!

Critter, i didn't feel movements until well into the 20 weeks mark. I think mine was even longer because i had an anterior placenta. Try to just focus on all the good things and the time will go. Everything looks great up until now!!

Certainly don't count yourself out yet Presh!!

@Presh12345 - don't count yourself out at 9 - 10 dpo! Sounds like you're in with a shot this month so maybe wait a couple of days then test 😊

@Rose68 - Next time tell him to have a w**k 😁

This - LOL!

No movements felt yet - from what I read 18- 22 weeks is the norm for this so not quite there yet!

Would I be silly to test? Have had 2 iui's but due to being out of the country for Christmas, I couldn't start immediately on iui#3 this cycle. According to FF, I ovulated on 30th after DTD on 24th, 26th and 29th Dec. I am so tired at the moment, hungry and have a sore achy boob. I would be 10dpo tmrw morning When I would test. Do you think I should or just count myself out this month?

@Snowie, I’m sure it’s fine, sperm definitely live for 2 days, and the day of ovulation is fine too, the egg lives for 12-24 hours I think, and some sperm can get to it in 30 mins (I think). I think it’s better not to have the long period of abstinence, but I’m sure its not a massive problem. Next time tell him to have a w**k 😁

@Critter all the signs have been very good for you right from the beginning, I don’t think you need to worry, but of course it’s completely normal for you to. Can you feel the babies move now? That can provide quite a lot of reassurance. The tww is nothing in comparison to the overwhelming anxiety I felt while I was pregnant.

Snowie it's probably fine. I wouldn't worry about that too much. Plus you may have caught the egg 2nd time anyway. We only dtd 3 days before and day of this cycle too.
I know how you feel though, we don't have time to miss a cycle.

Hope you feel better soon critter.

@Snowie3 - I think it's normal for LH surge and ovulation to be thrown out a bit for a cycle or 2 after IVF. In my first cycle after our failed IVF I ovulate 5 days later than normal and also went from low to peak fertility with no high days in between for the first first time ever. Its just the leftover IVF hormones still hanging around.

Whilst sperm quality is optimal if you did every 2 or 3 days (and definitely do this on the run up to his sperm sample for your next IVF cycle), it only takes 1 good one out of millions to do the job, and there are lots of examples on these boards of people getting BFPs after only dtd once or twice!

Thanks Karry and Cleo - you are right. I think all the bad thoughts are creeping in easier because I'm feeling so poorly at the moment. Hopefully once this horrid cold lifts a bit my mood will lift with it 😊 scared myself a bit yesterday reading miscarriage rates at 40 + even up to 20 weeks are still over 10%. Need to focus on the fact that that means that 90% are fine! Looking forward to finding out the sexes on the 19th is the next milestone 😁

Im so sorry Mellon, really heartbreaking. Thank you for taking the time to tell us. It must be so so hard. Sending you all my love.

Does anyone know anything about abstinence and sperm quality? We were only able to dtd 2 days before ovulation and on the day of ovulation this cycle but this was after at least 2 weeks of abstince since i was bleeding for 11 days after failed ivf and we didnt get close. I'm pretty sure that dtd on the day of ovulation was too late as it was late in the evening and i had the symptoms of LH peak early in the morning so I'm relying on the one we did 2 days before. But I've heard sperm quality isn't good if you are not at it regularly and am thinking of counting myself out for this month.

My ovulation took me by surprise since it was one day after spotting and i had no positive on CB digital, plus it was earlier than previous recent cycles. It's the first time the digi has ever missed it. Does anyone else use these? I'm thinking they might not be useful anymore for me and may try another brand -cheaper with the line colour shown.

So gutted that i think i missed the month. It seems so hard these days to get the timing right and dtd enough, and it is so precious :-((

Critter - I know it's easier said than done, but please try to relax. I do understand your worries with all these things happening around you, but in reality here is nothing to suggest things will go wrong with yours.
Hopefully your scan will reassure you x

Taxgirl - don't stress about the high FSH. Mine last January was 18.4, I was absolutely devestated and thought it was game over, but I started TCM accupuncture & herbs and git pregnant the next cycle. Sally miscarried at 10 weeks, but it reassured me that it's not over. I've started the TCM again since and last had my FSH checked about 3 months ago and it's gone down to 10.4
I'm not giving up yet.

Lots of hugs @CritterTamer ❤️❤️ I don't think I relaxed with dd until I was about 25 weeks along...and then I started worrying again from 33-34 weeks 🙈 it's very natural and especially when you've heard sad news. Thinking lots of positive thoughts for your little bubs. I do hope you feel better soon - it'll pass and hopefully you'll have a lovely, healthy Spring with growing bump in tow! xx

@Letsdothis43 - I'm doing OK, thanks for asking. 16 + 2 today and bump is well and truly appearing now. I'm having some anxiety issues this week if I'm honest - after Mellongoose's very sad news over the weekend, my friend who was also carrying twins lost both of her babies in a horrific miscarriage on Sunday too. She was 19 weeks and only 36 years old. Its knocked my confidence and all my earlier anxieties have returned, which is why I was so grateful to Mellon for coming in here to reassure us that some things are just random, and not aged related. I've been so stressed out that we've booked a private gender reveal scan for a week on Saturday as 20 week anomaly scan isn't for another month. Hopefully all will be well and I'll be reassured for a short while at least - and we can start choosing names after it! I'm also struggling with a terrible cold and asthma at the monent - feel so ill and struggling to breathe so can't help worrying that it's doing some harm... I always thought that seeing those 2 lines was going to make me so happy and relaxed, but apparently that was just the start of the worrying....

Sorry for the negative post - think I'm just feeling really poorly and sorry for myself at the moment - I just wish I could take something proper for it - so sick of hot honey and lemon drinks and Vicks Vaporub (which makes me throw up if I'm not careful!) - would give anything for a few Day Nurse capsules lol.

Hope you guys are all doing OK, and good luck for your first injections today Letsdothis43 - they're nothing to worry about and you'll soon be caught up in the excitement and business of the cycle - I hope it all goes well for you. @Realitysucks - sounds like you'll be starting soon too - very exciting! Good luck for your scratch and I hope it doesn't hurt too much 😊

Hmmm - I feel your pain. I’ve been there countless times and it’s so frustrating.

Taxgirl - if i were you I wouldn’t hang all of your fertility on one high fsh test. It is not necessarily a sign of your waning fertility. Mainstream doctors will say it is but lots of alternative doctors will say it’s just a sign something is out of balance. How are your cycles? How is your health? Oh and don’t forget fsh levels can vary hugely day to day, cycle to cycle.