Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

Hello all ! Newbie here.
Congrats to the lady with the bfp.

Sorry to hear about the struggles of others.
I am lucky enough to already have two dc already from a former relationship. I've been with my new DP(younger) for 18 months - he lives with us and is desperately broody...aaaaaand i never thought I'd see the day I would go for a third but here I am..

Did SMEP this cycle- unsuccessful but keen to raise the game. I'd never considered vitamin D spray- will have a look. Was also going to look into preseed.

It's nice to see other ladies here of a similar age group.

I do have one very embarrassing issue. In my twenties I caught HPV from an ex - I have not had any genital warts for 15 years ! Then I noticed just after my fertility window I have an outbreak. I'm going to have to get cyrotherapy as we cannot dtd whilst they are still present . Has anyone had experience of this ? I'm so embarrassed and between that and having raging AF am having lots of negative thoughts it won't happen for a long time. Someone reassure me please 😳😳

Thanks for the info graphic Scarlet! I loved reading it so much. Gives me hope for sure.

Cleo I see what you’re saying about your progesterone levels they do seem a bit low. But blood tests are always just a snapshot. Are you having it done again this time? I’ve been reading up a bit more on progesterone....are you stressed on a day to day basis? There’s this thing called ‘pregnenolone steal’ where stress literally ‘steals’ from your progesterone reserves to make more cortisol (the stress hormone) to attempt to counteract the stress. That’s definitely me! Am trying hard to relax more.....

Anyone else wonder about stress and its effects?

Rose I’m not sure the difference between Vit D and D3.... isn’t it the same thing??

Just progesterone

Hopefully will give me an indication whether we should try harder or give up!!

Thanks scarletrose! Love that

Hmmm what tests have you had?
I had blood tests today too, but for the miscarriages, gp wanted to do general blood tests for thyriod etc

Hi all

Checking in

So had bloods taken and will get results next week

This month is the first month in ages that dh will be around during fertile week so am going to make the most of it!!!

Good luck everyone

@Scarletrose18...Wow! Thanks so much for posting this. This is what the gp's don't seem to like advocating. They just go with their medical knowledge and don't like getting hopes up! But I think a lot of what is said here is very often the case. For e.g.. I had no fertility treatment, had 2 mcs then conceived at 40. I wasn't even taking folic and had a v low abnormality score. You could say I was lucky but I had a healthy bmi back then. ..creeping up now and I can't conceive dc2 for love nor money!!

Hi guys, im not 40, so this is a totaly random comment ... but I have just came across this little factual info picture on pinterest, remembered seeing your group before and felt I should share it. Hope thats ok.
Sending lots of baby dust! 💕

@Helbelle75....welcome and sorry to hear of your mc. I had 2 then conceived DS at 40 and had him 3 months off 41. Ttc no. 2 is harder.
@gizmojo...welcome..your story is similar to mine although you were 42 and i was 41. I'm 46 now and admit haven't tried hard enough for dc2. We're just taking it as it comes and seeing what happens.
Good luck xx

@minime2017... sorry to hear you're feeling low. Yes def have tests now. It is so hard and you're not a Debbie Downer. This is the place to come to vent and get a whole raft of support.
Good luck xx

Hi all, missed the new thread. Hi to everyone new and yes massive congrats to Critter!

@minime definitely worth getting tested! Some of my friends have been down the path and it’s not happened then at 42 and 46 it happened naturally when they had given up all hope!

I’m 40 And of the view that I am going to go down Clinic route in January if it doesn’t work I’ve done everything I can. I will know I’ve given it my best shot. Someone posted before, some of us spend our whole adult lives trying not to get pregnant then get here. That is so me ! Just wish I’d met my DH a few years ago but life is as it is and all I can do is hope and fingers crossed !

Minime. Do get tests done. It will ease your mind that you are doing everything you can. At 42 you are just about young enough to give this a good go before chances drop. (I say that honestly as a 43 year old who set 42 as my "must be pregnant by" date). You sound so sad, I'm so sorry you're feeling defeated. It is normal to feel that way but don't give up!

Minime - if you have no children, might it be worth getting tests? It might also help you understand why your pregnancies are not sticking and there may be something you can do about it. I think it could be really worth your while.
I totally understand your feelings about what should have been. I should be having a c-section next week, if I hadn't mc in May. And yep, it always hits harder when af is here

Mimosa - I had my progesterone level checked in January, before my mmc. It was 28.4 which the gp claimed to be in normal range, although from researching it was actually low.
Thank you for the links, some interesting stuff there. I didn't realise vit E was important too? Time to crank up the supliments!

Minime - I’m so sorry.
Maybe it is worth looking into ivf? Look how well Critter has done. Egg donation could be something to consider further down the line too. I do understand it’s not for everyone though.
Are you taking lots of supplements and having acupuncture? I conceived within a few weeks of starting acupuncture.
Sending lots of love xxx

Cleo we have watched friends go through unsuccessful IVF and younger friends have success with IUI and Clomid. No testing done as we conceived twice, just havent managed to hold onto the bean. Now approaching 42 I wonder is there any point looking into testing. Feeling despondent and almost fully resigned to us being a childless couple, even though it breaks my heart, especially as I should be nursing a 2/3 week old baby had I not mc. Sorry for being a Debbie Downer, blame it on post af hormone dip. As ov date approaches I'll perk up and regain perspective and optimism. You are all so determined and positive which keeps me determined too, it's just so sodding hard sometimes.

Was there an answer to whether vitamin D spray should be vitamin D or vitamin D3? x

also this;

parenting.firstcry.com/articles/how-to-increase-progesterone-to-get-pregnant-top-10-ways/

FAO Cleo

Just reading this;

thepelvicexpert.com/blog/5-foods-to-help-enhance-fertility-and-progesterone-production

Orchid - thanks for the new thread hun

Snowie - I can see that line for sure! Let's hope your line gets stronger over next few days x

Welcome to all newbies. It never ceases to amaze me how many people are ttc over 40:-)

Re vitamin D - I've read the same about the spray, it basically absorbs better. I have the H& Barrett one.

Cleo - have you had your progesterone tested? Do you take magnesium and vitamin C/eat lots of citrus fruits? I ask because both are supposed to boost prog. Magnesium can also be bought at H&B in a spray but you put it directly on your skin and it absorbs straight into the blood stream.

Mini - have you had any tests done? How are your cycles?

Sorry if I’m being a bit quiet at the moment Ladies, I’m still trying to come to terms with everything.
Minime - I cant remember if you have any children already? If not, is it worth looking into fertility treatment? Lots of love xxx

Are you joining the 'clinic camp' minime? Or just going with the flow? So many of us have been on here for years now with no luck

Cleo, most definitely the same here. Surrounded by pregnant people in every aspect of life- family, friends and work. I just have to smile and get on. While I'm genuinely delighted for them all, some of whom have had difficulties too, I feel incredibly sad for myself and dh ... which sounds selfish.

Perra - interesting, you brown spotting story sounds like mine. So odd! Hopefully mine will be just a one off too.

I liked doing the vit d spray yesterday. Made a nice change from pill popping!!

Welcome gizmojo - congrats on your ds, fingers crossed for #2

Minime - I always feel like that when af comes too, then a couple of days in I start thinking of the next ov and then what I can do to improve the next attempt! My granny pill pot is getting very full.

Oooh snowie, I see that and I'm not the best at seeing squinters! Thanks for sharing. This group loves a BFP to keep us going!
About the brown spotting. I had it once on a freak cycle (half way between now and my MMC/ERPC back in March). The spotting was on day 22, of course I got all excited, and period came 24 hours later on day 23. Until then I was a 28 day cycle girl so it was an odd one.
I knew about the vitamin D but not the reason for the spray. It makes sense as you give children the drops which must absorb the same way. I am really going to step it up on the Vitamin D. I already do Ubiquinol, an expensive fertility vitamin, EPO to ovulation, omega 3, and a mega VitB 100 pill (the latter a bit sporadically as I worry about the crazy high dosage long-term).

Thanks for the new thread Orchid. Snowie I definitely see a line. Fingers crossed for you.
Interesting re Vit D. Ive read about it too and might order some on Amazon. Just when Id decided to give up on it all thanks to yet another af. So fed up with the while thing, want my life back but giving up is so final.